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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Tim1982 Anyone else have same sensations?
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Hi all, Last 3 to 4 weeks has been a rollercoaster for me. I'm hoping I'm not alone on this. It all started after my ears blocked up from wearing airpods, or at least I assume that is the cause. My ears got better, but I became impatient and stuck a ... View more

Hi all, Last 3 to 4 weeks has been a rollercoaster for me. I'm hoping I'm not alone on this. It all started after my ears blocked up from wearing airpods, or at least I assume that is the cause. My ears got better, but I became impatient and stuck a cotton tip in my ear and felt like I pushed wax back in and got a sudden ringing in my ear. Sometimes I think I hear it in my other ear also. One side of my face felt numb and also that side of my head. I went to the emergency and they said they couldn't see my ear drum but I had a lot of wax in it. They checked the nerves in my mouth, eyes and ears and all was fine. They told me the sensation feelings where normal. I saw a doctor a few days later and they told me it was normal also and prescribed me antibacterial drops incase of infection for 7 seven days. I moved to Adelaide in the meantime, and decided to see another doctor who syringed my ear and said I had a pimple and scratch in my ear and give it time for the ringing to go. He also said the numbness feeling in my head was normal. Since the ringing, I feel like I'm coming down with all these symptoms and I'm constantly thinking or stressing over it. Sometimes, I feel like my head feels normal but then it goes back to how it was slightly numb or I get a what feels like tension. I googled my symptoms and the worse results came back which put me in panic mode. Saw another doctor and they said I had fluid behind my ear drum and it could take up to 6/8 weeks to go away. I Explained everything else and she said it's cause of anxiety/stress, which I have a history of but Ive never felt some of these symptoms before. - tight jaw - tight nose - eyes feel funny - sometimes I get aches in legs and one arm - head gets tight - but mostly I have this slight numbness feeling on one side of my head. Most of these come and go but has anyone ever had a tension or numbness feeling in one side of the head? Sometimes it feels like it's always there and then for moments it feels like it is gone. The doctor has told me it's nothing serious and if she believed it was, she would do the tests but believes it's normal and all signs of stress and anxiety. She has put me on anti depressants and set up a mental health plan. Just want to know if anything else gets funny head sensations. My thoughts keep going back to my head all the time.

Joule Boredom
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I have nothing to ,and I’ve lost motivation to do anything.That’s how hopeless I feel.

I have nothing to ,and I’ve lost motivation to do anything.That’s how hopeless I feel.

JustAnYtka Hello, I'm new here.
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Heya! I'm Bee. I decided to join the forum to get support, as I've been really struggling lately. I have been diagnosed with depression for around 3 years now but it recently hit much harder so I thought I could use the extra support. I'm excited to ... View more

Heya! I'm Bee. I decided to join the forum to get support, as I've been really struggling lately. I have been diagnosed with depression for around 3 years now but it recently hit much harder so I thought I could use the extra support. I'm excited to get to know you all :). Hope you're all doing okay, Bee

spacecowboi Hello, nice to meet you. This is why I am here
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Hi All, nice to meet you. I will put this at the end too but also at the start in case anyone doesn't read to the end! I wish anyone in these forums all the best with theirjourneys and return to peak fitness. You all deserve it, I'm sure. Quick Summa... View more

Hi All, nice to meet you. I will put this at the end too but also at the start in case anyone doesn't read to the end! I wish anyone in these forums all the best with theirjourneys and return to peak fitness. You all deserve it, I'm sure. Quick Summary: I wouldn't say I'd strike you as someone who's struggling. I've had a pretty fortunate life. I often semi-joke that I wish things hadn't been quite so easy because I've not toughened up to the world I sometimes end up struggling in. That's not to say I haven't done anything tough. Anyway, I am kind of starting in the middle here with what I wanted to say. I find myself this year at 40 years of age in the midst of a lot of change. New job I'm not sure I like (or will be good at), new colleagues who I'm not convinceed I'll get along with (or will get along with me), about to become a father again, only 18 months after the first which brings a lot of happiness - but at the same time makes me feel incredibly trapped in a way. So much I did in life allowed for escape but marriage and children, despite how in love I am with all of them, stresses me out due to how permanent it is. I like choice and I guess as I get older, I feel my choices are narrowing and the conequences of making mistakes get higher and higher. I am also sadly, someone who can see the good and bad in everything, which means even the parts of my life that are near-on perfect I can easily spoil for myself. I am a realist (I don't live in a dream) but not always someone that can cope well with reality. I'm also quite self aware which again might seem like a good thing, but again means I know most of what's wrong with me, understand what I've done wrong in my life and also the consequences of that but also am quite stubborn & often repeat the same mistakes again (over-eat, don't exercise enough, don't try hard enough at work, drink too much). So I am a great observer and critic of myself. And at the moment with so much change in my life, I think my base happiness and ability to cope with the knocks and blows I am dealt (and deal myself) is getting shaken. Add Covid to that and some of the issues that has created for me and my family and yes, I feel like I'm at a low point and I am worried my resilience will drop to a point where I won't recover. And that's why I am here. So, thanks in advance for any support or advice on offer. And again for anyone that did read to the end, all the best with your own journeys and recoveries.

