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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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drwsy i feel like i've lost my only friends due to anxiety/depression. any advice is appreciated.
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my first post here o . O i'll just get to the point. late 2014 is when my mental illnesses became prominent, 2015 was living hell for me, i was still in school (year 9) and i barely passed the year. in 2016 i flat out refused to go back to school (i'... View more

my first post here o . O i'll just get to the point. late 2014 is when my mental illnesses became prominent, 2015 was living hell for me, i was still in school (year 9) and i barely passed the year. in 2016 i flat out refused to go back to school (i've always been scared of school, and hate it with a burning passion) and eventually i got enrolled in distance education. about more than halfway into the year. my anxiety is absolute garbage, especially since i basically spent most of the year in my house. i also have severe depression, i was taking medication for that, but stopped around halfway thru the year. and i also have brain fog so i feel like crap all the time. but oh i'm getting off of track i''ve been in the house for a long time as i said, my only two friends who rly clicked w me (i'm not trusting of friends anymore...i used to have a bunch of friends in primary school, i loved them but they never contacted me. ever. after getting out of school. so these two friends, i in a nutshell feel they don't care baout me anymore, like they've moved on. i don't blame them..i'll say about when i met them irl this year first time my best friend (not anymore..) sammy visited my house for a sleepover. around 11pm my anxiety swept me, i needed to be alone. i asked if she could go home, she was alright with that. (also she suffers from severe depression and anxiety as well. she's gotten way better now.) other time tht was fairly recent, i saw my friend sammy and th eother one bynesha. it was alright. a few days ago i went to sammys bday party, a sleepover. i felt so alone. i knew everyone there from school but...idk. sammy was barely payign attention to me. i was on the outside of the group. a person at the party was trying to make conversation bc she was alone too but it was just so uncomfortable. anytime i spoke i felt so f-----g embarrased. just like in school, whenever i used to talk in front of classes...i felt so stupid...my emotions were killing me, i needed to get out of there so i called my mmum askign if she could pick me up. bynesha didnt come bc she was seeing her relatives or smth. after this experience i just want to push whateevr i have left of these two friendships away...and then i'll have no friends. no one else to judge me, or for me to freak out about, but i'm already too lonely it;s so painful,, i'm tearing up thinking about it now. i dont know what to do. i'm too anxious to find new friends, to anxious to function infornt of people, im 16.

MsCroft I thought I was better..
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I was on this blog a couple of months back, one day I abruptly stopped posting, because I had gotten to a point of no return and I didn't feel the need anymore. I was taking my medication and regularly seeing a psychologist, and I WAS getting better,... View more

I was on this blog a couple of months back, one day I abruptly stopped posting, because I had gotten to a point of no return and I didn't feel the need anymore. I was taking my medication and regularly seeing a psychologist, and I WAS getting better, I was finally able to enjoy the little things. Even though I woke up everyday upset and hating myself, I still managed to name one positive thing that happened in my day. I no longer went to the bathroom in complete darkness, I no longer avoided mirrors, I brushed my teeth, I showered, I was finally me again. I decided I no longer needed the help I was being provided with and someone else needed it more than I did. So I just stopped everything, and for a while I was okay and happy and I was young. Until I started going to the bathroom in complete darkness, Started locking myself in my room, I stopped showering and mornings became and endless struggle to get out of bed and go to school. I lost all the friends I made, My family were them old selves. I've selfishly ruined everything, again. I will never get better.

Trippyflippy Caring too much and then not enough
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Some days I care too much about everything and worry about everything, yet other days I don't care and I do stupid things. I hate having no control over anything. I snap at everyone, I burst into tears for no reason other than I feel sad and I have n... View more

Some days I care too much about everything and worry about everything, yet other days I don't care and I do stupid things. I hate having no control over anything. I snap at everyone, I burst into tears for no reason other than I feel sad and I have no desire to be around people. I'm really tired and I can't tell anyone or they will think I'm not grateful. Does anyone else feel like this or am I the only one? If you do, does anything help.

PLUMJUICE Functioning in university and work with anxiety
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Hello! I'm currently enrolled at university full time and I'm wondering how to deal with anxiety during tutorials and lectures? Certain settings will trigger off my anxiety and especially certain classes. Sometimes, my head get's so blurry that I can... View more

Hello! I'm currently enrolled at university full time and I'm wondering how to deal with anxiety during tutorials and lectures? Certain settings will trigger off my anxiety and especially certain classes. Sometimes, my head get's so blurry that I can't concentrate which is pretty troublesome especially since I have come there to learn. I also see how it effects how I interact with students. Because I feel so anxious I can't relax and I become brash and off-standish in my responses. I feel like this isolates myself further from people, and I moved recently so I don't have any friends so it sucks. I also tend to twitch, which is kind of embarrassing. I don't know how to deal with this.. Is it just something I have to suffer through and carry on with long term treatment?.. Also what treatments work best for anxiety? Sometimes I'm scared that I'll never reach my potential due to my anxiety. Thanks..

