Lonely new person

[IDK_]

Hey everyone,

I feel super sad that I have turned to an online chat forum because i cannot speak to anyone about how i feel.
My family is super supportive when i get depressed but i feel like such a heavy burden, I cry alot and shut myself away and if anyone from my family even comes close to asking "are u okay" i have a melt down because i am not okay.

I moved to a new suburb this year and I know no one down here. The only person who comes to see me is my partner and we don't get along much anymore. I have a new part time job in the suburb i now live in away from my 'friends' and although i really enjoy the team i work with i still go home and feel so alone.

I live far away from the other suburb and no one has attempted to make the effort to come down and see me, only my partner. I am constantly traveling so far away from home to see them when no one makes the effort to come and see me and no one really understands how far away i am. Long story short i have stopped all attempts to make an effort with any of my old mates and no one has called or messaged me in such a long time and if they do they expect me to trek it down to them. I get promises from friends saying they will come down next week and catch up but then they never follow through. I refuse to make the effort when no one will do it for me.

I am so sick of spending Saturday nights at home either working or doing nothing. All in all i am just super lonely ad depressed and i need a friend because i'm drowning in my own self pity.

[startingnew]

hello and welcome to BB

things are sounding super tough atm but here you are and i do welcome you 🙂

i will definently be your friends and many other members too

may i suggest interacting on some of the social threads? we have a wide variety of topics, im sure something will pop out at you. the BB cafe is quite active and has lots of welcoming members too jsut happy to chat and have virtual cups of tea and coffee 🙂

[Mathy]

Hi IDK_ and welcome to BB 🙂

Would you share why you moved? Was it for employment?

It’s very stressful moving at the best of times, never mind if you’re feeling a bit down anyway. And you seem to have moved away from friends and mates. Unfortunately, we humans are a bit lazy about maintaining commitment when longer than usual travel is involved, I myself have been guilty of that.

So, one possible solution is to make some new friends, which I know you might find hard if you feel depressed.

Baby steps needed here.

You’ve joined BB, and I can really recommend StartingNew’s suggestion about visiting the Social Threads in the BB Cafe. Lots of different folk to talk to there. Also, if you’re younger, there’s a place for under 25s - see front page of the forum for that.

Do you have some interests or hobbies where you could meet people in your new community? If you don’t have any, perhaps a think about something you’d like to tackle as a new interest and meet new people? You could check your thoughts out in the BB Cafe.

The other great thing to do if you’ve moved to a place where you have no family/friends is to sign up for some Vomuteer work, if you feel capable. The local Council office should have information of groups in your area that might need Volunteers - let’s face it, this country would fail to function without volunteers!

And I’ll be a virtual friend as well, bestest to you, cheers M 🙂

[IDK_]

Hey,

I moved because where i did live became toxic so I moved away to start fresh.
you're right humans can become lazy about commitment but it's those who shine through that make good friends but unfortunately I seem to be the only one who has actually made a considerable effort. The time, fuel and money that goes into traveling long distances really is not worth it for people who never return the same gesture. I find it really hard to make friends, i joined a gym and a sport in which i still made no friends in my new area.

I feel extremely self conscious and anxious all the time, people are not nice anymore and I want to throw my hands in the air and give up completely. I often question myself as to why no one makes an effort and maybe i am just hard to like. I can confidently say i always hold my head high and have a smile on my face but its when i am alone i struggle.

[IDK_]

I will have a look, thanks 🙂

[Tularu]

Hi IDK it can be challenging moving away and starting new things. But it can also be a new beginning full of exciting new friendships and embracing new hobbies. It’s easy to feel sad and feel like friends and family have let you down but they prob haven’t they are just busy . So look at creating some new relationships and new hobbies. There is a saying you only get out of something with what you put into it. You have a great opportunity to make a new happy life just the way you want it. Jacqui

[startingnew]

hi, isee youve met a few more members here 🙂

just checking in to see how your going today and see if you needed any help getting around the forums

[The_Colour_Peach]

Hi IDK!

I have the loneliness creepy crawlies too. I struggle to make friends because I'm physically limited to my bed and a wheelchair. I want to reach out and offer you a small respite from your loneliness and just have a chat. Go in to the social forum and tell the good people what you like and enjoy in the world, that might lighten things a little bit 🙂