Family breakdown

[Auroramama]

Hi, I have had a horrible year this year. Throughout last year from nov- dec I proceeded to have somewhat of a breakdown, my family didn't really talk to me about my feelings, fast fwd to feb this year, my parents took custody of both of my small children, I broke up then reconciled with my ex. We are currently about to start the court process to get the children back, I am now 16 weeks pregnant, with no friends and no family contact at all. I am getting supervised visitation however my life has been thrown into turmoil due to the separation I have experienced. I was previously very close with my mother, we now haven't had contact since feb and I haven't had contact with my siblings or other family members either. I'm trying to stay positive with the new baby coming but the loss has left me feeling deep pain that doesn't subside easily. I'm posting here as I am completely lacking in grinds to talk to and feel very isolated.

[CMF]

Hi Auroramama and welcome,

First of all congratulations on the new bub coming but What an awful thing for you to have to go through, so sorry you had to experience all of that. I'm guessing your parents took custody of your children as you were unwell and couldn't care for them, which is a good thing but it is a shame you have had no contact with them. Is there a reason for this? Is your partner their dad also? Could he have helped look after them?

Have you had a chat to your GP about how you're feeling or are you seeing a psych at the moment? You have another little one on the way so it is really important you take care of yourself physically and mentally.

Hope to hear more from you.

Wishing you the best

CMF

[Auroramama]

Thanks for the reply,

yes that is the case, only instead of talking about it first they went ahead and did all of this. I am in regular contact with my psychologist, practicing dbt skills. The family breakdown has left me feeling drained. My partner is the father of my 1 year old and is the father of the baby in the way. I miss the family but at the same time I'm really upset and angry that they kinda kicked me to the curb when i could have used the support to get help as opposed to the estrangement. I'm hoping that I can get back custody of the little one before th year is out. My partner hasn't seen her since feb. it's really taking a toll on my mental wellbeing, lacking support is horrible esp when in this position.

[CMF]

Thanks for getting back to us,

I hope with the cbt you can start to feel better and stronger. It will be a journey but just take it one step at a time. Yes, it is sad they abandoned you when they could have been helping you to get your family back together at least for the sake of the children if nothing else.

Please post here whenever you feel you need to, there is lots of support on offer.

Take care

cmf