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05-06-2017
03:34 PM
Conflict has aways been a scary thing for me. I've always been an anxious person, constantly overthinking things to the point of feeling depressed and sad. I create situations in my head before they've even happened and I get so paranoid that I convince myself somebody is angry at me when in reality, they usually aren't. The minute my friend doesn't sound 100% cheerful or interested when speaking to me I immediately jump to conclusions and think that it's something to do with me, or something I've done. I am obsessed (my life pretty much revolves around it) with making sure we remain on good terms because every time we have been in a fight, it's usually her who has started it and honestly, it has really traumatised me. I am an incredibly sensitive person, so it takes me a while to get over things that others can forget about quickly and easily. I feel sick when I think about those times we were fighting, or the possibility of another one arising. I have to get over this because I know conflict is a part of life, but it's really hard for me to stop overthinking or caring. I need a way to stop thinking people are always mad at me, it makes me feel so scared and vulnerable. Does anybody else have this? Or have any tips?
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05-06-2017
04:24 PM
My biggest suggestion would be to go counselling. A psychologist can help identify problems with your thinking patterns that create your stress. It sounds like conflicts are very difficult for you and you need to identify why. As you said, conflicts must happen in life, what do they mean to you? How did you handle conflicts and how these experiences help you to handle conflicts in future? I consulted my psychologist how I should get on better with my supervisor and those were the questions she asked me. She also emphasised that once I work out the solutions for conflicts, then I need to stop thinking about them. It is hard, but you need to "discard" your emotions so you don't get obsessed with conflicts. Perhaps these will help you.
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05-06-2017
05:34 PM
Hi ac1991, welcome back to the forums and thanks for posting again.
Just a heads up that you have some unanswered replies on the last thread you posted on the forums - it would be great if you could acknowledge them when you have a moment:
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You're more likely to get responses here on the forums if you take the time to reply to members who have reached out to support you.
Just a heads up that you have some unanswered replies on the last thread you posted on the forums - it would be great if you could acknowledge them when you have a moment:
Low again, body image - tips?
You're more likely to get responses here on the forums if you take the time to reply to members who have reached out to support you.
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05-06-2017
08:51 PM
Hello and thankyou for the advice, I do agree and think counselling would be beneficial. Problem is, my family do not agree with me seeing anybody about any issues I may have. I have seen a few psychs and counsellors, all causing more problems than solving due to my family not being on board with it. It is helpful to be able to ask myself the questions you have sent. I definitely agree, I think getting to the route of the problem will be a step toward curbing this fear. Thanks so much
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