Not coping!

[Tired_Mum87]

Hi, don’t know where to start.

Generally I’m a strong person that always get back up when knocked over. I usually have a positive mind set and overcome hurdles thrown my way. Been through family court, no family support for hubby or me, kids developing major issues as they get older, hubby had 3 major back surgeries, work place injury, so he can work at all now, lawyers, financial difficulties, you name it, we’ve had it.

I’m married, and a mum of 5. I’m studying two degrees and ran a business. So I’m generally busy anyway.

the last 4 weeks has really starting pushing my limits. we have been planing to move due to the peninsula, with a focus of a fresh start for the family. Covid got months ago, took a toll on my business and family as Im sure it has with everyone else. A FV incident broke out between my three girls and their father, which now he’s not allowed to see them.

So having all 5 kids, 24/7 since April, planning to move, study, running a household, Things were going well. But slowly little bits of bad news/luck started sneaking in. Dramas at school with kids, dramas with houses... been told we can’t afford a $475 p/w house and for house house too, but we can “afford” a $500p/w house? What the hell? Then car troubles, in February, April, now July and now including our other car too.
youngest daughter is being accessed for ADHD learning disability, 7 year old boy has Anger management ADHD and ODD, the youngest almost 2 is full on and doesn’t not sleep, very bad separation anxiety. Oldest daughter has hit “18” in her mind and she’s 14. Our 13 year old has now been told she may have a anxiety disorder that has resulted from the trauma with her father (my ex not current husband).

Co-workers have issues with certain things I’ve “apparently” been doing, but team leader cannot find faults and is trying to sort it out. Third time this has happened.

I also ran a cleaning business on side which I’ve just officially closed the doors due to the mental strain and stress I was carrying. It’s made me feel crappy but I can’t handle work atm.

jm losing motivation, strength, I’m crying almost everyday, everything is setting me off. Every time some good news comes up, it’s shattered by bad news and I can’t deal with the negativity anymore. I’m doing everything I can, working with people to help mend issues and get me through, but I don’t know see anything getting better...

please help

[Sophie_M]

Hey Tired Mum, welcome to the Beyond Blue community. We're so sorry to hear how overwhelmed and overworked you are at the moment. Having 5 children at home while studying and working must be so stressful and we're sorry to hear your family is not around to support you through this. Please know that you've come to a safe, non-judgemental space to talk about your thoughts and feelings, and our wonderful community is here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need.
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[quirkywords]

Tiredmum I am sorry you are dealing with so many issues and with things going wrong.

I would be exhausted having everything you do on your plate.

Did you find writing down your problems in a post helped you gain any insights.?

Is there any support available? Can your husband help in any way.

Thanks for reaching out.

[monkey_magic]

Hi Tired Mum87,

Wowee....that is so so much to deal with emotionally.

Kudos for being the strong, resilient woman that you were/are. You are probably feeling like your reserves are running low which is so warranted by all the stresses, and changes life has thrown your way.

I would deal with one thing at a time and get through one thing at a time.

When my whole life became difficult I swam my brains out at the local pools each day and spoke to someone which helped. It gave me some reprieve from my situations.

I really hope you can find that indulgence for yourself to help lift you through this time.

You sound like a mum warrior who is juggling a lot of things and trying to keep the balance.

It's ok if you fall apart as well and don't have it all together. It's a change but it's totally understandable considering the amount of things that are happening to you.

I'll also suggest giving lifeline a call who have been my lifeline through a lot of things.

I sincerely hope you start to feel a bit better soon.

💓