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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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I don’t exactly know what I am suffering with but some times I feel like I am my worst enemy

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At any point in time where I am facing some difficulties I can feel like my brain is shutting down on itself. And like my brain doesn’t even though I don’t think at all and that is somehow my coping mechanism now. Just to recap of that my dad passed away when I was 22 and add to her and me are pretty much. Right after that I got to know that someone I trusted have broken my trust completely and has no regard for me where as I put that person on very high regards. I was just broken and damage, I am the eldest and lots of things and my mother Is a housewife. My mother is a very strong woman but none of her children were very strong. The reason I consider why this happened it was because my mother had a very loving and caring and straight yet comforting Father. my father was strict and he never used to communicate with us at all. Therefore after he passed arrive or three of us just wrote program. I think we were waiting to grow at home so that he could be our father. We were waiting to get to know him and being able to talk to him. That missed opportunity just broke me into million pieces and I didn’t known how to coup up with that, no one guided me in using the best technique to coup up from that! i have a very weird wiring if mind and that is to hide my true feelings. I practically have to fight with my mind like Legit I have to put up arguments for myself in order to be able to speak if something is bothering me (i am changing a bit but yet). This has brought a lot of negativity in my life that I can’t even begin to mitigate. I have become a yes man kinda person. I watch a lot of TV just to ignore my feelings and that is how I can’t get anything done on time. I have never ever said these things out loud cause thats how I am. U know how long it has been!? I am 29 years old now. It has been around a decade. The anonymity and safety of this group compiled me to pour my heart out today. Specially because now I cant make any decisions and since I made one major decision recently I am in a turmoil that its wrong and I am going to disappoint my partner who is in my life for the long run. My brain is shouting at me that “its not a joke its your life you need to get your shit together or else if you keep on making such bad decisions you would end up divorced. And you don’t wanna get divorced you have a sweet thing going on for you.” The other part of me says with no regards if my well-being “who cares lets watch tick tock or a movie or a drama series” Lily.

My first post in a forum.

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Hi, I’m new to the forum. I have a mild case of depression and I’m doing really well. I am currently studying to be a counsel or so I can help or assist other people in a similar position as me.

I'm drowning please help me.

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OK newbie here, My partner and I have been together nearly 2 years and from the beginning I openly told Him I had many insecurities before we got serious I don't know how to turn this from long to short But basically he blames me for the now insecurities He has. I'd I asked to look through his phone he says It's because I'm guilty of something. I made mistakes in The beginning but never was unfaithful or dis loyal or Anything like that yet he still believes I slept around. If I get angry or upset about something he just calls me A narcassist and that's what I do. I love him so much But I'm drowning please help!!!!

Hi i'm super new to this and need help......

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Struggling with anxiety and depression. Started a new job 5 weeks ago and i feel like im drowning and not good enough. Feeling completely overwhelmed all the time and to be honest i think ive always had this problem and am realising this now after so... View more

Feeling down and talentless and numb

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Hi I've been feeling completely pointless today. Like I'm untalented in everything and any sort of idea of a job in my future doesn't appeal to me and makes me feel sad and horrible so why would I ever want to put myself into that position. I really want to do well with uni but I wake up wanting to sleep and don't know how to get out of this continuois slumber. I want to do things but I'm so tired and have no thoughts. It's like all my feelings are gone and I can't feel anything towards anyone or anything and I don't know how to feel again, but also I keep beating myself up because people are actually struggling and I keep complaining and being self-pitying and that doesn't feel like a valid reason to feel this way. I just wishi could stop feeling like this.

Depression has hit heavy and hard

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Hello everyone, I'm struggling quite a bit, so I have decided to join so I can hopefully get some help during these trying times. Here's a bit of background information: I have always suffered on and off with depression since I was quite young (I was a victim of parental abuse for almost a decade and believe I have PTSD from it). For the past year, I had a great full-time job, living with my partner of a few years, and enjoying spending time with my family. All of a sudden, after my contract ran out at my old job and I had to go into part-time work (in the same industry, but with half the hours), I have completely sunk to rock bottom. The intense wave of depression hit over a week ago and it has shifted my entire worldview and self-confidence, all of a sudden I am questioning my relationship, feeling worthless, and anxious about not being able to have kids and a family (I'm in my mid-twenties and most of my siblings have stable relationships with babies). I have told my partner about this, and she is devastated by this as it came from nowhere, and is having difficulties coping with my mental health and sudden doubts about our relationship. I feel completely horrible about this, and have even booked myself in to see a local therapist because the pain is getting so bad. I have a history of not loving myself, which makes me jump from one thing to the next, hoping to find something that makes me happy (only to discover once I have it that it was only temporary happiness). I'm hoping therapy will help, but I don't want to end up alone, I want a family but feel like I am too damaged, and by the time I fix myself it will be too late for me. Sorry if this is a convoluted post, my mind isn't coping well at the moment

