financial problems that are creating conflict

TEss01 · ‎14-09-2016

I'm only an adolescent and I'm still unemployed. I got caught up in the wrong crowd and can't come out of that easily but almost there. my struggle is that I stole lots of my parents hard earns money. my parents don't talk to me anymore and said they won't till I get employed. my problem is I CANNOT FIND A JOB ANYWHERE!!! what do I do 😫😫😫

BballJ · ‎14-09-2016

Hi Tess,

Welcome to the forums firstly.

I think a good start here just to point out is you understand you may of made some mistakes and are trying to fix them, I always try and look for positives in situations so I think that's one.

Have you tried going to a recruiting agency to help look for a job? they can generally get you set up with a resume and start looking for suitable jobs to get you started. I'm not sure of your age but a google search for recruitment agencies may be able to help you find one local to you. You may be able to try the Department of Human Services as well, I had a look on their website and they assist job seeker in special circumstances, I'm obviously not 100% sure what your circumstances are exactly but that may be an option to call.

Hopefully that may help you.

Please post back as much as you wish.

Jay

white knight · ‎14-09-2016

Hi Tess, welcome

A few things on this.

firstly, unlike your parents generation, jobs aren't apply one day start the next. They have all managed to complicate this to introduce a complicated process.

You are trying, to worry about it is causing you upset and anxiety. Keep trying but stop worrying as the worry won't help you at all.

Your parents reaction is understandable but there is an element I find alarming. By telling you that you need to get a job before they will have you back in their lives amounts to blackmail. I've had that done to me as well. It is an unpleasant feeling.

I suggest to you to understand their degree of disappointment and anger. To express directly to them your remorse. But to place a condition on you as to their contact with you is not going to help the situation.

I have a saying "I'll do my very best. Anyone who believes I can do better is unrealistic and unhelpful".

If this means drifting away until you do get work so be it. You will get a job if you never give up. Make it your number one goal....

Tony WK