Dealing with my mums mental health

[rh456]

Hi all

i am struggling right now. I live with my mum and at times it is very hard. We’ve both had of issues particularly recently (both physical and mental).

My mum has had throat clearing issues for the last couple of years. She has been to ent and gastro specialists who have cleared her sinuses and believe it could be reflux related. On top of that, in the last 6 weeks she has been without a car (thats another story). 

i have tried to be supportive as best i can. I have been calm (mostly) in my responses but if the answer is not what she wants to hear, she gets upset/rants or goes quiet. 

She has come out and said it wont be long, i wont be here long, Im fed up with life. 

im after some advice in how to respond to that. She has been eating less and less lately too (which i guess is normal at her age of 76). Im worried and have suggested she talk to someone again. (She said that they didnt help last time).  

i dont know what else to do. She has become very anxious, depressed and bitter. 
 
Appreciate any advice. 
i live in adelaide. 

[indigo22]

Hi rh456,

Thank you for reaching out again, it's been a while since you last posted.

I was carer for my mother so I know how difficult it can be, particularly if both of you are dealing with health issues. I would like to get a better picture of your situation.

Are you her carer?

Is she on medication for depression or being treated for it any way?

Is there a possibility of age related dementia?

Are you well enough at the moment to be able to deal with the situation?

I would like to support you and help if I can, I just need a bit more information in order to give you some advice.

indigo22