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I wanted to use the online chat but this is fine. Hope someone can help me! I've always had low self-confidence and never really believed I could do anything/have a happy future because of it. I always think about what would happen if I were to fail ... View more

I wanted to use the online chat but this is fine. Hope someone can help me! I've always had low self-confidence and never really believed I could do anything/have a happy future because of it. I always think about what would happen if I were to fail rather than succeed. Because of it I'm scared to put myself out there and do new things because I'm most comfortable with familiarity. My confidence is so low I quit a fast food job last year because of it; I didn't tell anyone how I felt being thrown in the deep end. Instead I left after the first shift. I couldn't stop thinking about the job, about going back and it lead to a restless night full of unsettling nightmares. Now when it comes to applying for jobs, I see fast food job advertisements that make me think back to last year. They make me feel nervous and uneasy so I scroll on and look for a job that's easier and less stress-induced. Because such jobs don't exist, I never end up finding anything, and my Dad's always patronizing me about getting any sort of work, oblivious to my "dilemma". Knowing that my low level of confidence is an issue, I came across a list of warning signs for depression and anxiety. Some of them I can relate to: Getting up later: I tend to go to bed late and wake up late on a regular basis. I think I have an unhealthy sleeping pattern that involves waking up at random times everyday (e.g 9am one day and 11am the next) Finding it hard to concentrate: I may zone out of a program on the tv or a conversation. Sometimes I daydream when I've stopped at traffic lights. It's also hard for me to find motivation. Eating unhealthily: YEP. I barely eat veggies and fruit and find more comfort in rubbish foods. I've been trying to eat healthy by eating the odd apple or smoothie. Having disturbed sleep: Occurs 9 times out of 10. I always dream about whatever's bothering me/on my mind 24/7 Feeling irritable, stressed or teary: Depends. I'm irritated that I can't tell anyone I'm unhappy, stressed when put in an uncomfortable position/don't know how to do something and teary when I'm uncomfortable, misunderstood or being put down and can't handle it Withdrawing socially/ wanting to spend lots of time alone: I hate socializing with people I don't relate to or know very well. Good friends aren't a problem. I'd rather stay at home and binge on Netflix than go out with my brother and his girlfriend. I've been unhappy with myself for a while, but I'm not sure if this (^) means anything serious.

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Hi, Im FrancesThis is my first post so I thought I would introduce myself.I am 17 years old and my current diagnoses is BPD (borderline personality disorder). I have been on medication and going through treatment on and off since I was 11 when they f... View more

Hi, Im FrancesThis is my first post so I thought I would introduce myself.I am 17 years old and my current diagnoses is BPD (borderline personality disorder). I have been on medication and going through treatment on and off since I was 11 when they first diagnosed me with deppression and anxiety.When I was 14 I was sexually assaulted at a friends brothers house by the brothers friend. I was confused on how I felt about it at first because of my age, I didnt fully understand what had happened. A couple of months later I told my sister what happened and she told me that it was rape as I did not consent. Coming to grips with what happened I went into a downward spiral as we started an investigation that went absolutly no where! I became very deppressed and pushed everyone away, I ruined my year of school and all my friendships. No one ever tells you that the hardest part comes afterwards, you never forget how someone violated you against your will, especially when they are nearly double your age.I heard nothing from police for months until I got a phone call one day. It was a different detective. She explained to me they had given the case to her (mind you, no one had notified me about anything) and they had found that he was in another state and couldnt do anything about it. There was no case and no charges, he gets to walk around free and i get flashbacks and disgust with myself.To this day im still recovering and I get a little better everytime I put the effort into my mental health but it is and always will be a struggle to cope and get through each day. Frances

Consumed by grief and self loathing, hard to find purpose in my life.

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Well. This is my first time here. I spose i came because right now i just dont feel like i have anyone to talk to. I see someone fortnightly who is one of the only things i look forward to. They are the only times when my head feels clear. I hate mor... View more

Well. This is my first time here. I spose i came because right now i just dont feel like i have anyone to talk to. I see someone fortnightly who is one of the only things i look forward to. They are the only times when my head feels clear. I hate more than half my school year, and consider 90% of my friends "fake". Ive been betrayed by multiple best friends over my life, which has made me feel gullible and worthless. I dont trust my parents. But all this just makes me feel like i have blown it all out of proportion, and that i am stupid, and worthless. I dont feel like i have a valid reason to feel this way, that i overreact to everything. I put on a facade for my friends, and my family, but when left alone with my thoughts everything hurts. Ive lost all 3 of my childhood pets in the last 2 years, and while 2 of them passed of old age, i could deal with them. But the 3rd pet, the youngest, i am so torn about. She was a beautiful 6 year old cat, my first cat, and i loved her more than the world. She would always venture away from home, but close enough to be within yelling earshot, and each day i would call out and she would come back. Then one day 2 years ago, she didnt. 3 weeks before that my parents had said that they needed to give her away, because she scratched at the furniture too much. I thought i managed to convince them otherwise, but i just dont know. I also am unsure as to whether i checked her for ticks or not the day before she went missing, as she had a history of getting them. I dont know though. When both of my other pets died later, my parents wanted to get photos of them and our new dog who i hate, they left my cat out, till i reminded them of her. They never once cried for her after she dissappeared, while i do every night and morning. I hate myself, and dont feel like i can trust the people around me, and dont know what in my life is worth it. The person i see is helpful but i feel like telling them about this would be a waste and is completely stupid. I feel like im disgusting, and that noone will ever care for me. Can people please tell me what is worth fighting for in my life, because im just filled with so much grief that nevet stops its overwhelming.

