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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Sezza94 How to cope with my anxiety?
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I'm new to this forum type thing but thought I'd give it a try. I suffer from severe anxiety which causes me to be depressed. I have anxiety attacks all the time which causes me to miss work and other commitments. I find it hard to breathe, get reall... View more

I'm new to this forum type thing but thought I'd give it a try. I suffer from severe anxiety which causes me to be depressed. I have anxiety attacks all the time which causes me to miss work and other commitments. I find it hard to breathe, get really hot and most of the time throw up as a result. I see a psychologist and am on medication but I'm just having trouble finding suitable coping strategies for when I have an attack. I was hoping someone might be able to make some suggestions. Thank you.

guest_13 Not sure if just extremely apathetic and lazy, or just who I am?
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Hi all, I'm new here and I'm just having some conflict on whether I should seek help or not for depression/anxiety. I know your probably thinking "just go there, they'll diagnose you and see if it is or isn't" but the thing is, no matter how much pro... View more

Hi all, I'm new here and I'm just having some conflict on whether I should seek help or not for depression/anxiety. I know your probably thinking "just go there, they'll diagnose you and see if it is or isn't" but the thing is, no matter how much problems I have, I believe I'm just extremely apathetic and lazy. Ive lived like this for about a year or so, so no matter how much I look back and acknowledge how depressed I am, my lack of emotion and feeling numb, my isolation and withdrawal for everything and just my constant lack of interest or motivation with anything, I still can't acknowledge that something is wrong, for some reason. Maybe it's just that since it's been like this for a while, I believe its who I am and it's just my personality? Is it just me that has this issue? I did talk to a counsellor but my self-doubt and the belief that I was making up everything I said made it too hard to get my idea across, because I just can't trust my own word

guest159 Anxiety First Timer, Scared.
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Hi everyone this is my first time posting on beyond blue, since this is my first time suffering from anxiety. I am 18 years old, male and working part time in my family business. These couple of months have been extremely hard for me because I've had... View more

Hi everyone this is my first time posting on beyond blue, since this is my first time suffering from anxiety. I am 18 years old, male and working part time in my family business. These couple of months have been extremely hard for me because I've had health issues that i kept to myself, and googled a lot of info about it, and i was self diagnosing myself with a lot of terrible illnesses. Finally, i opened up to my family and they took me to the doctor for those issues and my doctor has referred me to a specialist and now i am maintaining the health problems i had. The main issue now is that i am experiencing a lot of random muscle pain, chest pain, problems swallowing, back of head pain, and lost about 9 kilo and weigh 60kilo. I'm seeing a psychologist next week about it, since doctors have told me this is anxiety im going through. Everyday i say to my parents about my pains i feel everyday because im constantly thinking about the pains because it's always there, EVERYDAY since all these health issues started. Also these last couple days i've had like rabbit poo stoles everytime i go toliet. not sure if this is part of the stress? please HELP. sorry if i didn't go into depth im not the best typer

Epiphany101 I'm at the end of my line.
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For the last couple of weeks, my life has taken an unexpected turn. I've given up on the things I used to enjoy or at least I've come to understand that those are situations I don't want to stick myself into, I've isolated myself from friends and soc... View more

For the last couple of weeks, my life has taken an unexpected turn. I've given up on the things I used to enjoy or at least I've come to understand that those are situations I don't want to stick myself into, I've isolated myself from friends and society mostly...but most of all I'm just feeling tired of life.I want to die and I don't feel any negative thought about it, I've given it a good try and have realised that I don't have a place in this world. Why am I saying this? Because I need my choice to be understood and accepted as my own. Rob beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Downlow Girlfriend with depression pushing me away
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Hey guys, this is my first post sorry if it's something you've heard beforeso my girlfriend of 10 months has been diagnosed with depression about 2 months ago she also has type 1 diabetes, addisons disease and hypothyroidism, everything was going gre... View more

Hey guys, this is my first post sorry if it's something you've heard beforeso my girlfriend of 10 months has been diagnosed with depression about 2 months ago she also has type 1 diabetes, addisons disease and hypothyroidism, everything was going great talking everyday messaging all the time seeing each other a lot and then one day 2 weeks ago she just didn't reply or answer her phone the next morning she said she just wanted to be alone, I told her that I felt really worried after a couple more days I said that it was making me miserable that she is shutting me out she replied just move on be happy I'm too stuffed up, I told that's not what I want since then we have spoken once, I've been trying to make her feel special sending her messages telling her that it's ok to feel how she feels and that I'm always here for he and I sent her some flowers I just don't know what to do should I just leave her alone until she is ready to talk or should I keep trying to help her feel better?

