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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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My dark thoughts are getting worse

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Hi everyone, I have been suffering from anxiety and Depression for many many years, and it was only a month ago that my partner helped me to reach out and get help. I feel as though i am holding back tears about 70% of the time. I am constantly tired, lethargic and have absolutely no motivation whatsoever. I work 4 days a week, school part time 2 nights a week after work and on my Mondays i tend to be taking my grandfather shopping, to appointments, ETC. I have been getting extremely anxious before work, to the point now where my anxiety causes me to throw up. I just don't like the type of work i do (debts) especially when customers are talking about their situations and their own mental health, most times i can barely keep it together on the phone. I don't want to be at this job anymore, id really like to just take things one step at a time, so that i am not so busy all the time, and can focus on getting my physical health back on track. My self esteem is so low i actually avoid reflections of myself, and my weight gain has not helped. HOWEVER, my work has been so understanding with all my time off, I feel as though leaving would be throwing away a good thing i definitely cant afford not to work, especially with my study. And some days i have extreme clarity and i wonder if maybe i am just lazy, or letting it get to me too much? anyway i could go on for days but if anyone else has been in a similar situation or has any advise or help let me know. I really really need it.

I just want a simple life!

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Hi I am a nearly 40, diagnosed Mental Illness Warrior & Worrier with 3 years of sobriety under my belt. I started back in the workforce a year ago. And I was like yeah! I got this. But no. My mental woes are causing some internal grief. Due to poor treatment in the past filled with stigma and judgement, I am really fearfull of losing my job and my life going down the spiral and coming undone. I have worked really hard. But for now I can not get myself out of the house. I am so exhausted from constantly having to check myself and some days I can't even try. Why am I not always in the drivers seat? Why do I feel like a passenger in my own body & mind? Sitting and watching. Seeing what I am doing, but powerless to stop it. So confused and anxious

My Introduction to the forums

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You would take one look at me at think this guy has no reason to be depressed. Around friends and family I am always the one who makes a joke out of everything and gives the impression that I am just a laid back bloke who doesn’t have a care in the world. That’s on the outside, but deep down I feel empty. I guess I have been feeling like this for a lot longer than I care to admit but these last few years, which should have been my best, have probably been the worst. Came to Australia when I was 23, leaving my family behind to seek security and fortune. I married at 24, had a child when I was 26 and everything looked rosy. Unfortunately, the marriage didn’t work and was divorced in my early thirties. Straight forward separation, no animosity. It was about this time that I got a job working offshore, (a job I have been doing for 25+ years). Everything was looking good again. I had a very well paid job with lots of time off to enjoy being single. I was a skirt chaser and out at the bars and clubs every weekend cos I could. I had a few relationships but none of them lasted, quite simply because I was happiest being single, or so I thought. A very high percentage of offshore FIFO workers suffer depression but wont admit it, I am one of those. By the time I reached my mid fifties I thought it was time to settle down again and started taking relationships more seriously. I met, and married my current partner 2 years ago. We started out fine at first, but our relationship is in a downward spiral for various reasons, mainly me finding it hard to adapt to a blended family. I am now 60 and semi retired, have a very nice home, have all the boys toys, boats, bikes, caravan etc, large super fund to finance my retirement. but still feel empty. I find myself withdrawing from society, even going out of the house to the shops is an effort. I can’t handle crowds and noisy people, I get irritated very easily but keep it locked inside. I just put it down to grumpy old man syndrome. I have always been active during my time off. Not sport active but always busy around the property building, renovating and general maintenance. These days I find it an effort just mowing lawns. I guess just writing this down and sharing it with someone is the first step for me. Discussing it with my wife should be the first step but how do I discuss it when our marriage is part of my problem. Anyway, thanks for reading and look forward to all your comments.

