New here looking for answers!

[Rorybear]

Hi, Ive just joined to try to get some answers on how to deal with my adult daughters anxiety and depression, its been 2 years now and she is still very up and down. Anyone else in the same boat?

[Soberlicious96]

Dear Rorybear,

Hi and welcome to Beyond Blue.

I think that one of the most important things to remember and do, is just to let her know that you are there for her, no matter how she is feeling.

May I ask has she sought any kind of professional help? Like counseling or spoken with her doctor about it? If not, perhaps you could encourage her to do that. Without knowing what is causing her depression, it will, I imagine, be harder to treat. I am of the opinion that both medical help and mental health support will help to identify the cause and therefore an appropriate treatment method can begin.

Anyway, I wish you all the best in getting her the help she needs. Take care. xo

[Rorybear]

Hi, thanks for your reply, yes she is seeing a psychologist and has also been to a psychiatrist for medication, but she has had side affects to all of those they have tried so is not taking anything. Some times she seems fine but other times I just worry about her outlook on things. She is working full time but lives a few hours away from us, so we don't see her all the time, we always make sure she knows we are here for her, its just hard sometimes being so far away I guess. Sometimes she is good and sometimes not so good, which Ive been told is quite normal, I guess we all have good and bad days!

[Soberlicious96]

Yes, it certainly does ebb and flow, and being away from her is an 'open door' for your own mind to imagine the worst.

I know that in the past, I have found Vitamin supplements (such as Vitamin B) to be quite helpful for my mental health. It tends to boost your mood and improve cognitive function.

Maybe some sort of herbal or vitamin supplement could help? I don't really know though because I am NOT a medical or mental health professional.

Anyway, hope things improve soon. I'll be keeping you and her in my thoughts. Xo

[jet816]

Hi Rorybear, I have tried different medications myself and had different side effects as well. For me the biggest thing was accepting that it was okay to feel crappy at times and that it was okay to ask for help and actually taking my medication doesn't make me weak or broken. It has been a long journey for me, one that I struggle with still but the best thing has been people not giving up on me. It is great that you care and you want to help. Try not to be angry if she pushes you away, try to listen sometimes even if she is struggling for words, remember that sometimes a cuddle can be hard for her to give but know that yours is always wanted. xo

[Sporadicallyanxiouswifemu]

Yes I have a neurocalm by “life extension” brand

Magnesium can also be very helpful. It comes in a powder by Bioceuticals.

magnesium, vitamin b are very good for stress.

As is nature and no phones and meditation,

[Rorybear]

Thank you for you advice, she is seeing a psycologist and has been for over 2 years, I don't see a lot of difference in her and have suggested perhaps a change of psycologist but this didnt go down well. I have suggested the vitamin B and magnesium as well. Its just a tough time that really doesn't seem to be getting any better. She is an adult and its hard to get her to try things she doesn't think will work. Will keep on trying though!

[Rorybear]

Thank you for your support. Did u eventually find a medication that was suitable for you? She has also tried chinese medications but they have also not agreed with her. Will just have to keep on encouraging her to try different things and hope something finally helps. Thanks again