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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Guest_681 Anxiety and University
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I've just started my first year of nursing after transferring from science, and have had a history of anxiety and depression through school. Around two months ago I slowly came off antidepressants to try and use other coping mechanisms to deal with t... View more

I've just started my first year of nursing after transferring from science, and have had a history of anxiety and depression through school. Around two months ago I slowly came off antidepressants to try and use other coping mechanisms to deal with this, however it didn't really work and left me feeling more anxious than ever. Going back on my medication, I've had a rough start with side effects of increased anxiety and panic attacks (common apparently when re-starting medication, with the belief that anxiety gets worse before improving), but this is making University incredibly difficult. I live almost an hour away by tram and it's gotten to the point where I get so anxious on the tram I either have to get off, just wanting to go back home, or arrive at Uni/to my classes with waves of panic and fear. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I love my course a lot but am in a real pickle as to how I'm supposed to try and balance all this!

Mousey22 Stressed out
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Hi guys. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this so that is why I'm posting here. I currently work full time and study part time, so between both of these I have a solid 50-54 hour week plus homework, and because I work retail some nights I on... View more

Hi guys. I don't have anyone else to talk to about this so that is why I'm posting here. I currently work full time and study part time, so between both of these I have a solid 50-54 hour week plus homework, and because I work retail some nights I only get 3 - 4 hours sleep. I put myself in this situation and it is what I want to do, but my problem is that I have a lot of trouble at home (black sheep of the family and my dad has pretty much segregated me from the rest of the family and they all follow him unquestioningly), and I have recently had a couple of big bad arguments with my mum, who for a while I was actually getting on so good with. I'm just tired all of the time, trying to keep on top of things at school and we are overloaded at work because our employer always leaves the team hours down so we are constantly worker harder than we really should because they don't want to pay the proper amount of staff to work. So tonight I was just really struggling mentally before work finished and I don't usually get like this. I'm usually pretty mentally resilient but lately I've just struggled. Flat out at work, working hard at school, isolated and fighting with family when all I am asking for is support and to not be harrased by my old man. I mean he gives me the dirtiest looks, always tells me to 'get out', 'I've got more respect for the dog than you', 'gay guy', rah rah rah, same old story. And a coworker at work that has caused some trouble lately and doesn't like me at all because I stopped talking to him because of his negativity. My boss knows about our history but hasn't stepped up to the guy. Anyways yeah I'm just asking for some advice and some encouragement please because I only get negativity from my family and I don't have anyone else to listen. My brain feels lethargic and I don't want to take time off, I just want some encouragement from someone please, just a little bit. And advice on how to deal with stress when you are juggling bills, study, work, family problems, etc. Thanks guys.

Mezz85 History of ex husbands controlling ways has given me deppression and anxiety
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Looking for a friend to talk to and reach out to , been separated four years now , been through a lot and still going through a lot - Very down, often cry myself to sleep and don't want to be social anymore , cant get motivated , feel very lost and u... View more

Looking for a friend to talk to and reach out to , been separated four years now , been through a lot and still going through a lot - Very down, often cry myself to sleep and don't want to be social anymore , cant get motivated , feel very lost and unwanted

Matty_B Struggling
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Hi, First post here so I am sorry if it doesn't make sense. I have written this over a dozen times now and always seem to delete it before posting, but here it goes. Although I hide it well from everyone else besides this forum now, for over ten year... View more

Hi, First post here so I am sorry if it doesn't make sense. I have written this over a dozen times now and always seem to delete it before posting, but here it goes. Although I hide it well from everyone else besides this forum now, for over ten years I have had issues with obsessive compulsiveness, anxiety and depression. I have been pressured by some people to keep going to see a councillor but I gave up because I didn’t want to waste their time or seem “soft”. You see I have always had to be the strong one out of my friends and family, The one that everyone else relies on to help them out and get them through their tough times, but lately I have grown weary of this. It is taking everything I have to keep the others on track I fear I have lost my own way. It is taking a toll on me and I don't think I can carry on like this. I have much more to express and get out but I think this will do for a first post... sorry my sentences didn't really flow.

