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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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smith176 Depression/eating disorder is back again
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I've had depression and anxiety since the age of 13. At that point, I was diagnosed with anorexia which lasted for 18 months. This very quickly developed into bulimia, which lasted between the ages of 15 - 21. I'm now 23 and have relapsed into my eat... View more

I've had depression and anxiety since the age of 13. At that point, I was diagnosed with anorexia which lasted for 18 months. This very quickly developed into bulimia, which lasted between the ages of 15 - 21. I'm now 23 and have relapsed into my eating disorder badly. It always seems to be at a time when I am most depressed, I don't know if the depression causes the issues with eating or the other way around. I've lost a grip on my life, and my eating and self harm are the only things I can control. I'm so lost. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Redrose94 Starting exercise with an unsupportive family
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Hey Guys, I hope everyone is well! exercise has always been such a problem for me. Don't get me wrong, i LOVE exercise (im not a fitness junkie), but i do love walking! however, my problem has always been trying to maintain it. They say you need real... View more

Hey Guys, I hope everyone is well! exercise has always been such a problem for me. Don't get me wrong, i LOVE exercise (im not a fitness junkie), but i do love walking! however, my problem has always been trying to maintain it. They say you need really strong external factors to maintain an exercise routine such as a supportive family. that's just not a solution for me. My family have no self control when it comes to eating and they do literally 0 hours of exercise. I really want to change my life. How do i make these changes and also stick to them, while my family eats KFC in front of me the day i start the gym? My eating is not in control either, so KFC and takeaway food is extremely tempting. Every time i start gym, i always end up "not going" after 1 month or 2. Im aware of the benefits of exercise, but i just can't seem to change the behavioural patterns in my brain to make these changes. Does anyone have any advice to exercise even when my family is extremely unsupportive. (by the way, getting them involved in exercise isn't an option, because they just aren't interested and they actually demotivate me.) Any advice would be highly appreciated.

blue_fairy Anxiety/depression affecting my relationship
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Hi there, This is my first post on the forums; I read through a few of them a couple of years ago but haven't been back since. I'm 18 and am halfway through my first semester at uni. I first struggled with anxiety/depression when I was in Year 11, bu... View more

Hi there, This is my first post on the forums; I read through a few of them a couple of years ago but haven't been back since. I'm 18 and am halfway through my first semester at uni. I first struggled with anxiety/depression when I was in Year 11, but I only began seeing a psychologist towards the end of Year 12 (last year). I stopped seeing that psychologist because I wasn't getting anywhere with treatment, unfortunately. My boyfriend was the one who really helped me get through Year 12. We started dating in April last year, and he soon realised that something wasn't quite right in terms of my mental health. He was the one who finally convinced me to see a psychologist, and to even talk to my mum about how I was feeling. I had my first appointment with a Headspace doctor recently, after I decided I needed to start seeing a specialist again to get some help. Things haven't been going too well recently, what with uni starting and the added pressures that brings. My relationship is also rocky at the moment, with my anxiety and depression taking their toll on not only me, but my boyfriend as well. We've had sex, but I've become too anxious to do any of that now. I'm always worrying that he's going to leave me, because it's too hard to deal with. He's been nothing but amazing this past year, and it's not fair on him that he has to put up with me like this. When I told him the doctor had mentioned medication, he started crying and said that he doesn't care about the sex, he doesn't care about anything except seeing me get better. I'm torn between being incredibly thankful for him, and feeling so guilty for what I've done to him and our relationship. I'm really struggling right now. If anyone has any suggestions, or even if they've been in a similar position before, your words would be very much appreciated. Thank you.

EzmanCe I've been living a lie and I don't know how to be honest
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Everything I have ever done is on the surface. All my hobbies and interests in music and career path were all to impress others. but now I don't know where to start to find out what I truly enjoy

Everything I have ever done is on the surface. All my hobbies and interests in music and career path were all to impress others. but now I don't know where to start to find out what I truly enjoy

Ashiiepoo Anger
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Why am I angry all the time? I grew up in a domestic violence household and lately I have been angry a lot an taking it out on my partner and I am unsure why

Why am I angry all the time? I grew up in a domestic violence household and lately I have been angry a lot an taking it out on my partner and I am unsure why

Gerson Not sure if Ive really got bipolar?
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Hey my names James I'm 22.My dad left the country when I was 3 and my mum became depressed and still is. as a kid I was kind of anxious all the time. always had belly aches and trouble falling asleep as well as nightmares every night. I was diagnosed... View more

