Newbie Single Dad feeling quite low

[CRW1985]

Hey all,

So I have been at a fair low point for the last few weeks and I feel so alone and everything has just caught up to me emotionally. Taking on a new role at work has added extra pressure to me, I am struggling to find a house to move into so I can truly separate from my ex, mediation for my daughter comes up soon and will probably lead to family court, and I have minimal, if any friends for support. Plus I do find it hard being single and feel like no one wants me as I do suffer a lot of rejection.

I felt here would be the best place to find that I'm not alone, as a lot of people here are definitely experiencing the same things I am.

I hope to not only find good support here but also be support for others.

Thank you all for listening.

-Chris

[ITnErd6]

Hi CRW1985,

I understand your desire for your daughters care to be 50/50 but depending on her age it may not be seen to be appropriate. The courts and those associated with the court will favour the parent that the child has the most attachment too, whether thats mum or dad. Who ever was previously providing the most care.

Week on week off is also discouraged as its considered too long (7 days) for the kid to be away from the main parent. You could try for 50/50 and settle for slightly less. Makes you seem the nice person in mediation. But if the child is young most mediators won't want to write up 50/50 arrangements.

I think the age threshold is around 5-7 years old but you are best to check that with an expert in child matters.

[ITnErd6]

Hi Paul,

My ex did similar and blocked my weekends with my son. I had court orders and took it back to court multiple times over the years but the court couldn't see my ex for what she was or the games she was playing.

I went bankrupt trying to fight it. Eventually it got really complicated and I had to give up to save my sanity.

I haven't seen him now for 3 years. He is older now and at Uni. I think hes doing ok.

[CRW1985]

Our child is as attached to us equally and has had us in her life the same amount of time, as have her and her brothers and sisters. I was also going to add into the mediation that even if it were 50/50, but she was with me and wanted to see her mum then that's what would happen and vice versa. I'm sticking to my guns on this one. Neither myself or my son or my daughter should have to be limited to being together for only weekends and some holidays.

[MsRufus]

Hi,

You are not alone! I relate so much to what you are saying!

Sounds like you are doing well at work which is great!

Just take one day at a time!

I am going through a break up of 6 years and finding the feelings of rejection very challenging as well! I know it will get better but at the moment its hard to imagine I will ever be happy again!

I also dont have a very strong social circle which I am trying to work on, but I feel like such a burden reaching out to friends when I am at my worst!

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[Homedics]

Hi there
Things will get better. I've been at the lowest of lows.
It took time but I did it.
Yes I have hard day's , but my good days make up for the bad.