I need a lot of guidance and help to get on the right track

[NeedChange]

I'm stuck and I don't know how to get out of it. I need to change my life because this isn't normal in the slightest. I don't want to get too into it because there is a lot, but Im 43 years old and have been on DSP since I was 16.

My mother basically brainwashed me into believing that I wasn't capable of doing anything in life. All i was good for was taking care of her. I have spoken to therapists over the years but none of them helped me, and the one I was making progress with decided to just up and leave.

A month or so after that, my mother passed away and I broke up with my only friend, right when I needed her the most (2015) and my life went kinda crazy for a while. I ended up in the psych ward because I done something stupid. I was told that I needed a lot of therapy so I started seeing someone again but left because it was making my life worse.

I want to talk to someone who can maybe guide me and help me as I have no idea what im doing or what im supposed to be doing. I don't want to continue living like this.

[ABC01]

Dear NeedChange,

First, I wanted to say how brave you are for posting. And second that this bravery is an excellent trait to have when seeking answers. You should applaud yourself on that.

Things haven't been in your control for a long time for you and that is okay. Dependency on family in your life is a common thing. And what to do about this can be confronting and conflicting. I too am seeking answers similar to you.

I think it depends on what you want to achieve, and on how to get them.

Journaling is a good way every day, even bullet point style about your current feelings. It can show repeated thoughts and emotions on specific topics. These topics can then be addressed.

Psychosocial therapy of some kind would be useful and for your topics you identify in a journal. Counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist. Just someone who you can talk to regularly, even once a month to touch base and be heard and validated. It isn't one size fits all, it may take time to find someone who is compatible with you and their style compliments your mental health. You may need to try more than one person. A GP can connect you to these services, a Mental Health Plan can offer ten sessions per Calander year. With little to no gap, if you are lucky.

I am not sure if you are on the NDIS, but it can connect you with services that can help you figure out some of your next moves and walk by your side as you slowly work towards them. Alot of these services do require some footwork to get applications done but are well worth it if you are accepted and can get access to services. They do open up pathways to independence in life.

Connecting here is good too. Many people from all walks of life and life experiences to share.

It is good you can acknowledge that your life needs some change. That means you still have hope. Hope is everything. Keep holding on to that hope. We don't know what will happen, not even in the next five minutes. But what we can control is what direction we stir our life in.

I wish you well.

Keep talking if you want to,

ABC01

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Dear Need Change,

Life is truly beautiful, full of moments to enjoy and experiences that bring us happiness. Sometimes, all it takes is a fresh perspective to discover what truly makes us happy.

Don't worry about the past. Instead, focus on turning the page and starting a new chapter—one that can stir up your life in ways you never imagined. Embrace the possibilities ahead with an open heart, and know that brighter days are always within reach.

Wishing you strength and joy as you step into this exciting new phase of life.