Saying Hi

[molokai]

Hi Everyone .

I joined last night because sleep was just not happening. I poked around some threads not knowing what to do and responded to another first time poster. Hand holding is good. A CC Just Sara said check in here and say hi, so here I am and Hi!

Thanks for making me feel welcome. Reading through some posts I see there is so much in common even though we think we are doing it all on our own.

Reading what others are going through makes me feel like I'm having a storm in a tea cup, but if you think you're in a tiny tiny boat then I guess it is a big deal.

Sunny side up boys and girls!

Cya

[quirkywords]

Molokai

welcome to the forum.

Everyone has their own issues and we can't compare our struggles to others. Let us know more about yourself, it would be nice to hear about you.

Quirky

[Croix]

Dear Molokai~

I guess Sara will have welcomed you, as will Quirkywords, both good people.

From poking around you will have seen this is a place where we try to help each other. It's one of the few places where you don't have to explain everything in great detail, which can be a blessing. Most here have had a pretty bad time one way or another. That gives experience and understanding, and make people care for each other too.

I'm glad you have already caught the spirit and posted to help others.

So when someone comes along and says their hassles are small ones we tend to take that with a pinch of salt. There really is no such thing when measuring illness.

So if you feel comfortable you might like to say a bit more about yourself. This place is anonymous and also non-judgmental, how could it be otherwise?

We do hope to here more from you

Croix

[molokai]

Hi

Thanks for the welcome.

I was in a tight spot last night at 2,30 am and I found this wonderful supportive place.

I'm 59 y o male knowing I was in some sort of trouble for the last 3-4 years .

I work away from home not getting home for more than7-8 weeks a year. That takes its toll on a marriage, and as I work solo in a clinical setting I don't have peer support.

Something gave way a few months ago and it seemed like the end of my known world, but paradoxically if that hadn't happened I would not have found this place even though its media presence is out in front in the public eye. I guess at that stage I would have thought BB wasn't for me.Who can say? Maybe you find what you need when you need it.

So from what I gather I have depression, social anxiety even though I work closely with people one on one. An invitation to a social event immediately has me thinking how I can avoid it. So the isolation becomes self perpetuating. This seems to be a common theme as I have read.

So hello world.

Sunny side up

Cheers

[Croix]

Dear Molokai~

Thanks for talking more. I could not imagine a life where I was away from home so much of the time. It was hard enough when I was on secondment or on a course for two or three months.

I was in a tight spot last night . Um, I get the feeling there is more there than you are saying. That's ok if so, no pressure at all. My apologies if I'm reading too much into your words. I just wanted you to know that you can say whatever you like whenever you want.

Three years is a long time to try to cope with something. I've PTSD, sometimes depression and anxiety and found I was not able to improve at all without outside help. Quite the reverse.

So if you don't mind me asking have you seen a doctor, been diagnosed and are you under any form of treatment? Depression and anxiety untreated are insidious illnesses and can leech all the good things out of life, leaving just the dregs.

If you are not under treatment my I suggest talking to your GP in an extended consultation and see what transpires? If you anticipate difficulties in presenting a clear picture in face to face talk then write it all down first - as I have - and share the paper.

Just going on the facts as you present them it would seem you live a very isolated life, not a good thing for most. I know you said you did not have peer support, is there in fact anyone you are close to and can talk with often? I needed both personal and medical support to get where I am now.

I hope you are starting to feel like this place has something to offer.

Croix

[molokai]

Thanks Croix for taking the time.

Paradoxically since being in the "tight spot" a lot of stuff has shifted .

There is a line in the book "Dune" by Frank Herbert..

“I observed you in pain, lad. Pain’s merely the axis of the test. Your mother’s told you about our ways of observing. I see the signs of her teaching in you. Our test is crisis and observation.”

I've always liked that line, and now perhaps I have lived one interpretation of it.

The support from various contributors like yourself ( and also the opportunity to extend my care to others) has seemed to let my attitude shift out of the negative hopelessness I seemed to be rutted in.

Yes, I have professional help, but now with my attitude shift ( making hay while it shines) I'll be able to get some miles under my belt on this thing.

Once again. Thank you to you and all the gang at BB.

Sunny side up everyone

Cheers.

[Croix]

And the first lesson of all was the basic trust that he could learn.

ibid.

[geoff]

hi Molokai, being away for so long must put some pressure on your marriage, but the more we read the more insight can be achieved.
Not every story is the same, maybe similar, but with different circumstances makes everyone special on the site, that's why we have to treat each story in a different way. Geoff.