New to all this and not sure if this is the right thing to do and nervous

MummahBear · ‎19-12-2016

Honestly i dont know if writing any of this is going to help, and im very nervous whilst typing.

I dont really know where to start. I really wanted to go see my family doctor but everytime i book an appointment i get way to nervous and cant physically bring myself to spit the words out.

I know i need some help though but its very very hard for me to actually say those words to ANYONE!

Im going to be 25 in 2 weeks and have a recently 6 year old daughter whos just gone on school holidays after finishing her first year ever at school. I have a partner who turned 30 in september weve been together for just over 7 years and weve dealt with ALOT over that time but recently had some legal issues which started when he was arrested out of the blue on september 23rd.

Since then ive been struggling VERY badly as families SA got involved and alot of drastic major changes have happened or been forced upon me. I just honestly dont know who to turn to or who can help me, better yet HOW anyones suppose to.help me when i cant even bring myself to ask and i always push it all down and pretend everythings fine so i dont get judgement or questions and have to talk about it cause im worried theyll just think im crazy or something... its so hard to explain but i no somethings not right with me and i jst dont no what to do.

Im sorry if this is not whats meant to be written or if i sound stupid or something

So scared to even post this cause i dnt want to sound like an idiot!

geoff · ‎19-12-2016

hello MB, good on you for being brave enough to post your comment, you know the first post is always very difficult, because time after time you may want to but then you decide not to, in fear of appraisal, but here we don't criticise anyone because if we did that then no one would be asking us for help.
What maybe a good idea is to write down on a piece of paper what is troubling you, so that you can just hand it over to your doctor, this will then help you with problems that you may forget when you try and tell them why you are visiting them, and then the conversation will begin, much easier than trying to talk with them.
Please forgive but no one is crazy or should feel as though they are stupid, because if you feel that way then I'm no different, however from what you have said there is much more to your comment, which I am concerned about.
I hope that you can trust us, so that you will feel comfortable in telling us just a little bit more, you don't have to say everything now, just a bit and I'm not going to ask you question after question, because that may make you feel uncomfortable and that's not what we want. Geoff. x

Sandy2577 · ‎19-12-2016

Hi! 7 years ago I drove with my newborn to my parents house in the middle of the night. Tapped my parents on the feet, when they were in bed. And said, "mum, dad, please help me, I'm not doing very well." They replied, we already know your not right, we were just waiting for you to ask. I moved out nine months ago. It's a struggle still but, the point is, they already know, it's up to you. Try and arrange a house call doctor, they bulk bill and can talk privately in your home.

Kazzl · ‎19-12-2016

Hi Mummahbear, welcome to the forum. I want to echo what Geoff's said, and say well done for reaching out.

This is a totally non-judgemental place, because we all have our own stories and things that are hard to open up about. But it is a place where you can open up, anonymously, and maybe even practice what you would say to a doctor or anyone else who might help you.

I hope you'll feel comfortable here with us. The situation with your partner and child must be very difficult for you. Do you think it's making you anxious or depressed or unwell in some other way?

Hope to hear from you again

Kaz

Verita · ‎22-12-2016

Hi, we all feel a bit embarrassed , ashamed about having to talk about difficult issues, i havent shared all my feelings and experiences yet on this sight and am just finding the right moment. Find yourself a counsellor/therapist who makes you feel comfortable to talk about anything no matter how scary the issues are to deal with, it is a safe place to cry as much as you want and say all that you need to say, they can help connect you to other people or resources you might need for your situation. Its ok to break down let the tears flow, tell someone your story because it will help remove the fear and shame from your body and allow you to look at your problem constructively. Im a mother too and that in itself is the most challenging difficult jobs we will have in life because it means so much to us our children. Reaching out and sharing secrets that we feel are impossible to share releases them from our body and mind and can help relieve the pain and fears we are experiencing. once you face the reality of your situation you can then take practical steps to deal with it. Others are here to help. Have faith and keep reaching out we are all here on this journey together.

happyannie · ‎02-01-2017

Hi MummahBear this is my first post ever have just joined this forum today I think you are brave for speaking out I was really nervous the first time I went to speak to the Doctor as well but Im glad I finally went and asked for help as it saved my life. Im a bit older than you and have been suffering with mental health issues for many years now. I have a husband and daughter who is grown up now but still lives with us.I hope you can get some help and support soon having people to talk to can be so helpful, and also getting medical advise. All the best

MummahBear · ‎09-01-2017

Thanks:)

The situation is ALOT more complicated than it seems. I know alot of ppl go through partners or loved ones going to jail.etc.

It makes me really really stressed. And to be honest i struggle badly on a day to day basis jst it being the unknown for how long hes going to be gone for is hard enough but all the othershot jst makes me feel like im in a massive hole i cant get out ofo