Lax Feeling lonely and sad
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Feeling sad because I feel like I dont have friends. I asked a few people to come to an event and got all no's. Made me feel so bad about myself. I dont know how to make new friends and feel like everybody already has their groups. I'm questioning wh... View more

Feeling sad because I feel like I dont have friends. I asked a few people to come to an event and got all no's. Made me feel so bad about myself. I dont know how to make new friends and feel like everybody already has their groups. I'm questioning what the problem is with me. I left the country for a while and I guess everybody just formed new groups. I feel bad for my husband because we had so many of his friends and now he's alone too. When I felt down about being in a new country we always had his friends to go out with and feel better. I feel horrible that I cant do the same thing.I am questioning why I dont have friends. I find it hard to meet people or to make the time. It makes me feel like a loser not having any friends and dont want to admit it to anybody. I feel embarassed. My mum was emotinally and physically abusive growing up and whenever I did something wrong she would say 'that's why nobody likes you'. Those words play back in my mind and make me feel even more isolated. I dont want to burden anybody with being friends with me if there is nothing good about me. I have a friend that lives an hour away but our lives are busy at the moment so I dont get to see her much. I also made a friend but she is much older than me. I dont know why it just doesnt feel like enough. I guess I want a girlfriend that is the same age as me. Someone to meet up with and talk to. I've had these feelings for a while but recently alot has been going wrong which makes me think everything is against me. My birthday is coming up, which makes me feel anxious. Im avoiding celebrating it because it'll only make me realise that I dont have many friends. The closer it gets, the more isolated and embarrassed I feel.

Stephjacobs GAD/Social
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(I have GAD and social anxiety.) i feel like no one understands how hard it is to deal with the thoughts that go on in my head. I am considered 'well-known' at school so everyone automatically assumes that I'm confident. I'm not. I already see a coun... View more

(I have GAD and social anxiety.) i feel like no one understands how hard it is to deal with the thoughts that go on in my head. I am considered 'well-known' at school so everyone automatically assumes that I'm confident. I'm not. I already see a counsellor but what are some other coping mechanisms for GAD and social xx

jes345 A professional opinion would be appreciated
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I wanted to use the online chat but this is fine. Hope someone can help me! I've always had low self-confidence and never really believed I could do anything/have a happy future because of it. I always think about what would happen if I were to fail ... View more

I wanted to use the online chat but this is fine. Hope someone can help me! I've always had low self-confidence and never really believed I could do anything/have a happy future because of it. I always think about what would happen if I were to fail rather than succeed. Because of it I'm scared to put myself out there and do new things because I'm most comfortable with familiarity. My confidence is so low I quit a fast food job last year because of it; I didn't tell anyone how I felt being thrown in the deep end. Instead I left after the first shift. I couldn't stop thinking about the job, about going back and it lead to a restless night full of unsettling nightmares. Now when it comes to applying for jobs, I see fast food job advertisements that make me think back to last year. They make me feel nervous and uneasy so I scroll on and look for a job that's easier and less stress-induced. Because such jobs don't exist, I never end up finding anything, and my Dad's always patronizing me about getting any sort of work, oblivious to my "dilemma". Knowing that my low level of confidence is an issue, I came across a list of warning signs for depression and anxiety. Some of them I can relate to: Getting up later: I tend to go to bed late and wake up late on a regular basis. I think I have an unhealthy sleeping pattern that involves waking up at random times everyday (e.g 9am one day and 11am the next) Finding it hard to concentrate: I may zone out of a program on the tv or a conversation. Sometimes I daydream when I've stopped at traffic lights. It's also hard for me to find motivation. Eating unhealthily: YEP. I barely eat veggies and fruit and find more comfort in rubbish foods. I've been trying to eat healthy by eating the odd apple or smoothie. Having disturbed sleep: Occurs 9 times out of 10. I always dream about whatever's bothering me/on my mind 24/7 Feeling irritable, stressed or teary: Depends. I'm irritated that I can't tell anyone I'm unhappy, stressed when put in an uncomfortable position/don't know how to do something and teary when I'm uncomfortable, misunderstood or being put down and can't handle it Withdrawing socially/ wanting to spend lots of time alone: I hate socializing with people I don't relate to or know very well. Good friends aren't a problem. I'd rather stay at home and binge on Netflix than go out with my brother and his girlfriend. I've been unhappy with myself for a while, but I'm not sure if this (^) means anything serious.

