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Grief and anxiety

Ferddy
Community Member

Hi, my situation has been complex and very sad after the passing of my dad.

I never expected so much struggle and sadness after 3 and half year of this 

event.  Every day is difficult to reduce the gigantic anxiety even I'm taking 

medication seen a psychologist .

Lack of family and good friend is a drawback.

Looking to fin a group so get together and talk.

 

2 Replies 2

white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome,

 

Sorry to hear of your grief over your dad.  I lost my dad in 1992, I'm 67yo and still think about his wonder and love. That was 31 years ago!

 

So what can you do? That is the golden question. Coping with a death close to your heart - well there is no magic potion, however we can channel it somewhat to reflect in a more positive way.

 

Writing is my outlet and my therapy along with planting a rose in dedication and watching it grow and imagining my dad smiling at it. Keeping busy works and switching mindsets, more on that in an attached thread. 

 

I commend you for attending a psych as that sound avenue is rarely taken, great insight from you indeed.

 

I have a poem I've written many years ago that is for you today.

 

DAD’S WRINKLES

Soon it became obvious

As my ol’ man came of age

That the strain of life itself

Did complete another page

 

And as his ‘book’ filled up

To approach the final scene

I knew each wrinkle on his face

And which one came from me

And as I read the last line

Of the chapter not complete

It tells of his twilight years

That he knew he’d never meet

 

Dad was never scared to die

He faced it brave and strong

And I knew each wrinkle on his face

And where they did come from….

 

TonyWK

 

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/switching-mindsets/td-p/274532

 

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/depression-distraction-and-variety/td-p/275790

 

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/coping-with-grief/td-p/269738

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3aFh7OJMNA

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhrtbBrMQ1Y

 

Finally, this is an anonymous forum that has a great library, just use search. We dont have groups or meet ups. here. I'd be interested in your thoughts.

 

TonyWK

Mark Z.
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Ferddy,

 

I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine how hard it is for you.

And you are right that lack of family and close friends make it more challenging for you to walk out.

 

But don't lose hope, there are organisations providing various support including group support.

For example, have a look at the support groups facilitated by Griefline: Support groups - Griefline

 

Hope it helps a bit.

Mark