Don't know where to even begin.

[Confused30]

Hi,

I'm very nervous to post here, though I feel I need to reach out.

I dont know where to start, I've always felt like my issues are unimportant and just bottle them away.

Reading some of the other posts on here makes me feel awful for those people and one of my main issues I feel, is comparing myself to others. Which I know you shouldn't do but I can't help it.

any pointers on how to even begin would be greatly appreciated..

Thanks for taking the time to read my post.

[BballJ]

Hi Confused30,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

It is very common to be nervous to post here but one thing you need to be aware of, is that this is a 100% judgemental free zone and the people on here are just here to help and give advice where possible, most, if not all of us have had some experience with mental health so we are giving advice based on experience. It's ok to read other people's post and feel sorry for them but realising your concerns are just as important as everyone else's.

If you would like to just talk about maybe something that is on your mind, doesn't have to be everything all in one go, just something that comes to your mind and can start from there, this is not a race and all in your own time.

We are just here to help.

My best for you,

Jay

[Quercus]

Hi Confused30,

Welcome to the forums!

I felt exactly the same as you once. I would read the posts on the forum, feel my problems were nothing in comparison and instead of reaching out like you have I told myself I had no right to be depressed and I would just pretending until it went away. It was only after I had finally seen a psychiatrist and got a diagnosis that I felt entitled to come and speak at last. I regret that every day. Why didn't I reach out? Why did I struggle for so long unnecessarily?

So I think you are brave. Thank you for reaching out. Jay is right you are welcome here and regardless of what you are stuggling with people will try to help. Please keep talking.

[Croix]

Dear Confused30~

It's been a couple of days and you've been quiet - that's a great pity. Needing to reach out and then going no further.

You've already done the hard part and made your first post. What can I say to get you to continue?

This place deals with allsorts, both big and small. Many people that post come with the impression they are not important - they are. That others have things worse - of course, no matter what is wrong someone has a worse deal in life - though that does not matter either.

If I were you I'd start with just a couple of things. What is a major worry for you , and a bit about yourself: school, married, old-age, whatever - and talk about your life.

No big deal, just some scraps is fine

Croix

[quirkywords]

Welcome Confused30

Thanks for taking the first step in making your first post.

I can relate to comparing myself to others and to thinking I have nothing to worry about compared to others.The things is I have learnt we are all individuals and our concerns are important.

Croix, Quercus, and Jay all make good points.

It would be great to learn more about you, this is the place to reach out.

Take care

Quirkywords