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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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What can I do for my wife

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Hi I'm Sam 28 years old married 2 beautiful children and new to this sort of thing. I would rather talk over messages over a phone call as I don't want to cause any more trouble than we already have. My wife jodi would not be happy if she knew I was seeking help but I don't know where else to go or turn to for help. The issue is not with me I'm fine it's my wife jodi I'm really concerned for. She has spoken a few times of harming her self to make life easyer on me and the kids. And one night a few months back she had a failed attempt and wound up in hospital after eating all of her anti depressant pills. All of this has come about after she has done a few terrible things to me like lieing and having affairs with other people. I'm very strong and can look past all of this as my two children oliver 1 and Emilie 4 both need and love there mother. I'm a bit stuck on what I should do i love her and don't won't to get a phone call one day and have to tell the kids there mum isn't coming home any more. And here come the tears already. I'm pretty nervous writhing and very scared of what the outcome could be but I need some advice. I hope you guys could help thanks

Not in Kansas City anymore ToeToe.

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Hello to you all. I'm not feeling my display name at the mo, so please call me V. I had a freak out session in here on a thread I started that is waiting for the green light to be given, so I won't double up just in case. But having said that I am up and down and side to side, back to front and inside and out. I was taken completely by surprise with this onslaught of depression that is currently plaguing me; I'm kinda like a roo in the headlights. Like, whiskey tango foxtrot?! O.O I'm trying to get my head around what has happened. I am scared and unsure of where I am so I have been replying to posts in the hopes that 1. I become distracted from myself 2. I find some semblance of solace and 3. ..? to be continued I guess. Unsure. But one thing I really want you to know is the value in the posts I read and/or respond to. Please keep posting, even if you may feel it is irrelevant, to someone like me - it just may save a life. So thank you. Really, thank you for allowing me to see I am not alone in this. V.

Feeling alone

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Hi there Am new to this forum. Just having a bit of bad day. See I have a few of these. I suffer from depression. I take medication and have been to counselling. Do you sometimes feel like you talk and talk but are still getting no where. I lost my dad a year ago, and now both my parents are passed away. My brothers and sisters don't communicate with me. Feeling alone as I used to be able to talk to my dad about anything without judgement. I have opened up to friends but I feel that you keep on saying the same thing to them all the time and that they are sick of hearing me say the same thing. My current partner is going through is own issues and really doesn't want to hear about my stuff, so I can talk to him. I have a teenager daughter who I tend to yell out when I'm frustrated. Just feeling very lost and alone.. I am also struggling with my weight and struggle with any motivation. I work full time and even struggle to do this some days. I suppose putting this post on maybe I can just communicate through here without feeling judged. Thank you for reading. Lou

odd feelings for a man.

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Hi everyone, I won't beat around the bush. I am married all children grown up and living their own lives now. trouble is I get mixed signals about myself for men and it bothers me. I have a good friend who is gay and openly admits he is.. We are pretty close as it were but nothing sexual between us.. But if he is depressed or feeling blue and opens up to me about it, I get an erection for no reason other than empathy and wanting to be closer to help ease his pain. I stress it is not sexual. I am 65 and at my age erections are um hard to come by. So it bothers me that I can get one when talking to him over the phone or when he texts me about a problem he is having with himself. eg he felt sick today, been vomiting all night and wasn't in a mood for anyone except me. At one point he asked why I didn't come down to help him out a little. I was put off balance by this comment and for some odd bloody reason I got an erection. So anyone out there can answer that, let me know. There is nothing sexual between us. I must stress that over and over...We are very good mates and have been for over 40 years now.

Introduction, morning.

