Any advice for my sleep problem

[Jakes_razz]

So I'm new here and not sure how this all works so I apologise in advance. I'm 20 years old and dealing with this stuff really gets me cranky cause no one I know has delt with this problem witch makes it hard to talk about. /hints why I'm here/

i have a issue were people who were once a big part of my life who are not anymore. Old friends, family members who have passed away, ex partners

it started when my high school girlfriend left me suddenly after 3 years for no reason apart from the generic "we grew apart"

this sent me down a dark parth witch was embarrassing for me as hard as coping was buy far the worst was the dreams I'd have they'd either be memories of us on repeat or a horrible accident happening to them and those dreams would effect my mood all day till I slept again and I couldn't reach out to her since she moved to the city and made it clear that she wanted nothing to do with me

it then progressed to old freinds and relatives who have passed away

and I never spoke up to those old freinds because how do you start a conversation with I dreamed about you, how are ya? Haha

these dreams had been fewer and fewer and I was happy about that but my recent loss of a freind have brought them on again and I would like any advice someone can give and to hear I'm not the only one going though this

this felt good to type my story thank you for reading

[SanguineCandle]

Hey there

Sounds like a really difficult situation that you're in and it's actually not an uncommon thing. I haven't experienced it myself but quite a few of my friends have had nightmares just in general or seeing people they love get injured or die as a result of someone close to them not being there anymore.

My advice is to seek help. Three years is a really long time to be suffering. I would suggest seeing your doctor about it and they'll refer you to a counsellor or someone who can help. I have a feeling that it might be due to the fact that you never really had any closure. As you said, it started when you felt like your gf left for seemingly no reason. I'm guessing you never really had a conversation about what went wrong or anything in detail. It could also be your worries and anxieties manifesting into your dreams, worries about people close to you leaving suddenly like your ex did.

You actually could say that to your old friends, it's not any offensive or anything like that although it might be a little strange. If someone said that to you, how would you feel? I would just be curious if it was said to me.

So all in all, no you're definitely not the only one going through it. Writing and letting things out does feel nice, it's cathartic. I'm not sure if this would be helpful but it's just an idea - maybe write a letter to each of the people that you've dreamt about, starting with your ex or the recent lost friend. Write as if you're actually going to send it (but don't), just write everything you feel or think about them, let it all out, the good and bad. By the end, you should realise that the things that happened, happened and although you didn't want to end it the way they did, they did and you accept that or maybe you're having trouble accepting but that's fine as long as you're honest with yourself. Then you can either just delete it if you're typing/ tear it to shreds or do whatever else you want to it.

Getting help is important. Sleep is one your basic needs. I wouldn't want something like this going on for the rest of your life, it's better to get help sooner rather than later.

Best of luck 🙂

[tryingfornewhieghts]

Hey there Jakes razz

I'm sorry you've been having such a bad time dealing with these dark and tough times in your life.

It's no fun at all having these problems to deal with when all you want to do is press forward without the dramas and torment.

Have been through all kinds of terrible times myself but I won't go into that now. I just want to let you know that I feel for you.

In regards to your sleeplessness...

I have suffered from insomnia and sleeplessness for years until I had friend get me on to this stuff called 'melatonin'. Don't know if you've heard of it before? But I would suggest you visit your GP and have a chat about it.

I don't use it all that often now but in times where my brain is really over active I find it really helps and it's not as hard hitting like other sleep meds, which I personally stay from.

Hope this helps.

Good luck and try to keep that chin up yeah 🙂