Should I seek help for my anxiety?

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Hello. I am new to BB forums and online conversation in general so your patience is appreciated. I have social anxiety. I have not been medically diagnosed but I am sure I my feelings. At first I was very adamant that I did not require help. I am in ... View more

Hello. I am new to BB forums and online conversation in general so your patience is appreciated. I have social anxiety. I have not been medically diagnosed but I am sure I my feelings. At first I was very adamant that I did not require help. I am in the firm belief that i must resolve my own problems. I have had these feelings for just over two years. They began to appear when I was in year 8 during a period if ruthless and intense bullying by a large group of my male classmates that continued until the end if that year. I have always been shy and I am highly introverted however I did not start to feel this way until the time mentioned above. I feel uncomfortable in most social situations and have had panic attacks before. My mother has been supportive of me and for that I am grateful but I feel as if my anxiety is getting worse. Whilr I recognise the benefits this could cause, I do not fancy being patronised by someone who views my fear as classic teenage angst. Dissmissing my views as antention seeking or God forbid hormonal because they come from the mouth of a fifteen year old girl and not an adult. Honestly, I am afraid and I don't want to be anymore. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Sucky Breakup

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Hi, my boyfriend and I were dating for 3 years on and off as we butt heads regularly. He was really sweet at the start, he bought me flowers when I was sick and we went camping and spent time with each others friends and families. It was the perfect ... View more

Hi, my boyfriend and I were dating for 3 years on and off as we butt heads regularly. He was really sweet at the start, he bought me flowers when I was sick and we went camping and spent time with each others friends and families. It was the perfect relationship, I was so in love with him it drove me crazy about him. After about 2 years something in him changed. He stopped doing all these nice things and began treating me like a second choice to his friends and his car. I stuck around because I loved him. He never let me text him on weekends while he was with his friends and I got fed up and began finding the things I needed from other people. I know that is a terrible thing to do and no one should ever do that to their partner but it felt nice being with the one you loved and still getting the attention I needed. I feel very very guilty and never told him. I quickly realised it wasnt right and stopped all of that behavior straight away. After weeks of telling him I wasnt happy, all the butterflies and the feeling of being in love went away. I knew I loved him but I wasnt in love with him the way I needed to in order to be in a relationship. This woke him up and he started working harder for me then ever, the feelings began coming back but after a year of being hurt and pushed to the side it was hard letting myself feel for him strongly again. A few more weeks passed and O tried hard to let my guard down and one day it did and I felt amazing. He was treating me better, my feelings were back and we were hanging out again. It felt healthy and right. 2 days ago I asked him why he had been grumpy and arguing with me the day before and out of nowhere he replies by breaking up with me via text message. It was easy at first as I began to feel very angry at this. We exchanged all our belongings and now I feel nothing but empty and anxious. My anxiety is so bad I dont think i can work or go out or do anything. I dont want him back i just dont know how to cope with feeling so terrible all the time. Please help

Lost, confused and directionless in uni

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Currently, I am 19 and almost finishing my 2nd year of uni but I feel so lost and directionless about life. This year, I transferred to a new course at uni that I thought I would enjoy but I'm absolutely hating it and also not particularly happy abou... View more

Currently, I am 19 and almost finishing my 2nd year of uni but I feel so lost and directionless about life. This year, I transferred to a new course at uni that I thought I would enjoy but I'm absolutely hating it and also not particularly happy about the fact that it is one of the courses people may deem as "useless", unlike what I was studying last year. Originally, I was studying a different but I had a terrible time, disliking both my course as well as the fact that I barely made any friends and was always alone and was adamant on switching. I'm currently unable to switch back but I also don't think that I have a future with my current course career-wise and I'm feeling utterly lost and confused to the point where I break down constantly. I come from a family and culture where an undergraduate degree is expected and feel ashamed and utterly inferior to my friends who are currently now more than halfway through their courses. I have little motivation and I'm not sure what I want to do. I don't think deferring is really an option for me given my family circumstances but I also just feel really hopeless, lost and incompetent. What should I do?

