I don't know where to begin...

flyonthewall · ‎02-11-2016

Hello,
For months now i have gone through these forums and found it helps me during my lows to know i am not alone. So today i took the leap and created a user account so i can submit my first thread.
Whilst growing up i have had to deal with an alcoholic father, whose mother was emotionally and physically abused. By the time i was 15 my mother moved out with my two sisters, it seems there would be light at the end of the tunnel. Yet my father continued to harass my mother and emotionally abuse myself and my siblings. After the divorce my mother started dating this guy, who turns out to be similar to my father but worse. After years of sexual harassment and my younger sister suffering sexual abuse, we were able to get a 12 month intervention order to remove him from our lives. I haven'y seen him since.
After all this i held a stable job which i loved for 4 years! Life was improving. Until my position was made redundant nearly 12 months ago.
It wasn't until this event of losing a job i loved and being transferred to a position which i learnt i get no enjoyment out of, i realised that i need to get help.
I talk to my partner of 12 years about my feelings of worthlessness , unable to cope with basic tasks and anxieties. He has known and i know that i need help, but struggle to find the courage.
I think i worry the doctor won't believe me and blow me off. I thought i found a GP i wanted to tell my issues about but now feel uncomfortable around her because of her body language.

I'm sorry this is a long post, but i felt like i needed to share my story a little.

Moonstruck · ‎02-11-2016

Hi flyonthewall - so glad you have reached out here. You will get some supportive and loving advice I am sure - better than I can give. What a past you have had, but that is what it is - past. You survived. And you will survive this horrible job loss too. I went through it some years back and know how much of a personal, and financial, blow it is - of course you need some help now.

Please do seek it - your GP should be able to refer you to free counselling sessions with a psych or similar - it is perfectly understandable you find it hard to cope with basic tasks and anxieties - losing a job you love is a traumatic experience. Of course your Dr will believe you - if he/she doesn't, she isn't much of a Dr sorry to say.

I am interested in her body language, that made you uncomfortable - how was she sitting, standing etc?

You have done the right thing in sharing your story with us - and I wish you enormous good wishes and luck!

You will get through this - take care, Moon S

flyonthewall · ‎02-11-2016

Thank you Moonstruck for your kind words. It is such a relief to know people are listening and understand.

The GP i was seeing in regards to physical illness would always stand when i was sitting and would lean across her desk. I just felt like she was very intimidating, not someone i could open up to.

I guess when i do find someone i feel comfortable with, i am just struggling on how to start the conversation.
Do you know a particular forum category that discusses when people first got help?

Thanks for listening!

Moonstruck · ‎02-11-2016

Try "Treatments, health professionals, therapies"......about experiences with GPs etc.

Hey folks, is this the right direction in which to point this fly on the wall? (someone on here will know better than I probably - there is also the Ask Dr Kim category - I believe she answers her questions once a week.

Your GP stood up while you were sitting? never heard of that before. She does sound somewhat intimidating I must admit....seems more like a school teacher. perhaps she was "leaning into you" to convey a sense of closeness or something?

If you feel like chatting in a light hearted vein, have a look inside the BB Cafe - you can relax there and maybe have a laugh. You would be very welcome - it may give you a bit of a break from what is worrying you so much at the moment......wishing you a peaceful night flyonthewall........(fascinating name)

Doinmyheadin · ‎03-11-2016

Don't know where to start, who does ? Ok, I'm semi normal person, been through way too much of all kinds misery. This isn't about me & I have not clue what to do now. The person with the problem is living right next door, & the problem this person has is OCD or OCDPD, it's bad real bad, diagnosed but seems untreated & outta control. I moved into this unit complex I unknowingly became the main focus of the OCD & it's making my life not so happy Jan. It's the kinda OCD where everything about me, everything I do, doesn't meet thier approval & when compulsed to get stuck in to me, telling the managers & all other residents/body Corp, scandalous sorted tales that my very boring day to day life has been twisted into by the OCD. Omg, there's definitely a themed obsession with the stories & had to clear things up with the managers, I have approached the only child & the only person who visits said neighbour, after several blow ups, 6 months of venting at me directly on top of the sorted story mill. I understand it's a medical condition & can't help it, managers spoke to them, the child doesn't know any better or doesn't/ can't deal with it. I have my own medical syndrome I have to manage daily, with no treatment or cure, it keeps me up at nights with pain issues ect, I might stay up those nights watching tv or doing something quietly, or get up at 3 am, I roll with the ups & downs, I do as much on days I can, non work days I might sleep in late, or all day if I feel I need. I have a semi irregular routine dictated by the management of my syndrome, I fight mine everyday. I call in friends to help me when I need help with pain Ect, day or night any time I need. I have friends a great support network. My neighbour was told to get help, talk to someone & hasn't, yesterday I called in a friend to help me after a really bad pain night & next thing I hear neighbour has manager bailed up telling stories, I have my plate full dealing with my own stuff, my syndrome/routine cannot change to suit thier problem, I can't move right now & managers can't do much, I can't even have visitors or do normal things with out some big hoo ha from next door. It's all getting me down & at times frustrated & angry. My patience is getting thin, it's only a matter of time before it all blows up or I do. It's thier medical problem not mine, they need help & to get it under control. I don't know what to do, it has nothing to do with me what so ever. How do you get help for this person ?