Dear JustMe,
Welcome to Beyond Blue and well done for reaching out.
I feel I should start by letting you know that I myself am not a parent, so I don't really know what you are going through. But I can certainly imagine how much having kids can change one's life so dramatically. And I think it's awesome that you are opening up to your wife about how you are feeling.
When you said that you will be seeking help, that too is a great move. Because as wonderful as it is to have your wife's support, it is just as important to get all the help you need; from doctors and counselors etc. After all, that's what it's there for. And here at Beyond Blue, we're here for you too. And the good thing about here is that BB is 'open' 24/7, which means you can post here as much as you want, whenever you want.
In the meantime, until you get all your help things sorted, you may want to check out 'PANDA' - "Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia supports women, men and families across Australia affected by anxiety and depression during pregnancy and in the first year of parenthood. PANDA operates Australia’s only National Helpline for individuals and their families to recover from perinatal anxiety and depression, a serious illness that affects up to one in five expecting or new mums and one in ten expecting or new dads."
Here's a link to the website; https://www.panda.org.au/info-support/how-is-dad-going which you will hopefully also find beneficial.
Take care. Hope that helps a little. xo