frances1 New to here :)
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Hi, Im FrancesThis is my first post so I thought I would introduce myself.I am 17 years old and my current diagnoses is BPD (borderline personality disorder). I have been on medication and going through treatment on and off since I was 11 when they f... View more

Hi, Im FrancesThis is my first post so I thought I would introduce myself.I am 17 years old and my current diagnoses is BPD (borderline personality disorder). I have been on medication and going through treatment on and off since I was 11 when they first diagnosed me with deppression and anxiety.When I was 14 I was sexually assaulted at a friends brothers house by the brothers friend. I was confused on how I felt about it at first because of my age, I didnt fully understand what had happened. A couple of months later I told my sister what happened and she told me that it was rape as I did not consent. Coming to grips with what happened I went into a downward spiral as we started an investigation that went absolutly no where! I became very deppressed and pushed everyone away, I ruined my year of school and all my friendships. No one ever tells you that the hardest part comes afterwards, you never forget how someone violated you against your will, especially when they are nearly double your age.I heard nothing from police for months until I got a phone call one day. It was a different detective. She explained to me they had given the case to her (mind you, no one had notified me about anything) and they had found that he was in another state and couldnt do anything about it. There was no case and no charges, he gets to walk around free and i get flashbacks and disgust with myself.To this day im still recovering and I get a little better everytime I put the effort into my mental health but it is and always will be a struggle to cope and get through each day. Frances

Plant Consumed by grief and self loathing, hard to find purpose in my life.
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Well. This is my first time here. I spose i came because right now i just dont feel like i have anyone to talk to. I see someone fortnightly who is one of the only things i look forward to. They are the only times when my head feels clear. I hate mor... View more

Well. This is my first time here. I spose i came because right now i just dont feel like i have anyone to talk to. I see someone fortnightly who is one of the only things i look forward to. They are the only times when my head feels clear. I hate more than half my school year, and consider 90% of my friends "fake". Ive been betrayed by multiple best friends over my life, which has made me feel gullible and worthless. I dont trust my parents. But all this just makes me feel like i have blown it all out of proportion, and that i am stupid, and worthless. I dont feel like i have a valid reason to feel this way, that i overreact to everything. I put on a facade for my friends, and my family, but when left alone with my thoughts everything hurts. Ive lost all 3 of my childhood pets in the last 2 years, and while 2 of them passed of old age, i could deal with them. But the 3rd pet, the youngest, i am so torn about. She was a beautiful 6 year old cat, my first cat, and i loved her more than the world. She would always venture away from home, but close enough to be within yelling earshot, and each day i would call out and she would come back. Then one day 2 years ago, she didnt. 3 weeks before that my parents had said that they needed to give her away, because she scratched at the furniture too much. I thought i managed to convince them otherwise, but i just dont know. I also am unsure as to whether i checked her for ticks or not the day before she went missing, as she had a history of getting them. I dont know though. When both of my other pets died later, my parents wanted to get photos of them and our new dog who i hate, they left my cat out, till i reminded them of her. They never once cried for her after she dissappeared, while i do every night and morning. I hate myself, and dont feel like i can trust the people around me, and dont know what in my life is worth it. The person i see is helpful but i feel like telling them about this would be a waste and is completely stupid. I feel like im disgusting, and that noone will ever care for me. Can people please tell me what is worth fighting for in my life, because im just filled with so much grief that nevet stops its overwhelming.

CurlyHairExtradinaire Should I seek help for my anxiety?
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Hello. I am new to BB forums and online conversation in general so your patience is appreciated. I have social anxiety. I have not been medically diagnosed but I am sure I my feelings. At first I was very adamant that I did not require help. I am in ... View more

Hello. I am new to BB forums and online conversation in general so your patience is appreciated. I have social anxiety. I have not been medically diagnosed but I am sure I my feelings. At first I was very adamant that I did not require help. I am in the firm belief that i must resolve my own problems. I have had these feelings for just over two years. They began to appear when I was in year 8 during a period if ruthless and intense bullying by a large group of my male classmates that continued until the end if that year. I have always been shy and I am highly introverted however I did not start to feel this way until the time mentioned above. I feel uncomfortable in most social situations and have had panic attacks before. My mother has been supportive of me and for that I am grateful but I feel as if my anxiety is getting worse. Whilr I recognise the benefits this could cause, I do not fancy being patronised by someone who views my fear as classic teenage angst. Dissmissing my views as antention seeking or God forbid hormonal because they come from the mouth of a fifteen year old girl and not an adult. Honestly, I am afraid and I don't want to be anymore. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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