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[raych87]

Hi everyone im raych, im 29 and for the past several years iv suffered with depression... a battle im still fighting. Im a mother to two amazing boys who are aged 6 and 10... and im engaged to my childhood sweetheart.

I have so many people around me but yet i feel so lonely. I came across this page and decided to take a leap of faith and hopefully connect with others in the same situation... the people i have around me dont seem to really understand (which is totally understandable). I am currently on medication but that doesnt seem to be helping anymore.. i have more bad days than i do good.

[white knight]

Hi Raych, welcome

Being an anonymous site thus forum will help. Simply scroll through the many topics and respond it start your own thread about what concerns you. There is even bb cafe if you like that.

I review my medication every 3 years or so. But I'll never go off it. One tends to pay a price if you do.

I hope you gain something from the forum.

Google. Topic: medication is a whirlpool- beyondblue

Tony WK

[Zeal]

Hey raych,

Welcome to the forum!

I'm glad to see Tony has already posted support.

In my eyes, having two school-aged children and being engaged at 28 is a great accomplishment. Starting a family is something I'd like to do in the future. I'm 23, by the way.

Are you able to relate well to the doctor who prescribes your meds? At the next appointment, you could ask about getting further help. Your doc could refer you to a mental health professional, such as a counsellor or psychologist.

Here are some online resources that you can browse and/or bookmark for future reference:

http://www.mindhealthconnect.org.au/

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/infopax.cfm?Info_ID=37

https://wayahead.org.au/

If you would like your loved ones to understand depression better, you could suggest they browse Beyondblue resources. On the top menu bar, there is great info on depression under The facts. The menu section Supporting someone would be a good read for your partner.

I hope you can seek extra help soon.

Best wishes,

Zeal

[Touille]

Hi Raych87,

Welcome, sadly depression can just affect any person, it's not something we choose to have.

My sister has a little boy, nice BF and she still suffers from depression, she has a bad thyroid problem contributing to her stress at the moment. Sometimes, a lack of the right nutrients in out body can cause issues, our hormones can cause great changes as we age as well, I suggest you see a nutritional doctor who uses a sample of your hair to determine what vitamins are lacking in your body, like how much serotonin is in our brain, not enough triggers negative thoughts. I'm saying this cause a few relatives had similar problems to you and I suffered depression for some time too. I found the treatment from the nutritional doctor helpful, as they were natural, not some drug that caused heartache. Etc.

I hope you get enough sleep and eat well.

Feel free to express yourself, we are all here to help one another. Life can be hard and support is needed.

I hope my message helped you.

Take Care

Hugs,

Touille.

[geoff]

hi Raych, nice to talk with you.
It doesn't matter how the rest of our life is going it still doesn't stop depression, nothing can do this initially I'm sorry to say.
Two sons aged 6 and 10 would certainly be full of beans and heaps of energy but this won't necessarily cause depression, and most times we put on a fake face so that our friends believe there is nothing wrong with you, even though you may make small remarks about something that is troubling because they don't take it as being serious.
You could be surrounded by your friends only to feel as though there is the 'cone of silence' and then feel so alone even though you might be joining them in laughter, but to you it means nothing, because none of your friends recognise either that you have depression or how to help you and that's why you feel all alone.
Firstly you need to have your medication reviewed by your doctor, that's important to start off with and then it would be advisable to get your doctor to refer you to a psychologist.
You can't overcome this by yourself, you may think thart when you are feeling better that there is nothing to worry about, but that's wrong because the bad days will come back. Geoff. x

[raych87]

Thats so right. My friends know iv got depression, but im sure they feel helpless. My best friend is amazing all i have to do is text her and she is straight over to help.. just with the little things you know, sometimes i just want to scream why me? Why do i need to carry so much pain for. I just want to be happy.

[geoff]

hi Raych, thanks for getting back to us.
Unfortunately our friends or family are not able to cure our depression but what they can do is to try and settle you down, then try and make you think in a logical way not the way how depression makes you think, and by doing this is certainly a great way to try and steer you back on track, and don't worry when you aren't heading in the right direction because this will happen, I suppose it has to happen so that we can learn what's right and what's wrong, it's a learning process that each one of has to go through.
It's no different when you were a child you had to learn when you could cross the road by yourself unaided, so to overcome depression you have to learn what triggers these bouts of cycles where you fall into a hole.
This is not easy to learn because now and then there will be certain distractions that may stall you from falling but these may not be the right way to distract you, and that's when you put on your fake face, and when it's over you will fall even further, this is what is best to avoid.
Overcoming depression has many ups and downs where you maybe travelling along quite well, then suddenly something happens which will break this and then make you fall back into depression, and when you feel as though you won't be able to bounce back, then it's back to square one and go back to what you have been doing over the last few weeks.
Once you say to yourself I will avoid this situation because I know that if I go there then it will start a relapse. Geoff.

[mike1uz]

Lets all try and help each other out. I stumbled across this website only an hour or 2 ago,i really had no idea there were people out there feeling the same as I do.