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[Chris0274]

Hi all, long time sufferer of anxiety depression n panic attacks, in the process now of splitting with wife, who has been my rock, struggling very hard at the moment with heightened anxiety, can’t eat sleep or barely function, suppose I’m just trying to find a friend to talk about this

thanks chris

[BballJ]

Hi Chris0274,

Firstly, welcome to the forums. I am sorry to read about what you are going through at the moment.

Break ups are tough in the best of times but add in anxiety and depression it just magnifies how much it hurts, especially as they have been your rock. Do you want to go into a little more detail about it all if talking about it all may help you.

Have you ever dealt with your mental health concerns in the way of speaking to your GP or even a psychologist?

My best for you,

Jay

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Chris,

You sound like you’re going through a very, very rough time. You must be so heartbroken over splitting with your wife. Clearly, she meant the world to you...

I’m glad you decided to reach out and talk here. Sometimes I feel pain needs a voice. You’re always welcome to share more if you would like.

Caring thoughts,

Pepper

[geoff]

hi Chris, I know what that feels like to break up from your wife, or she leaves you, just like my wife did to me, so by all means you have made friends already to talk to, so look forward in hearing back from you. Geoff.

[Chris0274]

Thanks so much for response, means a lot to have someone here you can chat with, it’s really tough, I still haven’t eaten for two days just feel I’ll in the stomach, just lost, I really don’t know how to deal with this, I have medication for my issues, but don’t wanna keep relying on that

[Doolhof]

Hi Chris,

I too welcome you to the forums. Sounds like you are doing it really tough right now. It is great you feel like you have connected with people here and to the help, support, ideas and caring you can receive on the forum.

Do you have DR. you can talk to about how you are feeling?

Keeping up your medication is important, right now it will help you through this, when you are feeling a little better you can work on more strategies to help you long term.

Trying to eat something will benefit you immensely, even an apple or banana is better than nothing, some toast perhaps, a handful of almonds, some take away if you can't manage to prepare food would help. Our bodies need food to help keep us well.

The Beyondblue phone line is available 24 hrs a day on 1300 22 4636, the support people there will listen to you and offer advice as well.

You are going through a really tough time, some times we just need to work out how to exist before we can move on and try to make life better.

One hour at a time may be all you can cope with right now, that is okay. Just live that one hour, then move on to the next one.

Dools

[Chris0274]

Thankyou,

yes I have doctors, they’ve never really helped much other than medication, I was seeing a psychologist for a lil while but found it very expensive to continue, I think right now I need something to be looking forward to, keep my mind active, even the most mundane tasks are extremely difficult to navigate, fortunately my wife is very understanding and will continue to help me, she has just never been able to get past my betrayal and wears that loss everyday, she just had enough. The continual help and support is good but I’m not sure if it’s just prolonging the inevitable, we r still living together until after Christmas before we tell kids and move forward from there. The anticipation is horrible, when the day comes I’m alone it will be extremely hard

[BballJ]

Hi Chris0274,

I imagine it is very hard especially when you have kids you have to tell, I cannot see how it would be easy at all, I think between now and then it is finding other avenues of support, do you have any friends or family you can lean on in this time, I can tell you regret a lot of things and hindsight has that affect on us but all you can do is look toward the future as hard as that may be. Do you have any hobbies or anything you enjoy doing that you could take up to help take your mind off everything?

My best,

Jay

[Chris0274]

I do have some hobbies but finding it very difficult to motivate myself to involve myself, I’m researching ways to reinvent myself, completely change through possibly martial arts training and meditation maybe, maybe look into some volunteer work, at the moment just trying to get through each minute. Fighting the negative thoughts and easy out options, it’s a roller coaster, thankyou for your response, it means a lot that people are even listening here.

Thankyou

[geoff]

hi Chris, it could be good to get back to martial arts, lets out some physical pain, punch that bag.
Ask around where any psychologists bulk bill, even your current one may do this if the session is cut short by 15 minutes, and also click on 'Get Help' and scroll down until you find 'Find a professional' there will someone there who will bulk bill you. Geoff.