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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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curious and unsure why?

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Hi all, back on posting again. This time I'm curious and unsure. As some of you may have read about 4days ago. I was not in a stable mental state toe even want to take my meds. I was very upset and distress and felt like there was nothing left in the world and had bad bad thoughts, I was thinking of going into emergancy but was scared and didn't know what to do. Well i managed to get hold of a one friend who I knew I could rely on to take me into emergancy so I wasn't by myself. We ended up talking for awhile and went to visit quite a few friends of his. By the end of the night I ended up going home. Not really sure on what I was thinking or what was going on in my head apart from I know I'm prob not going to take my meds. The next day and up until this day and onwards I haven't taken a single med but iv been managing to be feeling better than what I did.... How is this????

Need Some Serious Help right now

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Iv just gotten more meds today, I think I'm sooo low n depressed I don't think I'm even in the mind set to even want to take them my self I no they will be avoided. I'm so not right...N not in a good mind set place I think I should take my self into ... View more

Think I could start to go insane

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Whatsnhappening to me in this world. Finding things a real struggle not sure how much weight I can talk before I drop. Just want things to go back to what life used to be like before all this. I fewl no one in this world can or really understands what iys like to be me now. Im not the person I used to be I dont know whoI am or becoming but im not liking it. Been stuck in this place (room) flat. Forndays dont know what to do starting to feel like I could lose it. whats happening to me:(

Am I depressed

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I have just gone into a private high school from a public primary school and found it really hard to fit in as most of the kids had been to the primary school that is part of the high school. I find it really hard to sleep and am really angry and cry a lot. I have done a lot of online checklists including the beyond blue one and they all said I am depressed. I answered honestly. My parents know I have had a hard time at school, however I find it hard to tell them I think I'm depressed. My school problems are purely social because I have got an A in everything so far. I also think I am finding it hard at school because my best friend from primary school came with me to this school yet hates the people I hang around with and tells me a lot. How am I just sad or depressed from this information.

lonely

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In the last month and a bit. Iv recently just broke up with my boyfriend after being in a 11 Month relationship. I really fell for him and adventurly gave him my heart as I have always been protective of my self and very very cautious of who I meet, he was the only person out of all other relationships iv had, actually open up to. We still talk and we'll we are "sort of friends" however there's one thing that really really gets on my nerve. When ever he is around or we go out whenever I see him he cannot u or just one second not not be on his phone texting others, doesn't matter where we are or what we're doing he can't just for five minutes not be on his phone. He works and does have a few friends and can talk to anybody, which its easier for him to be occupied. However I myself don't really have anybody to talk to or hang out with most of my days I do try and get out and go for walks or something, there isn't much around either where I live and I don't get much financialy, so in between looking for a job most of my days are spent at home all day all long, I know this isn't good for my depression etc. But I do find it hard to find things to do. Expecially by myself and even when I don't have anyone to get out with and meet others or do stuff, I am lonely and I dont know what to do. Am I jealous or over thinking things too much???

Fear

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Network has been annoying today. Apologies if this is up twice. I have recently attempted self harme, as trying to get support/help from my ex after an 11 month relationship and well as friends all I wanted was some help and support and just for him to come back so I could talk, this whol thing started because he had just being sitting there on his phone texting otheres so id gotten a bit upset and got up and did my own thing, after awhile of him sitting there texting other people he got up and said he was leaving, I said I was unhappy with him but he didnt hear me, I got upset, and called him back tomask if he could come back and talk, later on im had warned him that I was destressed and could likely self harm as so called "friend" due to the fact that I was in destress with everything that was happening all he could respond with was, saying I was threatning him when it wasnt a threat for startes and verbLly abusive and saying that if I want to mess up my life then go ahead. Two hrs later he decideds to rock up but already too late and I wasnt home, he was then saying how much of a waste of time he spent just then coming around, I tryed to explain to him that when someone is in destress and also trying to deal with depression and grief of the bracke up, that not all people have 2 hrs to wait that as bad as this may sound but some people could die in 2hrs not even 2 hrs, he clearly didnt care. This is now the 3-4 times I have selfe harmed/attempted, I know listening to other people stories of their ralertives and hearing about mick jaggers wife who had comitted suicied, and know that my sister has as well, I have a fear that Iwill be unable to over come this that it will be too over powereing. I do feel at times that my mind and mentaly its to over powering for me. I have told my theripest this that even though I know taking medication is the best thing for me its my best friend and know what can happen when I do or dont, I know that I have experienced this even on my meds that, I do have been inconsitant in taking medication and I feel that im needing abit more support than my medication I do have that fear of I know how easy it is to just to overdose as I know that what my sister nearly did, but I know howeasy it can be, as welll as I have twice perposed to be in a pysc ward because of how brain washing and over powering this can be but for me with the fear of not being able toover come this. As I am trying too stay strong but I do feel I may need more support or consistant support.Is this normal to be feeling and thinking these things?????Bec 800x600 beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Sad all the time