Paranoia and guilt

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I'm not usually one to ever ask for help but I thought because it is online and anonymous I would give it a shot as this has been a problem for a while now. im 22 i feel a lot of guilt and paranoia symptoms about things that have happened and continu... View more

I'm not usually one to ever ask for help but I thought because it is online and anonymous I would give it a shot as this has been a problem for a while now. im 22 i feel a lot of guilt and paranoia symptoms about things that have happened and continue to happen. i have constant worries about bad things happening and me not being able to control it. I'm starting to notice I do things like not focus on conversations with people because I have so much going through my head i feel as though I'm over my head with stress and I'm always preparing for the worst i feel like I am overthinking every situation and best /worst case scenarios i have been feeling like this constantly for at least 6 months im not currently working but don't really want to work either i think my dad might have some mental health issues with anxiety and depression as I have seen some medication before and was also wondering if it is genetic this is a link to a test I took also as it might help someone point me in the right direction DisorderResultParanoidHighSchizoidVery High

Am Depressed Or Just Seeking Attention?

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Hey, For the past year or so (I can't really remember when it started) I have been feeling depressed. Previously I had just ignored the feelings of sadness, however, now it just seems to have escalated. The thing is, I don't know whether I am actuall... View more

Hey, For the past year or so (I can't really remember when it started) I have been feeling depressed. Previously I had just ignored the feelings of sadness, however, now it just seems to have escalated. The thing is, I don't know whether I am actually depressed or just seeking attention. When I am around my friends, I smile, laugh, and join in the conversation. However, when I am on my own and with family, I can't find happiness and it feels strange to be happy and laugh around them. I have very low self-esteem and confidence, so I very rarely go out with friends during the school year and after finishing HSC this year. I always seem to have thoughts about how to change my personality so that people actually like me and regularly have thoughts about how life is a waste and there is no purpose to it. I always feel hopeless and can never stick to any 'hobby' that I want to pick up (I usually give up after a few hours no matter how much I want to do it). Lately after finishing HSC I have been very bored and can't find anything to do which excited me for more than an hour (Could my 'depression' just be my boredom?). I rarely have suicidal thoughts, however they have popped up a few times (Probably just out of curiosity and boredom because I never wanted to act on them). I can't bring myself to talk to my parents about how I feel as I am to scared about how they will act and what they will say. They have previously asked if I was depressed, however, I said no because I was worried. So, do you think I am depressed or just seeking attention? Thanks for your help.

Introducing myself

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Hey, I'm Alex... I'm 22 and guess I'm looking for an outlet / people going through the same as me. I was diagnosed with social anxiety last year (after years of dealing with it)... the past two months have been having full blown panic attacks and hon... View more

Hey, I'm Alex... I'm 22 and guess I'm looking for an outlet / people going through the same as me. I was diagnosed with social anxiety last year (after years of dealing with it)... the past two months have been having full blown panic attacks and honestly they scare me so much! Please say hi! I'd love to make some new friends

Just not sure what's wrong, need an outside perspective please

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Hi everyone, I'm not sure if posts typically get lost in the void but I'm just looking for an outside perspective if possible. My apologies in advance if this gets too lengthy. I've been through rough patches in my life before. While I was never actu... View more

Hi everyone, I'm not sure if posts typically get lost in the void but I'm just looking for an outside perspective if possible. My apologies in advance if this gets too lengthy. I've been through rough patches in my life before. While I was never actually diagnosed with depression, throughout my earlier teenage years engaged in a lot of self harm and self punishment habits due to some family issues at the time and shattered self esteem from verbal/physical bullying from a group of guys when I was younger. I made somewhat of a recovery over the following years, then relapsed again when my partner of 18 months cheated, then broke up with me for a friend of ours. I am, honestly, probably an over-emotional person. I'm prone to feeling very enthusiastic when things go right, but really slipping when things go wrong - although my external appearance may not portray this side. With that background taken into consideration, now my life is on track: I've just started a job I never even expected to get in my dream career, I've got a loving partner who I've been with for almost 3 years, the majority of my past family issues have been resolved, I no longer self harm and I'm completing a double major at a good university. What's really worrying me now, is that despite all these things that should be making me feel happy - I'm not feeling much at all. In the past I was prone to crying excessively, daily, but now I scarcely feel overly happy or overly sad. It feels like my emotions have mostly flatlined. I do get very brief peaks of joy and sadness, but just nothing on the scale of my usual emotional spectrum, not even close. Recently I find I've been needing to sleep a lot more than I used to, struggle to find motivation for things I know I want to do, and I do see my friends less. I love my partner but I don't feel excitement for him in the same way I did maybe a year ago. I almost always have something that I'm worrying about - usually my parent's disapproval of my partner and I planning a holiday away or fearing I'll fall short in my new job (I'm a support worker so while it's in my nature to care for others, sometimes I worry I won't meet their needs). I'm a psychology student and work in mental health, yet I'm finding it really hard to identify what it is that's wrong with me specifically. If this is depression I can't really understand why it's so opposite to my previous experiences, and I'm not sure what I can do because I honestly can't pinpoint what's wrong.

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New to here :)

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Consumed by grief and self loathing, hard to find purpose in my life.

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Should I seek help for my anxiety?

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