SweetAngel Confusion with Ex boyfriend
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I’m still friends with my ex but I feel like he thinks we have a chance to get back together in the future. An example of this is for his uni graduation we got a professional picture taken of just him and I . He has bought that image (which wasn’t ch... View more

I’m still friends with my ex but I feel like he thinks we have a chance to get back together in the future. An example of this is for his uni graduation we got a professional picture taken of just him and I . He has bought that image (which wasn’t cheap) and wants to photoframe it to put on his bed side table. do you think he still has romantic feelings for me if he is framing a photo of us from graduation and also being so picky of which frame to buy? (E.g. can’t be too clunky, has to be white frame) i would like to hear your thoughts no other photos in his room but just that photo of us , and he didn’t photoframe the graduation photos taken of him and his family

___3 what's wrong with me? (super long, sorry!)
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Hey, this is my first post and I'm not really sure how to start. I'm more just trying to express my feelings than writing a structured paragraph so apologies if it makes no sense. I just want somewhere I can let out all this stuff I've been thinking ... View more

Hey, this is my first post and I'm not really sure how to start. I'm more just trying to express my feelings than writing a structured paragraph so apologies if it makes no sense. I just want somewhere I can let out all this stuff I've been thinking about for so long. I hate myself. Don't get me wrong, some days I feel normal- I think about my life and feel like everything has the potential to work out with a little effort. I try and keep up a routine by running daily, practicing instruments, etc. But then there are times when I look in the mirror and just hate everything I see. If I really think about myself there is not a single think about myself that isn't flawed. Nose? Legs? Eyelashes? Ew. I know these things are just material and subjective to personal opinion but there is not a single thing about myself that I like. Logically I understand that I should be grateful for having a functioning body and I absolutely appreciate that I am "healthy" but it feels like my being alive is just a waste- of resources, of time, of energy. I am always reminded of my flaws every time I start accepting how I look. "You should go on a diet, your legs are so fat." I know they are just trying to prevent me from having regrets in the future but even when I skipped meals and started running nothing changed, I would always be ugly in their eyes. Then there are times when I'm too happy. I love myself and the world seems brighter, I hug everyone and everything makes me smile and dance. Even in the moment I know this feeling is unnatural but all I want is to stay this happy forever... because in that moment, I have nothing to worry about. I look back at all the things I felt negative about (like I will probably do to this post) and laugh at how stupid those insecurities are. I'm amazing! These moods come out of nowhere and don't even have triggers sometimes. I have lots of "friends" but I feel like no one truly knows me. I'm completely different around them to when I'm alone with my own thoughts; no one has ever seen me react out of proportion to the event (happy, sad, angry, etc) "you're so happy lmao ily" which makes everyone feel fake, even though it's my own fault for not opening up. I don't think anyone could handle it if I told them how bad I felt sometimes. Being judged is what I hate most and it's impossible that I wouldn't become "so broken/weak she needs a shrink". It just hurts because there's no one I can talk to when I need it. I hate me. Sorry. I'm fine though.

youngperson183 Nothing to look forward to
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This weekend I turned 18 and had the most amazing time, but since then I have been feeling really really down. It suddenly feels like I have nothing to look forward to. Last year I was looking forward to getting my licence, going to europe, graduatin... View more

This weekend I turned 18 and had the most amazing time, but since then I have been feeling really really down. It suddenly feels like I have nothing to look forward to. Last year I was looking forward to getting my licence, going to europe, graduating, finishing the hsc, going away for christmas, starting uni and then my 18th birthday. And now, I feel lost. My boyfriend is going to europe this year with his friends and I am so happy for him. Now I just feel like I only have things not to look forward to, exams, winter, him going away, my parents cutting off support to me because i’m 18 now. I’m just feeling really scared and I am not excited about the future. (I have being diagnosed with GAD, my mum and sister have depression)

Jinxyj My parents are making me miserable
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Hello! I'm new here and desperately need someone to talk to. I'm 21 and still living with my parents but I want to move out, however, it's hard to find work because of my age, and that I am at university. Anyways, the issue lies with my parents. I ha... View more