Can't Sleep

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Hey guys, Not sure how appropriate my issue is, but for the last 3 nights I haven't been able to sleep. Almost at all. Cumulativly over the 3 nights I have had about 8 hours. Not falling asleep till 4-5am. (Currently writing this at 2am) Never had the problem before, it's concerning because I feel nervous and anxious as soon as I start thinking about sleep. My chest becomes tight and my heart beat increases as soon as I lay down and any feeling of tiredness seems to not exist. I can't escape thinking about why I can't sleep or how desperately i need sleep, yet sleep won't come. Have tried all the common suggestions, removing yourself from screens, reading before bed, relaxing music and recently brought some insomnia vitamin/pills from Woolies. Nothing seems to be helping. Its become a concern now as I am about to call in "sick" to work for a 3rd day. Have yet to see a doctor but plan to do so tomorrow, I am a bit reluctant as I don't like the idea of sleeping pills that I assume they will prescribe (have had heard bad stories of addiction and not being able to sleep without them once they star) i guess I am asking if this would be what people would classify as stress or anxiety, my only issue is that I can't identify any particular recent event that has caused this. Just one night it started? Any tips, stories/experiences that anyone could share would be helpful. Thanks, Dan

Is it too late?

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I am struggling and feel that its too late to fix the things and people I have damaged through my struggle with mental illness. I have borderline, and anybody else out there would now the complexities involved with with this and the impacts that it has on the people who you love. The problems I have are so multifaceted I don't know where to start. I have had intensive therapy which concluded about 18 months ago (DBT) I feel within myself that I have more control and better management strategies, but the fall out from years of unintentional abuse to my wife and children has had consequences and I am struggling to cope with the distance I have created and cannot bridge the gap. I feel maybe its too late to undo the damage I have created..I have had hope, but this is failing as I cannot seem to make headway with my relationships. I am lost and don't know where to turn.

Suffered from mental illness for over 20 years. Largely undiagnosed.

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Another relationship. Another break up. This time I was sure it would last. This time there was a child as a result. But once again my so called mental illness sabotaged everything. At the time its like you're under water and your oxygen is slowly running out. You know its going to happen. That its going to end but you're powerless to stop it. Its not until its all over and you finally reach the surface to breathe. But the boat has left for shore. Its too late. The sharks cirlce again.

Newbie... University kicks my butt sometimes!

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Hey guys, So this is my first time ever posting on a forum about my life. Umm, I guess I will start with a little bit about me. I have suffered from anxiety and depression since 15 years old. Struggling with being bullied at school, I developed an eating disorder, which led to server depression and slowly morphed into me feeling like an empty shell, an altered version of who I remember being. My early 20's saw a heavy reliance on drugs and alcohol before an inevitable break down. It was really difficult coming to terms with knowing I didn't have the answers or correct tools to help myself. At the time, I sought out a psychologist and got the help I needed. It has been nearly 7 years; I'm studying full time at uni and get so angry and frustrated with myself sometimes. I had this idea that my depression and anxiety was a phase and I'd do the hard work and then it would just go, leave my body and some how this 'normal life' would just start to happen, and I'd be living it and barely remember my past...this is obviously not reality. I'm currently struggling with uni, I best describe it as 'dragging myself through mud;' some days I am motivated, some days my chest hurts with anxiety, and some days I just cry. Guess the whole point of this post is just to say that I'm now starting to work through the next section of my life; Living with anxiety and depression. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and allowing me to lighten my load just a little. Kind regards.

How do i delete my account?

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Hi i want to delete all my posts and remove myself completely from this website but can't seem to find an option anywhere.Could i get some help please?

Newbie

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Hi I’m new to all this, what it’s all about?

Lonely newbie

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Hello. This is the first time I've posted in an online forum. I'm 44 years old & embarassed to find myself with no friends. I've also been estranged from my family since the age of 15. I work full-time, have a lot of hobbies and volunteer with 2 different organisations. My life is busy and productive but the lonliness is getting hard to deal with and I'm worried I'm turning into a person that I don't want to be. I'm also worried that people are able to up on my sense of sadness and this is making it hard for me to make friends. Is there anyone experiencing a similar situation?

Meet your community champions! replies: 10

HELP..Am I posting in the right section? replies: 10

My dark thoughts are getting worse replies: 4

I just want a simple life! replies: 1

My Introduction to the forums replies: 1

Can't Sleep replies: 1

Is it too late? replies: 7

Suffered from mental illness for over 20 years. Largely undiagnosed. replies: 1

Newbie... University kicks my butt sometimes! replies: 6

How do i delete my account? replies: 3

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