Hi flossy welcome
Ive got bipolar2, depression etc. I can relate to this as Ive been medicated for several years with great success.
Those grand schemes, been there. Moods, off the scales, restlessness etc.
Your anger at him is understandable yet will likely be counter productive because he isnt well at all. He's sick. He needs your support, the same support if he'd broken both legs in a fall doing something he shouldnt have.
Can I offer you some advice?. IMO you both need a heart to heart chat that needs facts and honesty followed by a fresh start.
As with other mental illnesses his behaviour has extremes of normal behavior. Such behaviour is usually carried out without any insight from the sufferer. Denial is an enemy. It is important that he acknowledges his behaviour is beyond normal and the consequences of it eg family intolerance.
I'm living proof that the correct medication along with therapy and support can result in a near normal life. But it's still hard.
There is a thread hete for bipolar and carers called "this bipolar life". Go to "all posts" near the top then depression the the thread for a read.
Finally, I've written threads on topics of interest. Use google
Topic: who cares for the carer?- beyondblue
It depicts your spouse, the sufferer also has responsibilities.
Topic: be radical- beyondblue
That highlights many other self help ideas...a move to the bush, keeping away from trigger positions like committees and clubs.
Topic: the balance of your life- beyondblue
Depicts, relaxation ideas. Balancing lifestyle choices.
Topic: what lifes like at the end of the tunnel?- beyondblue
Topic: 53 years of hell now 5 years of contentment- beyondblue
Post anytime.
Tony WK