Hello! I'm new here and desperately need someone to talk to. I'm 21 and still living with my parents but I want to move out, however, it's hard to find work because of my age, and that I am at university. Anyways, the issue lies with my parents. I had a terrible childhood which resulted in depression, anxiety and PTSD, with my mother, and I thought it would be fine after I moved in with my dad and future stepmother. After therapy, my depression wasnt as bad but I swear it's coming back. My parents are confusing. They often say one thing but then it changes after. I wanted to study something I would enjoy. They were supportive but after a sudden "pricate" discussion, they now think I will regret it because I'm not studying something that would make me more money. I dont care about money except for moving out. I just feel like they dont appreciate my feelings. I'm passionate about writing and will be studying English and creative writing, but according to them, I will never find a job when i told them my degree will let me be a teacher. I just dont know what to do. I cant talk to them because they turn it around so I feel like the bad guy and they are the victim. This also goes with them complaining about money before wasting it on alcohol, my stepmother talking down to me while treating her son (who is my age) like a prince. Commenting that I am too skinny before complaining about me buying food for myself. I cant tell them that the way they talk to me makes me feel down about myself. It's hard because I have no passion for science, maths or anything he enjoys. I just feel like they dont care for my mental health. I hope this makes sense. They basically complain about almost everything I do. That i cant look after myself, that I dont clean properly, that i talk back when i just want to voice my opinion, that I am unladylike. Ugh... i just. I just dont know anymore. I mean, i cant even tell jokes anymore because they cant tell when i am being serious or not. I feel like my step mother has changed my dad and i hate to say it, but i just feel no joy around my father like i used to. Please give advice. I just dont know who to turn to.

justme45 My weight stops me from being meim
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I’m 24 and I’ve struggled for my entire life with my weight. It’s something that feels so out of my control I feel trapped in my own body. I’ve always hated the way I look no matter how hard I try to surround myself with body positivity, I can see it... View more

I’m 24 and I’ve struggled for my entire life with my weight. It’s something that feels so out of my control I feel trapped in my own body. I’ve always hated the way I look no matter how hard I try to surround myself with body positivity, I can see it in others but have never been able to give myself the same allowance to look different. I’ve tried going to the gym 7 days a week, cutting one meal out a day, eating super healthy, nothing every changes my body.. I feel like it’s impossible to lose any weight at all. I have some of the most beautiful friends and I’m at an age where we go out and my friends meet boys and some are in serious relationships now, and those who aren’t almost always get attention when we go out. But never me. It’s piling up so much to be the one every single time who gets ignored. I do my make up, my hair, buy clothes for my body and still see the only solution to be lose 40kgs. I run through scenarios in my head where if I were given the option to give up 5 years of my life to be skinny, would I? The answer is always yes and this terrifies me. I feel like I’m destined to be overweight and alone forever and as someone with so much love for people this my biggest fear. I’m otherwise the life of every party, I feel like if I did ever talk to someone about this they wouldn’t believe me because i come off so happy and care free all the time. I have amazing friends and can logically assess my life and see how much amazing stuff I have around me.. but I genuinely feel like the way I feel about my body stops me from living the life I want to live and I feel trapped. My family aren’t overweight, I’ve had friends who could lose weight, why is it just me who is stuck like this? I’m logically minded and i know i should focus on al the good stuff in my life but I can’t. I’m finding myself leaving parties early or avoiding situations all together where i know I’ll be the only one going home alone.. which is scary because this is not me. Every time a guy does show interest, it’s one day and I never hear from him again. I just keep thinking when will it be my turn to be happy and have someone love me for me? Or when will I be able to find a way to love me? i just had to unload.. thank you to anyone who listened.. I hope your nights are better

SweetAngel Complications with mum- should I move out?
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I would like advice of if I should move out and what the best option is? Should I rent with a friend, go into a share house or put deposit on house. im 22 , still living with mum to save up for my future , but it’s the constant cycle of her and I fig... View more

I would like advice of if I should move out and what the best option is? Should I rent with a friend, go into a share house or put deposit on house. im 22 , still living with mum to save up for my future , but it’s the constant cycle of her and I fighting, it’s her way or no way, she doesn’t see any one else point of view, she emotinal abuses me it’s a negative environment she doesn’t want to change her attitude or see someone about it. At least I am seeing a therapist what do you think my best option is of moving out for my mental health and to be happy?? Thank you