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Hello, as you can see I am new and the whole introductory thing via text has never been something I am good at, but perhaps this time I wont make myself seem like some sort of strange person. I guess I'll get into details as to avoid spamming your forums, which I found through a series of questions I posed to google and majority of them were answered by your helpful community members which interested me to have a look at this site, and thus I decided to make a profile here as I believe, or more so hope, that I can find some sort of answer to questions I pose about the state of my mind. A bit about myself personally, I am twenty two years old and am currently unemployed, though in a trades college which is breaking up my constant weeks of never leaving the house which can only be a positive, or so is what I am told in spite of my attitude towards most things having not shifted but that's probably on my half rather than anything else. I've held a strong, dislike for myself for many years and I believe that my family have known this through my actions, I can only assume this as they give the occasional probing question of my mental state of mind and I can only make the assumption, though they may simply just be checking. For a long time, I've had the thoughts of going to a GP about possibly getting myself evaluated, though I tend to have panic attacks when I'm in the process of actually talking myself into doing such things but I cannot continue on with having hatred for myself and what I do, nor can these irritating irresponsible thoughts continue to pester me. So, I need to do something about it, and I'm, trying. Sorry if that's a little, odd but I believe that's everything to know about me to understand what has pushed me here. Thank you for reading, and I hope to open up a dialogue so that we can discuss, and hopefully help one another. Have a good night, and enjoy your day. -LGSky.

Who to turn to

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Hi All sorry this is my first post and not sure if this is even the right place. I just needed somewhere to write down what I was feeling or should be feeling so I apologise if this is more a ramble. I've been married 26years and have 3 great children. I have no friends as I thought my husband was the only friend that I would ever need but in the last two years he has been sick and he changed and everything I do is wrong and I'm so alone . My children are adults and moved on with their lives as they should do and I have no one. My marriage is a mess and was told by my husband that there is no chance that he would ever care about me . I don't want to die but i want the pain I feel to end. I used to be physically abused by my husband and he stopped that thankfully years ago but somehow being told by him that I'm worthless and he doesn't care about me and that everything I say is just verbal diarrhoea somehow hurts way more than being hit ever did. I just don't want to spend all my time thinking that he's right and I'm useless. Then again maybe he is just right about that and I'm not supposed to have anyone thank you for letting me write this

Hashimoto and depression

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Hi I'm new here, I'm a 24yr old female and have recently been diagnosed with hashimoto disease. The main symptoms I have is extreme fatigue and depression. Even with the right medication I still experience it. Does anyone else suffer from hashimoto, ... View more

Hi all ! I'm new to this forum

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Hi all! . I have for most of my life lived with PTSDwhich I was Recently told by my physchiatrist who I have been seeing on and off for the last few months . I have three awesome boys and a loving supporting gorgeous wife . So why do I feel anxieties , overwhelmed , sometimes over react and be aggressive , but on the other side I'm caring , considerate and generally a good bloke.. I'm just very sensitive to other people and if cornered I come out and unleash hell on them verbally without thinking or taking a deep breath and letting it go. My councillor called it flight or fight . It's my defence mechanism??? My child hood was sometimes a violent place which disturbed me and could always remember pulling the rugs up over my head so I could block out the screaming, the yelling the punching etc. Even in a hot summers night I would pull the rugs over my head to block out the noise and wake up in a ball of sweat. Iike I said I'm new to this and have started reading other forums . It's good to know that your not alone. There is a lot more in my life that's going on but I should be happy with what I have , in respect to my family is well and happy . Sometimes you feel like your dragging them down and they would be better off without me. I exercise don't do drugs and reasonably fit and at 47 I should be on top of things but you know what it's a day by day task. Some days are good and I'm happy others I'm down . Does anyone else resemble these feelings . I'd like to here from you

trying to meet new people

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Hi group.im Maxwell. I write here cause i like to help.if i succeed it helps me cope with myself. To know about other people trying hard.makes me .cause i was a competitive surfer. I also write songs and play guitar. Lately im trying to meet new people but i dont like it here.im from the north coast.as my name tag suggests. Anyway. I hope to be of help and support while im here. Max

Hi

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Hi All, I've depression and anxiety. (The joys) And sarcasm helps me get by. I try to keep positive but been having one too many "down days" Thus I have ended up here. Feel free to send a message, I'm generally friendly and don't bite View more

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