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really suffering last couple of weeks. Seems to have compounded to my not being able to drive anymore and retiring. Feeling so closed off and the future seems so overwhelming right now. Can't seem to shake feelings of being alone, even when I'm not. Scared of aging and not knowing what to do
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Hi Zazzah, Sorry to hear that you are feeling so down at the moment. I retired a few years ago and had to get used to a new part of life that had been gradually creeping up on me for years. I knew it was coming but was totally unprepared for it. I turned 70 a few days ago and I am finding that it is getting easier as long as I have something to occupy my mind. Hobbies play a big part in my life now and I have my model trains to make life interesting. Of course, it might not work for everyone but having a number of things to occupy your mind might help calm you down. I hope you find the inner peace you deserve. We are all on the same road.
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Thanks for that. I guess I've come to the realisation I have a lacking in the friends and hobbies department fuelling my disconnect in life
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Hi Zazzah,
I can tell that it much be frustrating and very hard for you.
You are facing major changes in your life including not being able to drive and retiring. Like anyone else with major life changes, it's easy to feel lost. It's a normal feeling and it's okay to take some time to process your emotions and work through them at your own pace.
It's also ok that you don't have any hobbies or friends. It's never too late to make change. Feel free to explore something new, for example, join a local club or group that focuses on an activity or hobby that you may enjoy, or try out a new class or workshop. You can also consider volunteering with a local organisation or attending community events, where you can meet people who share your values and interests.
Meanwhile, seeking help from a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counsellor, might be helpful for you work through your feelings of isolation and uncertainty, and develop coping strategies to manage stress and anxiety.
Give yourself more time, you will adapt the changes in your life and it'll be better.
Mark
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Hi Zazzah,
I am sorry to hear that you have been struggling with this. Can I ask why you cannot drive anymore? Is this a temporary thing or permanent?
Being scared of ageing is common, but also a part of life that everyone goes through, so you are not alone. Could you talk to a mental health professional about this?
I hope things improve soon,
Jaz xx