I have never posted on a forum before and this is a little nerve racking.

[Sock]

Hi i am a lurker. I have never posted in a forum before because of my poor spelling and grammar it makes me worried more about the spelling and what not instead of what i want to say. Now that that is out of the way i am here because i am a full time care person for my terminally ill mother and i have found myself finding it harder and harder to deal with the grief i feel day to day.

I have been diagnosed with depression and have been dealing with it for years without too much trouble but everything is getting overwhelming. Recently (last 2 to 3 months) i have found myself feeling lonely even when i have people around me. I do not know if i have followed the guidelines alright but any help or advice would be welcome and i am grateful for you taking the time to read this.

[Matchy69]

Hi Sock and welcome to the forums.This is a safe place to post.I know how hard it must be for you looking after your terminally ill mother.I to was a full time carer for my terminally ill month to she passed.I to have a depression and found watching someone you live deteriate very hard.My mother was stuck in bed most of the time and was very hard to get it up and to take her to chemo.

I understand about your loneliness.You need to take out time for yourself and wondering if you have someone that comes in and helps so you can have a little break.Have you talked to your doctor about your depression and what suggstions they had like medication or just talking to a pschologist.Have you got close family and friends someone you can talk to all just have a cuppa with you.

I really understand your situation and know the struggles you are having and will have.

Tale care,

Mark.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Sock, welcome.

The spelling and grammar is no issue, and as Mark said, it's a safe, moderated, friendly, caring place here. But I understand the anxiety etc around joining and whatnot.

I'm sorry to hear about your terminally ill Mum, and you looking after her and getting a diagnosis of depression.

We're here for you.

[geoff]

Hello Sock, it's not easy to be a carer for someone, especially your dear mum, simply because her condition can slowly deteriorate, unbeknown by you since you look after her every day, that's when it's so difficult to actually know but it can certainly affect how you feel yourself, and unfortunately, depression is possible along with other concerns.

This may happen when you least expect it and when you aren't prepared to ward it off, and it may begin on any particular day or after an appointment when trying to achieve something that was easier before, but having difficulty.

Try not to let the thought of mis-spelling affect your confidence with other people, you can get a spelling check add-on, which will underline any word that's misspelt, I always use it.

See how you go.

Geoff.

[Sock]

Thankyou everyone for your kind words to answer matchy69 i am on medication but i do not really have the time to see a therapist where mum gets treated is over an hour away so it is hard to find time for other things.

I also do not have any other family just me and mum but i have a really good friend circle they are very supportive but they don't really do the whole emotion thing.

to Geoff i have an spell check and i hope it helps get my point across i know how some people are about grammar and spelling so i am trying my hardest to make sure these posts make sense grammatically.

i have found it surprising the ways my mental health can affect me what coping mechanisms to deal with your mental quirks have you found that help with day to day life ?

[Matchy69]

Hi Sock Thank you for getting back to us.I am glad you have a close circle of friends I hope you can find some comfort in having them.I know about not being able to find time for yourself.Chemo use to be a whole day at the hospital and other days their always seemed to be someone coming around or me looking after mum.One thing I will say one thing is try and enjoy some quality time with your mother if you can.Talk to her about family things or what ever and enjoy being with her and listening to her.I wish I had done more of this.

These forums are a great place for you to let out how you are feeling and how you are copping and their is no shame in saying your struggling.Where here for you .

Tale care,

Mark.

[quirkywords]

Sick I make more typos than anyone on the forum and some have been embarrassing .

your posts are clear and I welcome you to this supportive forum.

I write a journal, and use words to help me express myself.
I try to do tasks by doing them in small chunks.

on the threads you will see lots of helpful coping mechanisms .

take care

quirky