Feeling overwhelmed and losing confidence

[Candice80]

I have been working an industry effected by covid since March. I started my new dream job in February and 3 weeks later covid came into effect.

I was laid off for about 3 days and then asked to come back into work for 10 hours a week. My job was to answer all of the emails from couples getting married and worried about their wedding. Which was totally fine to start of with, but then 6 months in, I am still doing the same thing.

I have been feeling so overwhelmed, with all the negativity that comes from the job and feeling sad for everyone. And some couples have been quite rude and abusive. Not a whole lot, but enough to make me cry at times.

To top it all off, my boss is a little on the sleazy side and even honked at my breasts and makes sexual comments on a daily basis to me. He often massages my back and touches my hand over the mouse at my computer. I have been writing everything down about what happens, but I feel so guilty in doing so.

I have been making so many mistakes over the last few weeks and I’m just feeling so down on myself. I have just taken two days off for some rest and to try and feel better. And my boss is now cranky with me.

To top it all off, my husband and I are trying to buy a house and I just feel so lost in what to do.

Do I continue on with letting all this crap happen at work, do I stay and tell my boss to stop, I just feel so trapped in this job. I want to stay for all my clients and so we can buy a house, but I can’t stop making mistakes, and I feel so stupid at times, it’s making me doubt my work, not feeling like I’m good at my job. I just feel so confused.

Is anyone else dealing with a similar situation?

[P0L0]

Hi Candice80,

Welcome to the forums and congrats on reaching out for guidance, that is a big step.

When you experience couples who are saddened, distraught or angry, it can be that you are quick to either absorb their emotions and feel sad ourselves, or feel as if you are at fault. But the latter is definitely not true. You are only doing your job, and that is all the couples can ask of you.

To address your boss, and from what you have said, that is sexual harassment and that is illegal anywhere, especially coming from your boss. You should try to not feel guilty about writing these things down. That is the right thing to do and HE is in the wrong here, not you. If you wish, you can seek legal action against him under section 40 of the 1958 Crimes Act.

You said you have been making mistakes lately. Do not worry, we are all human and we all make mistakes. It's just that sometimes we can beat ourselves up about it, but you shouldn't. It's 100% okay to make mistakes.

Perhaps you could seek guidance from your husband. He is there for you, just like you are there for him. So ask for help if you need it, that's what partners and family is for.

Hope this helps,

P0L0