CANT BE BOTHERED

[Scotty_123]

Hey all

new to this but here it goes. Usually I’m a fit motivated social happy person but lately I have lost all motivation and can’t be bothered anymore I’m always tired I wasn’t sleeping well so saw my doc and got a natural sip to help sleep and it has helped but I’m still tired all the time. I think about going to work and that alone feels mentally draining and to be honest when I talk to people at the moment I’ll puta happy face but just want them to piss of so I can be alone sometimes I feel like I could cry for no reason. My body hurts I just want to stay at home and have a beer what is wrong with me

[smallwolf]

Hi,

Welcome to beyond blue. You should find this a safe place to post and won't be judged by others.

I think I detect some frustration in your post. Somewhat with yourself and work matters. But you have also detected a change in how you feel. Anxiety and depression can be worse if you don't sleep properly. At least that is what I have found. I would wake up in the middle of the night and then not go back to sleep for a couple of hours.

I know that you said you wanted your work colleagues to go away and that was something I felt. (I was doing multiple jobs at once.)

I would suggest that you look at the K10 check list at beyond blue. It will give you some guidance as to what to do next. And if you find that you need to see a GP then you should book a double or long booking. It should give you comfort of mind that you are not making it up and can work out how to manage it.

I have to put kids to bed. Back later.

Please come back and let me know how you are getting on

[Scotty_123]

Hey smalleolf

i was and still am a little having trouble sleeping but I’m a shift worker so that’s not unusual but lately it’s worse sometimes I wake up and then I feel like I have been awake for hours then my alarm goes off and I wake up was hard to tell when I was actually asleep so I saw my doc and got stuff to help sleep and that’s a little better but I still feel so tired my eyes always feel heavy my body always hurts accept when I train then after a while the aches and pains come back. I guess I just sort of feel like it does not matter what I do something always goes wrong. Then I think everyone would be going through something like this I just need to harden up and ride it out but it’s gett harder to do that sometimes I feel like crying for no reason and I think to myself wtf Is going on. I don’t know mate I’m also not really keen on talking about my feelings that’s why I’m talking to you I guess I don’t have the guts to talk to someone in front of me and when I think I might try I go blank or can’t get the words out so I just don’t talk at all. Thanks for your reply anyway

[Ggrand]

Hello Scotts,

Welcome to BB Forums..This is a caring, supportive and friendly community.I hope that writing down your story has helped in some way.
Writing your first post is very hard as is reaching out to others. Well done.

Depression, makes us want to stay in bed all day, it just zaps all our energy from us.. As well as keeping us up of a night with negative thoughts..

I try to distract myself when I start thinking negative things about myself, I do this by doing something I like to do..maybe mind challenging internet games, crossword, solitaire, etc, music, a hobby I like doing.. distractions your negative thoughts onto something you like doing gives our mind a rest...

Of a Night I start with guided meditation, followed by an instrumental of soft relaxing music, these two steps seems to calm my mind enough for sleep.

I don't know how you feel about maybe booking a long appointment with your GP who will be able to offer some professional support . they have numerous resources and might discuss medication that could help as well. It took me years of trying to fix myself on my own without help...I soon found out that with the help of professionals, depression and anxiety can be managed..

I hope everything works out for you, but I really would like it if you came back here and let us know how your doing..

Warm and caring. thoughts..

Grandy xx

[Scotty_123]

Hi grandy thanks very much for your response I appreciate your kind words

[smallwolf]

Scotty,

You said, "Then I think everyone would be going through something like this I just need to harden up". This is exactly what I thought. Each year however it just worse and and worse. Again, I thought it was normal. That is because it is not spoken of. It is not really a topic is conversation. You don't walk up to your friend and say "Hey I am feeling empty and lifeless today. How about you?". It was only after I reached breaking point that I figured something was wrong.

You also said "I don’t know mate I’m also not really keen on talking about my feelings that’s why I’m talking to you I guess I don’t have the guts to talk to someone in front of me". I can understand that. Have you thought of writing it down or using the posts here (in printed form) to give to your GP?" That would save you to going blank. But in all seriousness, if you did go a speak with the GP, the conversation is somewhat guided/directed by the GP so you have nothing fear really. At least that was my experience. I am not trying to put pressure on you, and if the anonymity works better for you then fine, but if it get worse then please refer to the this post again.

Like Grandy, I use a meditation of some sort. For me it is just sounds of waterfalls, cavern, rain, wind etc. Something that can transport me to another place. Something that I can listen to while I am reading in bed.

If you have any questions, let me know. Or if you want to rant or just chat 🙂 I am around most days.

Tim

[Ggrand]

Hello Scotty,

im just calling in to make a visit to you..and would very gently like to ask you..are you okay?.

I hope your day was/is a better day then yesterday...if every day is a little better then yesterday, I'm hoping one day tomorrow we will all be feeling okay..Looking forward to hearing about how your day was and how your feeling..

Warm and gentle thoughts

Grandy..

[cbell]

I identify with what you are saying and to know there is someone else experiencing the same helps- as I am also a shift and on call worker. Grateful to have a job but at what cost. Sleep- what is that? We are told we need a minimum but I have not had an 8 hour sleep for years, if any sleep at all. I am vary of sleep medication because of what I read - but I hope it works for you as the world looks different when we are well rested. Hang in there and keep posting.

[blondguy]

Hey Scotty123

Thankyou for being a part of the forum family and my apologies for hijacking your thread if thats okay 🙂

Hi cbell....good on you for posting! I think that Grandy and Smallwolf were talking about the benefits of meditation...not medication (if I have read that correctly) 🙂

Just a note on what you mentioned about sleep medication if I can....Sometimes a person's anxiety/depression levels may benefit from a small dosage of meds to help them sleep so they can function in their workplace more effectively on day by day basis (subject to their GP's advice of course) Thanks Cbell 🙂

Hi Scotty....I hope you are doing reasonably okay

My kind thoughts

Paul