Newbie here

[ROSIE_C]

Hi. Im 52 married for 31 years and a mum to 2 adult kids. A few months ago i suffered a mental breakdown ending up in hospital. It was caused by some bad news in the family. Since then i have suffered with some bad anxiety and as it nears christmas i am feeling very low when usually its my favourite time of the year. I am seeing a psycologist and have a mental health plan in place. I am a christian. Im also going through menopause which is making all this worse, Id just like to connect with someone in a similar circumstance

[quirkywords]

Welcome Rosie to the forum.

you have a lot to cope with at the moment.
You will need to take time to be kind to yourself and work out what helps you.

Menopause can be difficult but there is help. I kelts journal so I could see a pattern in my moods and hot flushes.

If you browse the threads you may find posts that will interest you.

[ROSIE_C]

Thanks. Im doing all i can. You see my 26 year old son and his wife of 9 months separated 6 months ago. They have a 4 year old son, my grandson. My daughter in law wont let us see him. We have reached out to her but theres no reply. Ive been missing him so much and experiencing grief, i cant let him go. Since then my anxiety has been really bad sometimes waking me up at night. I thought this would get easier over time but its just getting harder. I dont work as i have a chronic auto immune disease which causes a lot of pain and menopause certainly doesnt help. Its just been so hard it rsally has

[missep123]

Hi ROSIE_C,

Welcome to the forums!

I am so sorry to hear that you have been going through all of that though.

It sounds like you love your family very much and that you have a big heart.

I'm really glad to hear that you are seeking out a psychologist and trying to look after our mental health.

I like to tell myself one step at a time and I will realise that I have walked a mile.

Here for you!

[ROSIE_C]

Yes i really do love my family so much. Ive tried to be there for all of them, all their struggles. And they have all been very supportive of my struggles of late. I cant help but feel a bit of a burden so i try not to bring everyone down with my troubles. I know i need to though because im not coping with tnis at all. Ive never been suicidal though. My Dad took his life in 2012. I am a christian and my belief in God helps me with the day to day. I get great comfort from my bible. Im not trying to convert anyone(please be kind).. I just want to feel like my old self again, happy and care free. My counselling starts again in the new year. 2021 look out! I know it will be hard but im going to really try putting myself first. If i cant see my grandson i have to try and let him go and that will be so hard for me because i love him so very much but its out of my control. I have done all i can

[missep123]

Hi ROSIE_C!

I know that it can be so challenging to want to speak to someone about what you are going through but on the other hand feeling like a burden. Please let me know how you go when you do speak to someone. It's great to hear about counselling starting in 2021 though! I think it's amazing that you are going to prioritise looking after your wellbeing.

Someone once told me that it is so important to put ourselves first sometimes as otherwise it can make it so difficult to take care of others. They likened it to the scenario of being on an airplane and putting your oxygen mask on first before putting it on someone else.

I personally think it's wonderful that you have found comfort, and in your case religion! It sounds like reading your bible is a way that you are caring for yourself.

Please keep me updated on how you go!

Here for you!

[ROSIE_C]

Thankyou.. yes i will keep in touch