reaching out...

[Krizz1991]

hello to everyone here,

So, I guess this was my biggest and first ever step in reaching out...which, I feel like I should have done a long time ago.

I will try to keep this as simple as possible without going into my "issues" ...being an introduction post and all.

about me:

-26yo

- have my own car

- have my own money

- single/no kids

- live at home (because have you seen Sydney prices? ..they make my eyes water)

From the topics I have already read around the forums, I felt like I was in the right place to gain help. From everything I have written so far I'm sure my life seems easy compared to most..however, I will be taking the time to post my own issues on the appropriate threads to give people a deeper look and hopefully to try and help or even check in with me.

In my spare time I enjoy drawing/sketching, reading novels... and I like solitude ..or at least I think I do.. lack of friends.

so, Hello for now..and it just feels like a step in the right direction to be here.

[startingnew]

HI Krizz and welcome 🙂 well done on reaching out for some supports and for also introducing yourself as well.

Here is a safe and non judgemental place to express your thoughts and emotions as you become comfortable in talking to us here.

id like to know more about you and what has brought you here, then we can get a better idea on how to help you as well.

drawing/sketching is one of my hobbies too- what sorts of things do you like to draw?

[Krizz1991]

thankyou for your warm welcome 🙂

I enjoy drawing trees, branches, parts of the human body (legs, back) - my preferred medium is charcoal simply because its fun and messy..and i like the finished look of charcoal. What do you like to draw?

I'm here for a few reasons, however the reason that brought me here is because I feel like I'm in a standstill in my life.. I compare my life to others I knew from school...people at work.. I am so afraid of turning 27..because its another year older..and I just don't feel like 27...I see 27yos on tv, and I think "I'm no where near these people" ...everyone looks so much older.. I don't look 26-27.. I look in my early 20's..and yet I *feel* 10000 times older on the inside.. I find it hard to relate girls/guys my own age.. and to top that off, I am horribly shy that it becomes crippling some days... I'm not good at communicating..at least face to face anyway, I get tensed up, flustered and stumble over words..an so most of the time I just don't bother, its easier for me to be alone.. and then people wont approach me because im that "quiet girl" that sits on her own.. which can lead people to believe im snobbish ..but im really not... I just prefer listening actual conversations rather than what happened on "MAFS" ...it snowballs like that.

..and thats really just the start of it...I have alot of family issues and self confidence issues which I'll also need to go into... some days my feelings are worse, other days its ok.. it fluctuates depending on what happens that day.

[startingnew]

HI Krizz i can relate so much to your post!

oh im not very good at charcoal however i do like how things are drawn in it. i like mostly nature drawings- flowers, nature scenes, specific animals. i cant draw people at all! huge kudos to you for that!

Like you i feel so much older than what i really am and have been told the same thing (im 21). i find its both good and bad. the good because we are more mature and seem to have more brain capacity in dealing with things but bad because of all the reasons you meantions.

i read all the time here that people feel 'stuck' and have felt that way myself. im wondering if you have any goals? maybe they could help you to focus on moving forward? maybe some studies in an interest field perhaps?

comparing ourselves to others is really common however we each live our own lives and no circumstance is the same. whats important is your own personal journey, figuring out hwo to proceed forward, learning about yourself and embaracing who you are.

do you have any supports offline that you could talk to like a friend, or family member? i know communication is hard for you and to me sounds like you may get some anxiety when talking to others too.

do you have the support of your gp, a psychologist (or both)? i think it may help you as wel to have some professional help too.

please do keep talking, im happy to listen and help whenever you need