Hi, welcome
We are not professional medical staff, we have mental illness ourselves so we cant diagnose. Best that your anxiety issue gets a GP opinion first.
But I assume your alcohol addiction is a big part of the problem. AA might be the first point of call. It might be time to attend their organization.
Social? Well have you tried arriving at a venue your partner is already at - say at half time? Or leaving earlier? Many of us here suffer from social anxiety as we feel isolated due to our illness. It isn't unusual and we try to accept it, we cant all be social butterflies. Keeping ones distance has its benefits like less chance of abuse, we protect our sensitivity and choose our friends more carefully all in the name of protection.
Finally- a passion. Some people sadly never have a passion. My last relationship we went to a counselor. I had my passion of model airplanes and because I was manic I'd stay up till the early hours of the morning gluing and building. My partner, she'd enter the hobby room and blast me for doing my passion. When explained to the counselor the counselor turned to my partner and asked her "and do you have a passion"? Her answer was no and therein lies the problem, that those without a passion often cant relate to one that does.
How do you get a passion? Well you cant just choose one, it has to be...well a passion. You can introduce into your life some activities like following a footy team, cricket, taking up volleyball, restoring cars or even Suduku like my wife has. You could try things like parachuting, hot air ballooning caravanning/camping etc. One of these could end up a passion.
What I do know is that if you pick up a passion or interest your attention will wain from the alcohol and the see-saw will right itself easier than - just trying to wean yourself off the drink.
I hope that helps
TonyWK