LadyE university woes
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It's my first year of uni, I'm studying online and I though that was supposed to make it easier. I also work part time, my job is an hour away and I always feel very tired after work. I feel like I won't have time to do enough research unless I give ... View more

It's my first year of uni, I'm studying online and I though that was supposed to make it easier. I also work part time, my job is an hour away and I always feel very tired after work. I feel like I won't have time to do enough research unless I give up everything (sleep, friends, family, boyfriend, work, hobbies) but uni (which I feel is pathetic as I'm only doing one unit)! I'm not enjoying my course, primary teaching, I find it interesting but hard to understand the assignment. I'm afraid I won't be a good teacher because I just passed my first unit. I'm afraid to tell my family, friend and boyfriend, I don't want to be a failure

I_D_T Did someone say NERVOUS?
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Today I am really struggling to deal with the overwhelming sense of nervousness I am experiencing. I have tried to keep away from others today at uni because I feel so irritable and don't feel I can make the effort to make polite conversation. I'm te... View more

Today I am really struggling to deal with the overwhelming sense of nervousness I am experiencing. I have tried to keep away from others today at uni because I feel so irritable and don't feel I can make the effort to make polite conversation. I'm teary and restless and don't know what to do. I would normally go the gym when I feel like this, which I probably will do, but I have a history of an eating disorder driven by my anxiety, so I have to be careful. I can't concentrate enough to do my uni work and this stresses me out more. Sometimes I just wake up feeling like this and all I can do is hope it goes away soon. I do mindfulness on occasion but find it hard to stick to a routine. I will try some breathing techniques to see if that works. Have others found something that helps them when they feel like this?

Rivers Easy Tafe course
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Hey, I won't go into my backstory but i'm a young person who suffers huge problems with depression, anxiety and most of all Addiction. Anyway. My family is full of very hard workers, and I'm unemployed with no real eduction. I've gone into many cours... View more

Hey, I won't go into my backstory but i'm a young person who suffers huge problems with depression, anxiety and most of all Addiction. Anyway. My family is full of very hard workers, and I'm unemployed with no real eduction. I've gone into many courses before but thrown myself into really hardcore full-time computer courses with students who don't want to be there and lecturers who don't know what they are talking about (Most the time). I do well for the first few months then anxiety and depression hit me and I fall into my addiction. This leads to a cycle in which i become even more depressed and run away from my problems even more and makes my depression and addictions so much worse!! My Family is really keen for me to do more study. I told them the other day that I wasn't fond of the idea and they were not happy. I really just want to do an easy course. Something to give me some routine and to keep my family happy, but isn't going to stress me out and add to my depression! Thankyou!!

stevezissou This is the first time I've spoken about this...
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I dont know why i feel like this everything is near perfect in my life. im finding it hard to control my sadness in public which is making me extremely introverted, which is only compounding the issue. I have forgotten how to have fun from an early a... View more

I dont know why i feel like this everything is near perfect in my life. im finding it hard to control my sadness in public which is making me extremely introverted, which is only compounding the issue. I have forgotten how to have fun from an early age The negativity in my brain causes me to have headaches everyday as the sadness consumes my time. I need to get some goddamn work done but i have no motivation and find myself rejecting plans which try to help me. I have no idea what to do with myself this is probably not enough information but i dont really know what to say peace and love from SteveZissou

McarP I'm beginning to dislike my friends
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I've recently left school and have started at university. Lately I've been feeling more and more distanced from my high school friends, which I know is a common occurrence. I have made some friends at uni, but none I'd consider to be good friends or ... View more

I've recently left school and have started at university. Lately I've been feeling more and more distanced from my high school friends, which I know is a common occurrence. I have made some friends at uni, but none I'd consider to be good friends or people that I can discuss these sorts of things with. The thing is, I've started to feel something like hate towards my friends - especially to my best friend. I'm growing increasingly intolerant of them, and am talking with them less and less. Every time I do have a chat with them I feel agitated and angry, almost frustrated. When I'm with my friends I'm extremely irritable. I've always enjoyed my own company, but I'm starting to feel increasingly lonely. Which is funny, because I'm the one pushing them away! I know something as trivial as this probably belongs in a teen magazine advice column, but I figured I'd throw it out there to see if any other people have dealt with the same issue and have any advice. Thanks,