Feeling isolated

Noname1995
Community Member
I've been struggling to feel connected to friends or family and it's beginning to eat away at me. I failed out of uni this last semester, feel so detached from friends, and even more depressed from weight gain caused by medication to treat my depression. Any suggestions, please.
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Zeal
Community Member

Hey Noname,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling disconnected and depressed. Could you tell me a little more about what led to your current situation? It sounds as though your uni studies were affected by your mental health. I've been in this situation before. Uni counselling services can be of great help. Special provisions can be made for people with diagnosed mental health conditions (if this applies to you) and other difficulties. Registering with them is worth doing if you go back to uni. One-on-one general counselling appointments should be available and free too, if you continue as a student in the future. I'm sorry if you know all this already - it's important to mention in case you haven't been in touch with these types of services.

If you don't mind me asking, have you been diagnosed with depression, and is that what the meds are for? It's important to check-in regularly with the doctor who prescribed your medication, and getting a referral to a mental health professional is an option.

Feeling disconnected feels lonely, and I can relate to this. Is there a family member who you feel most able to talk to? If you'd like tips on talking about mental health with loved ones, this site is helpful: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/have-the-conversation/talk-about-it#findwords

I hope this forum is a safe space for you to come to 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal

MsPurple
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi noname and welcome to the bb forums.

Sorry to hear your stress has caused you to struggle to connect with friends and family. I know when I am anxious or down I struggle to make contact and struggle to concentrate for a converstation. This is quite normal, but I know how frustrating it is.

Have you talked to a GP about your depression/low moods? If not I suggest doing so. You can book in to get a mental health care plan. This entitles you to 6-10 free/low cost psychology sessions. You say you are 1995 is that correct? I am assuming you are under 25. There is a youth mental health service called headspace. They have some psychologists and counselors if you haven't found one already. I found it beneficial going through them because I didn't have a GP and couldn't disccuss it with any of the ones at my local practice so I did it with a headspace GP.

Have you ever heard of a chronic disease management plan or enhanced primary care plan (EPC)? Well if you have a condition for over 3-6months you are entitled to get 5 subsided allied health appointments (if you have had depression for over 6 months you would be entitled). You can use this to see a dietitian, physiotherapist, exercise physiologist etc, however your doctor (with your input) will decide how many of each you get (you get 5 total so it can be used to see on allied health or across a few). A dietitian is a nutrition specialist that maybe able to help you come up with a healthy eating lifestyle and a physiotherapist or exercise physiologist can help you with safe and effective exercises. It can be hard managing stress, medication related side affects, appetite changes etc that come with depression. Maybe seeing an allied health practitioner as recommend by your doctor maybe helpful. Have a chat to them if you think this is something you want to use.

I hope some of these suggestions have been useful. I only found out about EPC in the last year.

MsPurple
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
I forgot to add. If you ever want to go do Uni again all universities have a service called Disability services. If you have a mental illness (has to be diagnosed) you are eligible to join this service. They can help you come up with an academic plan to help you along with your studies. I found them quite helpful with my degree, however I didn't find out about the service until my last year of uni. Yes they tell your course co-coordinator you are a part of disability services but they do not know what for (as far as they are concerned you could be diabetic, or a family carer) and they don't ask. This could be something to look into if you are considering trying uni or tafe again in the future

Jessicatherese94
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member
Hey Noname, do you think there's a way for you to feel more connected to friends/family at this point in time? Maybe you could organise a coffee date with a friend or chat with a family member about how you feel. As for medication, there are many available and you could maybe find one that agrees with you a little more. I definitely agree with MsPurple about disability services, I use it with my university and they really help you with extensions and support during exam time. Please hang in there, things do get better. Let us know how you go over the next few days.