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Caring too much and then not enough
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Some days I care too much about everything and worry about everything, yet other days I don't care and I do stupid things.
I hate having no control over anything. I snap at everyone, I burst into tears for no reason other than I feel sad and I have no desire to be around people.
I'm really tired and I can't tell anyone or they will think I'm not grateful. Does anyone else feel like this or am I the only one? If you do, does anything help.
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Hi TF, welcome
There are some really great positives in communicating with people. We get care, fun, laughter, bouncing information at each other and sharing. Some cant get enough of this to feed their appetite for others company. But, for some there are downsides.
I've spent most of my adult life planning and implementing ideas on how to get the right balance for me. And you can for you with your own balance.
For me when in my early 20's I tried escaping from society altogether. Took off with my motorcycle to the mountains and lasted 5 days. Then did it again and lasted 3 days. Clearly it wasn't going to work out hunting and gathering in the bush away from everything. It was harder than I thought.
Lets look at this a little deeper. You need bare essentials like medications (includes ointments, bandaids, pain killers and bandages. You need changes of clothes, food and cleaning items like soap and cooking utensils. All that takes money but you wont get a cent if you don't have an address. With no contact ability for Centrelink= no income. And you are required to get a job. So what was the answer?
The half way point. A small cottage in the country far enough away from people to feel alone, close enough to feel help is nearby. Close enough to a mid size town for medical and supermarket and close enough to get a job in a country city.
In my opinion to seek out this lifestyle you get the benefits of both worlds.
You'll need to set yourself some goals...short medium and long term. Any potential future partner would need to be compatible eg like the same ideas.
One local friend of ours did this as we did. She got a job as an animal handler at a local animal refuge and loves her life now.
Hope that idea helps.
Tony WK
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Hey TrippyFlippy
Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out 🙂
I'm sorry to hear that you're having a tough time at the moment. What you're feeling is super super common. I encourage you to check out the 'young people' section and have a read of the posts. Often when people are struggling (myself included) we can think that we are the only ones but that's not true at all.
The link is here if you want to check it out - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/young-people
You said that if you tell someone people won't think you're grateful - how do you know? It's not uncommon to be feeling this way and there's lot of different people to talk to. Different people have different things that work for them too. Maybe you could try telling your family or teachers (or whoever you trust) and see what they think? If they say that you're ungrateful then that's not your fault and they're wrong 🙂
What sort of stuff do you do when you're feeling this way? Sometimes distraction can be really helpful - maybe playing music or getting some exercise to release some stem can help us feel a bit more in control.
If you want to chat more you could post again, or you're welcome to chat online here - https://www.eheadspace.org.au/
Hope it helps 🙂
