Hello I guess

[Atlas_Girl]

hi everyone, uh im not really sure what to wright here but here goes nothing i guess.

i havnt been on here for too long but i guess that this is the best way to tell people whats going on in my life with out actually telling people if that makes sense? anyway, sometimes i just feel very alone and like i dont belong even tho im surrounded by heaps of my friends and even family and latley ive just been feeling really down and tired and i dont know why, like i try to be happy but it just doesnt work and then my parents get mad at me and its this whole thing but anways i was just hoping that someone on here might feel the same or understand....

idk bye for now i think (im still not really sure how this works)

from A

[Gambit87]

Hi Atlas.Girl,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums!

I cant relate with how you are feeling enough!

For years I had felt a sadness, loneliness and emptiness I couldn't describe, every though I have wonderful family, friends and a loving partner. When I was growing up mental health wasn't really talked about so you just kept whatever you were feeling to yourself. I didn't talk to any of my family/friends because I couldn't really describe what I was feeling and I kept thinking who would want to listen to me?

So I just repressed it and put on the happy mask. Sure there were times were I felt great but the sadness,loneliness and emptiness was still there. I never talked about it or sought help and about a month ago I had a bit of a break down.

This opened up my eyes, my support network (something I thought I didnt have or deserved) has been phenomenal and I am getting the help I need.

My advice - Do not be afraid to talk! talk to your friends, open up to your parents (as hard it may be) and use services like the beyond blue forums! there's probably more then a few people on here that feel/have felt the same has you do.

You're worth it! your mental health is worth it.

[quirkywords]

Atlas girl,

Thanks for your first post and welcome to this supportive forum.

You can tell us as much or little about yourself. It is up to you.

It is hard when you feel people don't understand you and your parents seem to get mad at you over little things.

hanks again and welcome.

[Guest_4643]

Hi Atlas.Girl, welcome to the forums.

I'm sorry that you're feeling alone and the other feelings you mentioned, and you're just struggling overall.

I personally find that having mental health makes you feel alone, even though there's unfortunately SO many people worldwide dealing with mental illnesses too. It's common, mental health is similar yet different to everybody, for a few reasons. Just like meds, treatment (including therapists), coping strategies, etc.

Sometimes it helps to know that you're not alone and get that reassurance from somebody, even strangers like on these forums.

I'm sorry that your parents get mad at you, they should be more understanding and supportive, and try to see how they can help you more. There's plenty of websites like BB where they can search things like that to get advice.

Do you have a therapist at all, or even a GP if you don't mind me asking?

Remember, you don't have to always be happy. You're allowed to feel tired, depressed, all of those feelings and more, it's normal. It's OK to have bad days, where you don't feel up to doing anything or talking to anybody. Just tell yourself those things and other positive uplifting things.

I hope you can find some support here on the forums, and I hope your parents can become more supportive of you, and whatnot.

Love and hugs, please take care of yourself.

Tayla x

[Atlas_Girl]

thank you guys so much, it feels really good to be able to talk about it ❤

I'm not sure how to tell my parents about tho as my dad thinks mental illnesses come from bad parenting. My mum knows about my anxiety but i'm not sure how to re start the conversation with her and tell her that i think i may need to see someone. I donno maybe i'm just over reacting but you guys have been so nice and helpful xx

Gambit89- thank you, its really comforting to know that someone else has gone through the same thing ive been through and came out the other side better than ever xx

Quirkywords- Im a 14 year old girl from Melbourne vic, i love netball and animals and im in year 9 at high school. what about you?

Tayla- wow you seem like such a nice person and im so happy ive you you on here. no i havnt talked to a therapist, my school councilor or a GP because i feel like other people need their help more than me if you get what im saying

hope to talk to you soon

A.

[Guest_4643]

Hey Atlas.Girl, sorry for my slow replies!

Aw thank you for saying that you think I'm a nice person and you're happy to have me here, that means so much to me. The same goes with you, I really appreciate that. You made me feel a bit better so thank you very much! You're lovely yourself, inside and out!

I understand what you mean, but you're just as deserving as everyone else is, remember that. You're brave to join the forums, I believe in you. I hope I can support you somehow.

Hopefully we can be friends on these forums and chat more, I wish I could be your friend in person and give you a real hug though, aw. I'm 20 by the way.

But have a huge hug and lots of love. Love, your friend,

Tayla x

(Sorry again for taking ages to reply!)

[Atlas_Girl]

omg im so sorry for taking so long to reply!! this weeks been a bit of a hard week so reading your message really brightened up my day 🙂

i was just wondering if you had any tips for surviving high school because lately ive been finding it really hard... anyway, is there anyway i can help you? i know that there probably isnt but i just wanted you to know that im here for you even if it doesn't seem like it...

talk to you soon

A

[Gambit87]

Atlas.Girl said:

i was just wondering if you had any tips for surviving high school because lately ive been finding it really hard...

If I were to do high school again heres what I would do -

Don't be afraid to seek help from your teachers if you need help with your classes!

speak to the school councilor (im assuming they still have them?)

speak to your mates.

High school is hard (especially years 11 and 12)... Don't be pushed into thinking you need to figure out what you're going to do for the rest of your life right now. Don't be pressured into thinking university is the ONLY way to make it in life.

remember to take some time out for yourself and do the things you enjoy doing!

[Guest_4643]

Hey Atlas.Girl. No worries about the slow reply, thank you for replying again!

I agree with you, Gambit has good suggestions. I had to leave high school in year 10 so 2015 because it was making me mentally and physically ill, I enjoyed some classes and teachers but other than that. I did my best and it was hard and I couldn't do it anymore, sometimes I wish I stayed but I also don't.

I know you're here for me and it does seem like it, so thank you, that means so much to me and I appreciate it a lot. I'm also here for you always too for anything. Just being there for me and chatting to me even a hello is enough for me, thanks again.

Love and hugs, take care, best of luck with everything. I'm always here for you. And yeah Gambits suggestions were good, I probably would've said the same but they beat me to it haha!

Tayla x