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Hi everyone, I'm not usually one to do this sort of thing and share my problems as I'm scared of burdening people, but I feel like I can't talk to anyone because most people I find either get sick of me expressing my sadness so I keep it covered up now. I have dropped out of uni twice as I found both courses weren't for me, but now I don't know what I'm doing with my life and I feel so lost. I've been feeling this way for about a year now and it hurts me so much because I remember the happy girl I once used to be, now I look at myself and I'm disgusted.. the person I am now is unmotivated, cries for no reason and I just feel like there is no point to anything I do. I have been going through this "rough patch" for over a year and it doesn't seem to be getting better. Some days it's like I'm having a breakdown and everything feels difficult. I don't know what to do anymore, does it ever get better? I'm only 20 but I feel as I'm just wasting my life which sounds weird but I'm so lost with everything and looking at my friends and brother and sister, everyone around me is doing so well but I am just unsure about everything.

board, lonely, not really that motivated.

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I know its probably more than once that iv posted on here and it takes me a bit to build up the courage to continue posting my thoughts and what goes on but i do get affraid of being too needey So today I wake up and im back to reality, that feeling of the same feeling that I had the day before and the daybefore and everyotherday. Wake up nothing to look forward to no one to meet up with or talk to board lonely tired after awhile. Everyday same rutine of being at home all day long with nothing and no one. becoming very lonely board tiredish and not really motivate. But motivated enough to get up and feed myself and do the things and go to places that I need to do and be. I feel like im in this dark visious spiral that I cant get out of. When will it end when can I see the light again. Trying to find a job but I know that can take time, and theres nothing around. I dont know what to do with my self theses days little lone I feel like iv lost the person who I used to be and not sure who I am or whom I am becoming. I just dont know what to do. But I know that there are others in the same boaypt that I would like to share my stories with and support but I also dont want to be a pain with all my issues and problems I may face..... Bec x

please

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Hello. I am not really sure what i am supposed to say exactly. But i am sad. I have suicidal thoughts like most but i dont want to die so i know i will not do anything drastic. but this doesnt make it easier. i still think about dying. every where i am. i have moments regardless of how happy i am at that point, i suddenly have a brief thought of ending it all at that moment because then it wont be a sad moment. i know it will. i have sat and thought about this long and hard. but right now i just wanted to voice how i am feeling.i get panic attacks quite easily and they upset and embarrass me that i can not control my emotions well enough. My mother is dead. my baby brother is dead. all i have is my sister. i love her. she is the only thing i live for. i dont have friends, well ones i havent bought anyways because thats what i do. i buy my friends. i have a boyfriend and he is great but he is just a guy and it wont last, he will turn against me. i dont like the rest of my family. they hurt me too much, i do not trust them. I feel like they will be the end of me. i feel trapped. i feel like i will always have to depend on people and they will always use it to put me in my place. i am useless, lazy, selfish, waste of space, sly, idiot, stupid, dumb, evil, disrespectful, disgrace to my mothers memory, tedious, and shady, thats the new word. reading every page from people to help me cope. wish my mother was here to help me. to stop this hurt. i am emailing because i just want someone to tell me am not all those things and more. that i am going to make my mother proud. that i am not a bad person. beyondblue’s clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636.

Feeling trapped, isolated and empty.

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Hello everybody. My name is Alex, 20 years old and a student. I've never been one to express my innermost feelingslings to anyone, but I feel as if I don't seek some help at this point in my life, I might just continue down the road I feel I am currently on- which I fear will lead to an ultimately fruitless existence. I don't really know where to begin. I don't have any real friends. I have two people who I keep in contact with, but even still, I don't feel like they value me too much. I honestly don't know how I got here. I think I am a nice person, but socialising has always been hard for me for some reason. I am an inherently shy person, bit I think it was the fact that I have been bullied for pretty much half my life at school that has really turned me into the 'person' I am today. One thing that people always used to call me was "emotionless", granted I have never been the most expressive person, but this just really cut me deep for some reason. I don't know why but it literally ripped my heart out being called that. It continued for so long that I think I just gave up trying to prove to myself that I wasn't what people were calling me, and just sorta died inside. Once I left secondary school the group of friends I had from there went their seperate ways and moved on, but I don't feel like I have. I don't know if I can, and that is what is really scaring me and making me feel depressed. I still feel like a victim of the bullies I encountered those years ago and can't seem to move on. I don't speak to people at uni because I don't think they will give a stuff about what I have to say, and I don't feel like I fit in with society at large. I feel like a fly on the wall whenever I walk outside my house. I can be myself at home, but when I step outside I feel like an observer just witnessing people live their lives, while not really living any life of my own. As such I feel disconnected from society, and very, very isolated. That is why I brought up the bullying, and how people called me "emotionless"- because it ties in with how I'm feeling like an observer, rather than an actual part of society. I know this probably sounds muddled and may not make much sense, but I really just want to pour my heart out to someone at this point in time. Ive never felt comfortable talking to anybody to how I feel but I would mean the world if there was someone willing to listen for a bit. Thanks.

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Am I depressed replies: 1

lonely replies: 4

Fear replies: 4

Sad all the time replies: 3

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