Life Struggles

[AradiaPatronus]

I'm new... and I need help. I just started a new job, a job where I have had no experience, a job I never wanted but I felt forced into it. Now, I've been having panic attacks after panic attacks, I have them in my dreams and when I wake up, its consuming me. Its a very stressing environment, at least for me. I've had anxiety for the past 7 years going on 8. I feel so pressured and uncomfortable and I want to leave because I know its not right for me, but certain people are almost trying to force me to stay in it. I just want it all to stop, to back to the way it was. Its so hard to explain exactly how it feels. I feel like a failure and that I'm weak, I try to keep telling myself that everything will work out, that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel... but I can't see it. At the moment this is what is currently stressing me out.

[geoff]

Hello AradiaPatronus, being forced into a job that you didn't really want is going to cause your panic attacks, but you are not a failure in any way, these attacks are when you don't feel comfortable working in this position.

People may try and convince you to stay for financial reasons but there are other different ways to cope but first of all you need to know why these attacks occur with the help of your doctor who may prescribe medication to help you.

There is light at the end of the tunnel but we may need help to find it, sometimes we can see it, but this could only last a day or two because we haven't learned what the trigger points are.

Please let us know what you have decided to do, and I'm sure what's happening to you has happened to many of us as well.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Lillipilligirl]

Dear AriadaPatronus,

It is natural to experience anxiety in a new job, especially one you did not want and feel pressured to take. I don’t know your reasons for staying or why you feel pressured but I can empathise with coping in a job that is a great source of anxiety.

I’ve found that anxieties ebb and flow in the workplace and the start of a job is always the hardest - you’re learning, you feel unsure of yourself, you don’t know the people. It’s all change, change, change.

Why do you think the job is not right for you? It’s not in line with your interests? You don’t like the people or work environment? You don’t feel capable?

These are things to discuss with someone. Some of those can be remedied and there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel even if it doesn’t feel that way.

All the best.

[AradiaPatronus]

Hi Geoff,

I am taking prescribed medication for my anxiety and depression. I feel pressured because my job provider is trying to keep me there. I’m trying to get out of it but being Christmas and with the New Year coming up there not open. Which makes it harder. I’ve had anxiety for 7 years, I have General Anxiety and Social Anxiety. I’m currently working in hospitality even though I told my provider I could never do it because of my anxiety, but they didn’t listen. I tried talking to my provider about it again and she just said ‘you’ll get over it.’

[geoff]

Hi AradiaPatronus, thanks for getting back to me.

Anxiety isn't something 'you’ll get over it' if you're being forced to work in a position provided by the job agency that tells you to do, simply because you need more help to try and overcome it, but anxiety is such an enormous illness to try and cope with because it's verity can change in a split second or in any situation.

Please let us know when they are back at work.

Geoff.

[BoxaGuy]

So the main external pressure forcing you into the menial job you don't like is a Job Network Provider and i'll guess to a lesser extent is family and society, ie dont be a bum, work.

Go with the assumption that everything wont work out because it probably wont and think of how you can make it work out.

Also a job network provider wont help you in the way you think they will, there just not setup that way even if thats how they appear. Its pointless talking too or asking them for help because they certainly wont volunteer any helpful info.

If the issues your having are sincere its not hard to get time away from your provider or to even change to a disability provider, your GP can make that determination and can write a letter or referral you to someone that can

What do you mean by the way it was?