Tired, stressed, unmotivated, worthless, empty mum

[Emptymum]

Don't know how to introduce myself...

The title of my post explains it..

I feel like I hate my home and I really am over repetitive chores and lifestyle.. I just feel tired all the time. I want to hibernate and have zero motivation.. Been feeling like this ongoing for about a year. I've been on and off anxiety & depression mess for about 6 years.. I've been off them for about 2 months as I hate relying on medication but this lack of motivation for anything is really taking its toll.. 😞

ive got 3 kids and an amazing partner who just lost his job....

I don't want to write an essay... This is meant to be an intro after all.

Sooo.... Hi! ☺️

[geoff]

hello Emptymum, I'm sorry for how you are feeling and even more so about your husband losing his job, which may cause more anxiety and worry for the two of you.
We wished that we didn't have to take any medication but unfortunately there maybe no other option, simply because it's such a difficult job to try and get ourselves well again with out any medication, although by taking it doesn't necessarily mean it's going to help us, but the range of AD has certainly increased over the last few years.
At the moment your life is uninteresting and repetitive and with no income coming in is only going to make you feel worse off, so firstly he has to go to centrelink as you probably know with a separation certificate from his company, then some money will go into your account.
I don't know how old your children are and this will depend on what other advice we can then give you, so please let us know. Geoff.

[Doolhof]

Hi Emptymum,

Welcome to the community here. Sorry to read about how you are feeling, then having your husband loose his job as well must be quite an issue.

Do you have hobbies and interests you are able to do to help you have a sense of achievement and happiness?

Is it possible for your husband to look after the children, even if it is for a couple of hours so you can go to the park, the beach, window shopping or what ever, coffee with friends or something out of the ordinary?

Unfortunately for some of us medication is definitely requir4ed to help maintain the chemical balance in our brains so we live and function better.

For me, even finding half an hour doing something I enjoy daily helps my self esteem immensely.

Please feel welcomed here and know you are able to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable doing.

Wishing you a day where you can see some hope and something to be thankful for.

Cheers from Mrs. D.

[Emptymum]

Thank you Geoff,

I have 3 young kids 7,3,2 years old

I'm lacking motivation. And my house is falling apart because it's age and I am depressed when at home. 😒

[Doolhof]

Hi again Emptymum,

Is there some way you can brighten up just one room of the house for now? My sister lived in an old stone house with rising salt damp. They didn't have the money to fix any of their issues.

Now and then she would change the furniture around, bring home some flowers for the kitchen table, have the children create bright paintings to make a collage on a cheap pin board.

Adding something bright and colourful into your environment can help.

I know about Motivation and Determination! They sometimes play hide and seek with me and I have a devil of a time trying to find them!

Is there one job you would really like to achieve? Can you break that down into small manageable tasks? This way of thinking helps me.

Right now I am enjoying some time on the computer before I go to make the beds. I'm having some "me" time first. Changing the way I do things helps me as well.

I don't have a 2 and 3 year old in the house, so wishing you all the best with finding the motivation and energy to get things done.

Cheers again to you, from Mrs. D.