I just need to talk

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

I just have knowone to talk to

[white knight]

Hi, sorry for my delay,

Reading through your responses here I think there is a few issues that I can identify.

• You seem to lack a passion of your own. Such an interest would divert much of your thoughts.
• There seems you have difficulty expressing yourself. Petal22 suggestion of writing him a letter has merit. You can tell him directly of your concerns and not get your words mixed up.
• A marriage guidance counsellor would most definitely help in your situation. Try Relationships Australia
• If you can't beat them join them!. Go along to his coaching sessions and encourage the kids.

What do you think?

TonyWK

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

Your completely right. abut i have no idea how to go about it. No confidence and it's so overwhelming. I sound like a soon and like im making excuses but it's the truth.

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

Hi how are you.

[Sophie_M]

Hey Sad and knowone to talk to,

We can hear you’re feeling overwhelmed, and don’t feel you have the energy or confidence to take the steps towards feeling better. We’re so sorry you’re feeling this way, but want you to know that by posting here, and sharing your story with our community, you’ve already taken an enormous step and shown such bravery and strength. No one thinks you're making excuses, we know how hard things can get and we're just happy you could share here. 

If you did want to reach out to  Relationships Australia, you can call them on 1300 364 277. They also have some great advice on their pages, such as this one on communication in relationships.

It sounds like you could really do with talking things through, so please don’t hesitate to give the lovely Beyond Blue counsellors a call on 1300 22 4636 or speak to them on webchat here (11am-midnight AEDT). There’s also some really good pointers here for staying connected, and finding support through a trying time.

Thanks again for sharing here. We hope the words of our lovely community members above brings you some comfort through this difficult time.

Kind regards,

Sophie M

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

Thank you so much for all your understanding. I think I have just out up and stayed quiet about so much stuff for so long that sometimes it just comes out. I have contacted a gym around the courner for my place so I can do something for myself. I hope I dont chicken out and let my anxiety take over like I do so much. I think I have just ignored so much stuff for so long. I was meant to go to the dentist this morning but I cancelled because I just couldn't go. My parents were go I ng to look after my youngest and then mum was like I haven't seen the kids for a week. And then that maid me feel so bad that I haven't been to their place for a week. I dont tell them much about how I feel. Its to hard. They are old and they mean well but can be quite frustrating. My husband and I do have a pretty good relationship. I think I'm just jealous that I don't get much time to do stuff. But then I dont help myself by doing much or saying or wanting to do stuff. Our communication could be better deffinatly.

[Petal22]

Hi knowone to talk to,

I just wanted to say congratulations you have found some clarity.. well done 👍

Yes I understand how as Mums we can get jealous it seems are spouses are out doing things and we seem to be stuck at home……. We want to speak up but we find sometimes we can’t……. You WILL find your voice the more you speak up the easier it will become….. the answers we seek are usually within us….

Is there something you are passionate about? Finding that passion is also an amazing thing to do once you find it and do it life can be very full filling.

Welldone for joining the gym just tell yourself you can do this and go 😊 it’s nice just being around other people and doing something for ourselves…… the endorphins from exercise are amazing aswell….

Keep trying to communicate with your husband you will get there….

Life is a journey and some times that journey takes us to finding our true self. ❤️

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

The anxiety is hight at the moment. my husband and I are very strained at the moment. its all my fault. The normal part of me says it will pass but the insane part of me can't see that. Years ago I would of called in sick to work and just sat on the couch all day. But I can't do that. I have to go to work. Its not very often I feel like this but when I do its hard to get out of it. I not on medication and I dont want to be. I haven't been for a long time.

[Petal22]

Hi sad and knowone to talk to,

Im sorry you are feeling this way.

I understand anxiety is very difficult to deal with.

Did you feel better on medication?

I believe if the medication helps then that’s great…… I’m grateful we have medications to help the people in the old days weren’t so lucky.

Have you thought about talking to your gp about the way you are feeling?

[jaz28]

That is no good. I understand. Have you ever seen a professional for these feelings?

As many others have suggested, Relationships Australia might be a good point of call as you say you are struggling with marital conflict.

Please know we are here and understand. Please reply if you want to talk more.

Jaz.

[sad_and_knowone_to_talk_t]

So its been a week or 2. Things have been better. But I still feel crap and like im putting on this front. My husband and I are not the intimate. I can't really be bothered. I dont know if im make it up in my head or im growing apart from him. I feel like I cant be bother with him or us anymore.but as I said I cant work out if that's how I actually really feel or not.