Overwhelmed

[halpelmo]

I'd like to wake up and not immediately pour a mug of wine to stop my heart racing.

I'd like my controlling ex-husband to stop texting me, but I love him too much to shut him out completely. I am 34.

I'd like to be motivated enough to get up and shower every day. I make detailed to-do lists of tasks and chores that I rarely complete. Anxiety-based 'decision paralysis' makes me pour a wine and watch trash tv and hate myself instead.

I'd like to stop crying over things that happened years ago. My mother passed away when I was 11 and today I openly wept about the adult friendship/relationship we never had.

I'd like to stop feeling like I'm slowly killing myself.

I'd like to have motivation and a sense of control back.

Any advice welcome x

[Sophie_M]

Hi halpelmo,

Welcome to our friendly online community. We are grateful that you have reached out here today as we know it can be tough to do this for the first time. We are so sorry to hear that you are lacking motivation and a sense of control. We understand that this feeling must be overwhelming. Please know that you do not have to do this alone. Many in our community have had similar feelings and understand. Hopefully a few of them will pop by and offer you some words of kindness and advice.

We can hear that you've got a lot going on at the moment. It might be worth taking a look at the Beyond Blue "Treatments for Anxiety" page to see if it can give you any new ideas for treatment strategies - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety

Or our page for "Anxiety management strategies" here - https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/anxiety/treatments-for-anxiety/anxiety-management-strategies

The Beyond Blue Support Service on 1300 22 4636 or our friends at Lifeline on 13 11 14 are available to provide support and advice 24/7. Please do feel free to use these services to seek advice and talk through what's on your mind when it's feeling like too much to cope with.

Please also feel free to keep us updated here on your thread with what you are feeling and experiencing whenever you feel up to it - we hope that you find this to be a safe and non-judgemental space.


 

[smallwolf]

Hi halpelmo - I just thought I would check in and see how you are going. If you want to have a chat about thing or how you are feeling... I am here and listening. Do you have anyone you can talk to about how you are feeling? Have you consider getting professional help?

I hope you will come back and share more of your story.

Peace and comforting thoughts to you,

Tim

[Carolinem]

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. Firstly, are you ok? I want you to know you aren't alone, and if you need someone, I am here for you.

I can relate from my own past experience and would like to offer my support whether it be any advice, listening, or anyway I can support you. If you need extra support and don't have it, I am here and can listen.

[SarahZ]

Hi halpelmo,

Thanks for reaching out. I'm so sorry you are experiencing this right now, anxiety is never easy to cope with. Echoing the same sentiments as the others, I am here for you if you ever want to talk or vent about anything. I see Sophie_M has added some great links that I think will be super helpful, especially the "anxiety management strategies" thread. Alternatively, seeking professional support is always super beneficial even though initially it might seem daunting.

Sending you positive thoughts and here if you ever need to talk.

[Tls_1811]

Hi halpelmo,

I can relate to all the feelings that you are having. Please know that you aren't alone and there is light at the end of the tunnel. It sounds like you have some very deep wounds that have been left opened. Speaking to a professional about them may be helpful as well as writing them down in a journal. I am here if you need to talk 🙂 you are never alone.

TLS