Alone, confused and Panicking

555
Community Member

I've recently moved to Wollongong to study psychology at university. Before that, I was at Sydney University, but I decided to move because firstly Wollongong University is less competitive and also because the degree in psychology has a combined honours, unlike Sydney.

I have been struggling with depression for about 2 years and in the past year it has worsened. I thought that moving to Wollongong would be a good change and would make me happier. 

Since coming here, however, I've only felt worse. I feel really alone and I miss my family. Ever since I've moved here I have panic attacks and break downs everyday, sometimes multiple times in a day. I can't concentrate on any Uni work and I really don't know what to do. 

I have tried to make some friends. I live on campus at the moment but haven't really met anyone. I feel really alone in my room. I've joined so many different things to try and meet people but I haven't felt like I've made very strong friendships, just met people, which forget me the next day. I've joined societies and volunteering programs both on and off campus but nothing seems to really work. 

If I move back to Sydney, Ill have to go back to studying a really hard degree in a very competitive environment. Im afraid I won't get into the honours course and I won't be able to go on to further my study and become a psychologist, like I want to. 

But I'm afraid that staying here is making my depression worse. Im not sure what to do.

Do I move back, stay here or take a gap year and just get away from both options all together?

Please help!

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi 555, welcome to beyond blue forums

IMO I'd stay longer and give it more time. I moved 4 times when my teenage daughter was just settled into her new school. Each time she cried not wanting to leave her friends. Each time I told her I had no option and that she'd make new friends.

Indeed she did make new friends and each time she told me "I'm so glad you came here". But it takes time.

Try to relax, in fact attend a relaxation class. It is a positive thing to do. Keep going, you are doing all the right things.

Tony WK

hairyca
Community Member

I reckon stick it out for a tad longer. It was only recent that you moved over there, it's natural to miss all those things from home; but hey, you moved for a reason, so there's obviously something there for you. Easier said than done, but give it another chance or two, you might surprise yourself, and it could be the best decision you've ever made.

 

Good on you for having the courage to move out of your comfort zone, and to a new environment, don't be so harsh on yourself. You've done something many haven't. Plus, Wollongong is just around the corner 😉

 

Keep being you, and you'll attract those who deserve your friendship, and if not, then you're just too cool for them.

555
Community Member
Thanks guys. Yeah I've been here for 5 weeks now so I guess I'll give it a couple of more weeks and see how it goes. 

hairyca
Community Member

Good idea, and in the end, if it's not for you, come home. No one is making you stay there. But just remember the reason you moved in the first place.

 

All the best 🙂

 

ps. If you need someone to chat to,I'm all ears 🙂

555
Community Member
Thanks for your help 🙂