Leejoy Lost
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I was seeing a guy for a few months and we ended just recently. I am beside my self and completely heart broken, I am really struggling to get out of bed and have lost my appetite. My family is trying to be there for me but I lock my self In my room ... View more

I was seeing a guy for a few months and we ended just recently. I am beside my self and completely heart broken, I am really struggling to get out of bed and have lost my appetite. My family is trying to be there for me but I lock my self In my room and shut everyone out, I know this isn’t normal because some people prefer to be surrounded by loved ones at times like this although I just want to be alone, even though I know it’s not helping me at all. I’m extremely conflicted at the moment and I’m denial that it is over between myself and this guy, I have not contacted him nor tried to reach out in anyway although he calls each day then hangs up instantly and tells me to “just block my number” I don’t get it and it’s really affecting my mental health, we proceed to send around 6 messages each way then he leaves me on read until he decides to call the next day or whenever it may be. What does this mean ? Has any one experienced the same thing ? Please help

Be_Who_You_Are New to this Forum
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Hi Everyone I am Amanda and I suffer from Social Anxiety. I am tired of suffering alone and no-one understands how I am feeling. I just want to connect with people who feel the same.

Hi Everyone I am Amanda and I suffer from Social Anxiety. I am tired of suffering alone and no-one understands how I am feeling. I just want to connect with people who feel the same.

MainlyG Middle aged male from country Vic
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Hi all...an introduction firstly. I am 39 and have been living in regional Vic after moving from Melbourne 12 years ago. Like all. The last 24 months have been tough, well it's only really hit me the last 6 to 9 months I guess. The last 3 months have... View more

Hi all...an introduction firstly. I am 39 and have been living in regional Vic after moving from Melbourne 12 years ago. Like all. The last 24 months have been tough, well it's only really hit me the last 6 to 9 months I guess. The last 3 months have been toughest, with me accepting I may have anxiety (first time). With that has come physical issues that have affected my way of life. I'm 39, feeling 69 at the moment, but better than where I was 2 months ago, where I felt 89!

Broken_and_binned_ My head won’t stop spinning!
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Hi everyone I am really lost in life and thought I might be able to gain some support, understanding and just help really 路‍

Hi everyone I am really lost in life and thought I might be able to gain some support, understanding and just help really 🤷‍

Cool_Change A difficult place to begin
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Just today I have turned to Beyond Blue, and I'm embarrassed and distressed to admit to be in this situation. At 66 years of age, I'm living in a constant state of depression, anxiety and lack of confidence. It has gradually gripped me over a period ... View more

Just today I have turned to Beyond Blue, and I'm embarrassed and distressed to admit to be in this situation. At 66 years of age, I'm living in a constant state of depression, anxiety and lack of confidence. It has gradually gripped me over a period of many years. This has to stop, and get my happiness and confidence back. I'm at the top of my game in my professional career, but my personal and family life is destructing. I am unhappy in my marriage. Don't get on with my in-laws ... they are self centred and judgmental. Have lost most friendships. Have lost the connection to many important family members. People can pick up on this lack of confidence in me, and often I find myself in a position of having to defend how and why I do things, or otherwise this opens the door to be over ruled. This agitates me. I have just one close & valued friend who is important to me, but whom is not respected by the rest of my family. I can't allow things to get to the stage of losing this person. I have 2 grown-up children (and who have their own children). My daughter is supportive of me, however my son has no contact with me. This is not the way that I expected my life to be at. Not at this stage of my life.

Raeth666 New here. Stuck in place.
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Hi I'm new. Always decide not to continue when starting to make the account until today. I'm really not sure if I should waste peoples time with me tbh. I'm mid thirties. Have a job and a wife, its more than a lot have. I'm just stuck at that, my Job... View more

Hi I'm new. Always decide not to continue when starting to make the account until today. I'm really not sure if I should waste peoples time with me tbh. I'm mid thirties. Have a job and a wife, its more than a lot have. I'm just stuck at that, my Job is unfulfilling, and I'm stuck in the same role I've been in for 6 years. I've tried to study to get certifications to get higher, but my ADHD is screwing that up. I'd love to be able to go to a psychiatrist to get put onto stimulant medication as it worked for me when i was younger, but money makes that impossible. I pay almost half my pay on rent, the rest goes to bills and shopping. I make too much for my wife to get unemployment, however she's unable to work, but centrelink doesn't agree. 100% of my fortnightly paycheck is gone by the end of the first week. I've got no wriggle room for saving. So i can't afford to go to a psychiatrist, to get the medication, to help me study to improve my skills and get a certification, to get the higher pay to afford the psychiatrist... see the cycle? All of this has been weighing on me for about 3-4 years, and my mind is at breaking point. I've completely lost my motivation to do anything, and I'm not talented enough to really do any form of side hustle. The thoughts of not wanting to be here anymore are getting louder and louder. Putting on the mask is wearing me thinner and thinner. My wife has severe depression and anxiety, so i can't afford to let the façade slip even for a moment as when I do she zooms in on it, and won't let up. If i do share how down I am, she tries to "fix" it, and when that inevitably fails she's sent into a spiral of depression, and her anxiety flares up to the point she starts hyperventilating due to my father committing suicide 7 years ago. Add to this I don't feel wanted or respected at all at work plus it's now fulltime remote work, I have 1 single friend who's very busy all the time, a few online friends that are rarely around, my inability to make friends as i generally don't fit into any particular group, and my applying for new jobs has had zero progress... Basically i Know there's thousands of people in so much worse positions to me, and i don't really feel like I "Qualify" for any real help. I just don't know what to do anymore.