Being gaslighted and other general work problems having a negative effect

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Hi All Thanks for having me online. I am single and live alone and have been like this for quite a long time. Being isolated is actually okay with me as I am a bit of an introvert and have many creative pursuits that can keep my mind occupied and curious for a fair amount of time. I'm generally an anxious person (because of experiences in my life) but I am finding my anxiety levels going through the roof over the last couple of weeks. The last day or two I feel like it has started turning into depression, I lack motivation, am tired, have cried a bit and am not interested too much in eating. It doesn't have to do with the isolation, it's actually my work situation. Working from home isn't a big deal. I have done it before, a lot. It has to do with one of my managers. He has been making me uncomfortable for months. He is a psychological manipulator and tries to turn things back onto me so I think I am in the wrong, when I actually haven't done anything. Recently, his behaviour has gotten much worse. He asks me to set up meetings with senior staff and then basically throws me under the bus in front of them to cover up his incompetence. It's humiliating. He put me on a project and when we had the client workshop he didn't introduce or acknowledge me the whole session, but he introduced the rest of our team. When I pulled him up on it later he acted like nothing happened. When my team is working on something he comes to me individually online and asks me to do something behind their backs. I tell him I need to let the group know and he says no - which then puts me in a situation that makes me look dishonest to the team. All these incidents go on. Like holding up 1 page of work for 6 weeks so I can't move forward with my work. He throws me into meetings when I don't know why I am there. He even put my name on a document as the author of it, it had been written by him and it wasn't accurate. I know I am not alone because another person has problems too, but I feel like I am going to have a breakdown. I literally feel like I can't cope and feel sick every time I have to deal with him or a situation associated with him. It's easy for him to hide behind his computer at home where no one can see him. I am in a position of not knowing who I can trust in the business - as I am constantly humiliated, feel used and I was fairly new before lockdown. Thanks for listening.

Self Discovery

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I thought about why I am at a point where I need support and this is what I feel. I moved here two years back and I still have no friends.I don't know how to go about making new friends not so much because I don't know how to join groups or activities but primarily because of how I feel about myself. - I feel like my personality isn't interesting/worth getting to know - I don't know what my passions and interests are any more. I feel disinterested in most topics. With these i struggle to make and keep a connection. My friends from back home are still my friends but I feel the lack of connection because I no longer know what is going on in their lives. I know that is partly because I don't ask questions often enough but I struggle with the realization that my existing friends don't view me as someone they want to reach out to and talk to about their lives. Is it because im a bad listener? Do I not show enough interest? I'm not sure. When I do join some group calls with friends I often feel like the dumb one. I'm not aware enough of the current world, i dont have a strong enough opinions, i dont have anything to contribute, im not smart enough...all these thoughts run through my head and I become a spectator.

Loneliness

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Is there anyone who is as lonely and unloved as me?

Hi! I’m new and struggling

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Hey everyone, I’m Lily. I’m 25 years old. I have had depression and anxiety on and off for a few years now, but for the past few months I have really struggled with depression. I’m seeing a psychologist who has been great, but I feel alone and reading the threads is helping me realise that there are many of you going through similar things. I feel like I’m struggling to the point that I almost just want to give up. Every day feels like an effort. I always feel tired and lacking in energy and I stay up late with my thoughts. I find it difficult to open up to people about how I’m feeling and I don’t even know who my true friends are to confide in. This has really bothered me lately and I feel more alone than ever. I’m getting admitted as a lawyer soon and despite this, because of my mindset at the moment, I am really lacking in motivation and have lost the drive that I once had. I am busy at work and I am hard on myself whenever I make a small mistake or don’t understand something. In my head I call myself terrible things. Any help or sharing of experience is appreciated

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I don’t exactly know what I am suffering with but some times I feel like I am my worst enemy replies: 5

My first post in a forum. replies: 19

I'm drowning please help me. replies: 3

Hi i'm super new to this and need help...... replies: 2

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Depression has hit heavy and hard replies: 4

Being gaslighted and other general work problems having a negative effect replies: 6

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