Hey my names James I'm 22.My dad left the country when I was 3 and my mum became depressed and still is. as a kid I was kind of anxious all the time. always had belly aches and trouble falling asleep as well as nightmares every night. I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression about 5 years ago after a close friend died.i was quite depressed for a few months after he died but at some point I started to feel better than I ever had in my life. I finally felt like I could be my self and I was full of confidence. I was making everyone laugh. My social anxiety was a lot lower I felt like I could hold a conversation with anybody.That lasted about 3 months and I slowly started getting depressed again. I began losing all confidence in myself and was so ashamed of what was happening to me (not being able to interact with any of my family or friends) that I decided it was best to isolate myself until I got better.i ended up spending about 2 years lying in my bed watching movies and playing video games going days or weeks at a time with no human interaction at all and avoiding leaving the house at all costs. during this time me concentration and memory were pretty much gone.i moved houses and started to make an effort to see friends and get outside even though it felt uncomfortable.I tried drugs and it was the first time if felt normal and happy in years if not in my life and I started to abuse it a long with other drugs for a couple of years.i ended up seeing a psychiatrist who diagnosed me with bipolar and psychosis Because of my constant racing/repeating thoughts that usually make little to no sense or end up just like static in my head. I was on medication for a couple of years and apart from helping me sleep i couldn't notice a difference in the way I was thinkingBut I never had the mood swings. Apart from 3 months 5 years ago where I was happier and more confident. I never have mania or even feel happy I'm always depressed.How can it be bipolar if you're never high?

Paris22 Anxiety- coping with the nausea feeling
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Hi, I'm Paris22 (alias name) and I suffer from anxiety and OCD. I've known about BeyondBlue for a while and thought it was time to log on as a user myself to seek advice from people who understand and have experienced what I am experiencing. I do hav... View more

Hi, I'm Paris22 (alias name) and I suffer from anxiety and OCD. I've known about BeyondBlue for a while and thought it was time to log on as a user myself to seek advice from people who understand and have experienced what I am experiencing. I do have question! One of the awful feelings I get when going through anxiety is nausea. And was wondering if anyone has advice on how they coped. I've tried sleeping or having cool air or the fan on low setting on me. A damp cloth on my face, deep breathes and concentrating on something uplifting on TV or a book. I've even tried listening to meditation music. The feeling starts out strong and then eases off after a while. Thank you in advance for the help! If you tried anything that at least help cope or ease the feeling then I would very much appreciate your advice. Paris22

Nath1 Depression is curable
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I had 3 people in my family with depression, and therapy helped a lot in short and long period. Therapy is investing in yourself and on your well being.

I had 3 people in my family with depression, and therapy helped a lot in short and long period. Therapy is investing in yourself and on your well being.

searching1 Feeling so alone and have no friends
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I am an 18 yr old first year uni student (I am girl), who is finding it really difficult to make any friends, because I am quite shy and have anxiety. Even in my major subject I feel like everybody already had their own circle of friends and I am not... View more

I am an 18 yr old first year uni student (I am girl), who is finding it really difficult to make any friends, because I am quite shy and have anxiety. Even in my major subject I feel like everybody already had their own circle of friends and I am not welcome. I have tried talking to a few people, but they seem disinterested in chatting further than smalltalk. It is honestly upsetting to me and makes me feel really down, as I cant seem to make friends in all my classes. I talk to my family and it helps alot, but they can't be with me at uni when im alone. Also my old friends went to different uni's and no matter how many times i try to contact them, they do not answer back. Please if anyone (escpecially people who live in Perth) wants to become friends, please dont hesitate to contact me further on here - I am a genuinely nice person :). I cannot keep on going on like this without any friends in and outside of uni. Thank you for reading x

T-bag Borderline Personality Disorder - alone and anxious
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Recently been diagnosed with bpd at the start of this year. Have been in and out of hospital ( never going back to that place again) and friends and family don't understand and wont help. Feeling very alone. I get extremely anxious quite a lot of the... View more

Recently been diagnosed with bpd at the start of this year. Have been in and out of hospital ( never going back to that place again) and friends and family don't understand and wont help. Feeling very alone. I get extremely anxious quite a lot of the time and I want to find a release that will work for me.. breathing exercises, running, etc etc do shit all. Also wanting to talk and make a friend who is going through it and how they deal with it and cope.