Hello Sad and Lost 18 and welcome to Beyond Blue forums
Life sounds incredible hard. There has been so much change in your life over the past year, it’s no wonder you’re feeling anxious and depressed. My heart goes out to you Sad and Lost.
Getting through the heart ache of your parents separating and losing your best friend (your mum) is no easy feat. Sorry I don’t have anything to heal your wounds immediately. You say you’ve begun speaking again with your mum - is there anyway to increase the talking? Could you organise going out for a meal with just her? Maybe tell her how you are feeling?
I’d imagine there’s a bit of anger, resentment on your part. I’m sure she must realise that too - especially because your dad is living with you. Is there any chance she’s thinking you’ve taken sides? Maybe this is something to talk about with her?
Ahh, your dad - that’s a difficult one isn’t it? What are his plans for the future? I realise it’s early days. His emotions must still be very raw and can imagine he’s very angry. This must be doubly difficult for you, especially with how much you care for your mum. Have you thought about setting boundaries (similar to those you set for your kids) for your dad? For example, touching on the thorny issues about where is he going to live in the future? It is your place and while he is caring for your children, is this a long term situation you want?
Your partner doesn't sound very supportive, but what are their thought's about your dad living there?
There are some practical things you can do for managing your anxiety if you’re interested - have a look at the thread TIPS FOR MANAGING ANXIETY. You can find it by going to the BB search field at the top and entering the thread title.
Keep reaching out to us here, if and when you want to Sad and Lost. There are many caring, friendly, supportive and non judgmental people who have experienced similar situations to you. You’re not alone.
Kind regards
PamelaR
