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Psychologically messed up from cheating Ex Partner of 10 years and 5 months ...
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Second time, told me straight away. Felt immediate guilt, stopped. Had Affair, 3 months later over 6 months. He had remorse, crying for many months randomly. Only time in regretting it. Walk into Bedroom, be crying inconsolably. Caught him Sexting with her again months later. Blocked and deleted number once she stopped. let me check his phone whenever, was his idea. I did too!
Mess me up in forever, mistrust. 10 years and 5 months, shared a space with his Cousin. 16 months into our relationship. Intermediately, confronting him with visible evidence also. Yet told me it was over. Was weary, always checking his Phone. He didn’t know, was last 3 years, Mobile was always facing downwards with Screen. Knew he was being deceitful. Texts, I want to be with you too and one with 5 lines of Love Emojis from her. Never stopped secretly seeing each other. Evidence backed this as his Partner, catch him. He would say, I don’t look at her that way. Though in my Heart, his love for her was there. Found out when he was in Hospital overnight. Never left his side except the night. Read every conversation between them, fessing their love for each other. Wishing they could be together, not with her Partner at the time or me. Read numerous times repeated conversations of their feelings known to each other. Wishing they weren’t Cousins.. Suspected it never stopped off on and for years in seeing inappropriate Texts on his Phone. Also called her name out in his sleep, twice.
I caught her out the second last Christmas together, various times. The Cousin thought her gazes of intimacy towards him for lingering seconds, no one had seen. Wrong, I seen, 5 times that day. She was totally “love struck”. I was totally devastated from that day when we were together. History does not lie!
Seen a Happy Anniversary Card is the final answer to the truth . Suspect, there sexual attraction towards each other has been going on the whole time.
Just over a year, we split. Have Sleep Terrors any time, day or night & barely sleep anymore. Hide away from the outside world besides my normal activities that I enjoy. It’s thrown in my Face, see them together at times because we live in the same area. I run into them on rare occasions too. Pretend not to see them when possible. Last time, he couldn’t take his Eyes off me. Make a point, always looking good for me. It gave me a feeling of empowerment with his reaction. He could not had walked any slower if he tried to see me as long as possible.
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Hi, welcome
A very sad loss of 10 years. I'm wondering what we can do for you now? If you could be more specific as to your needs? I hope you are ok.
TonyWK
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