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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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joannamarie Myself
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I’m new to this. I want to know more about this program

I’m new to this. I want to know more about this program

Brige Hi everyone, this is all new to me
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Hi there, I’ve been kind of looking around here for the past day thinking if I should say hi. I’m a woman in my late fifties, work, have a partner. It’s been a bit of a difficult year as my partner was involved in a motor bike accident and suffered i... View more

Hi there, I’ve been kind of looking around here for the past day thinking if I should say hi. I’m a woman in my late fifties, work, have a partner. It’s been a bit of a difficult year as my partner was involved in a motor bike accident and suffered injuries to both arms. The injuries are still yet to recover but life is kind of back to a version of normal. Our relationship changed overnight in which I was thrust into a carers role with him depending on me for everything. It was horrible seeing the person I love most in the world in this situation due to the carelessness of a motor car driver. He couldn’t use his arms properly and it took some readjusting of our lives. I took time off from work, then eventually back to the office as he got better. Nobody did my job for the 2 months I was away. The pressure to get through my work was enormous to me who already was when I look back, mildly depressed and anxious. I ignored it and kept going as to me it would show I was weak. I more felt I had to show a brave face to my partner, so kept it all bottled away. Of course, I was and still am worried about my partner and have had days where I worry about him going out and about. I deal with at times in my job difficult customers. Last week everything kind of came to a head when I think I had an anxiety attack at work. I was embarrassed but in the end spoke to my manager about how I’ve been feeling particularly in the days leading up to this moment. I’ve had these immense anxiety feelings before but there usually triggered by something that’s happened. I think with what this year’s been this has been the result of immense stress I’ve tried to hide from everyone this year. I’m not feeling great but again I’m trying to put a brave face on. I’m at a loss as to where I start to get help and what to do. I thought this is probably a good place to start as I’m sure there’s a lot of you who completely understand. I’m a little scared as I don’t want to get any worse as I want to enjoy life and feel good again.

Hackergirl101 Hello everyone - I'm grieving a loss so I'm looking to connect with others who have especially
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I chose to join this forum because I lost my dad 7 weeks ago today. I feel immense guilt, regret and incompetence because things didn't end well and it feels as though I had no control - despite being the one person who was left with the responsibili... View more

I chose to join this forum because I lost my dad 7 weeks ago today. I feel immense guilt, regret and incompetence because things didn't end well and it feels as though I had no control - despite being the one person who was left with the responsibility of making those decisions. I have a mum (dad's wife - separated for 15yrs) who was very supportive and had tried her best to help with dad's care, and a sister who is estranged from the family who had never lifted a finger to help. So it's basically just been me and mum. Dad was in care and HATED it. I didn't know what to do. I didn't want him in there but he was high care. I'm in my 20's so I'm well and truly an adult, yet I feel as though I was completely unable to make good decisions for dad. I tried looking around, blue care, yellow bridge, home instead. But again, being left responsible for all of this myself, despite mum doing what she can, I was unable to change things. It was a huge burden and I felt completely incompetent. I feel like a failure because dad died. The doctor told me he might die and I thought he was just talking about his current infection. Then a week later, the nurse said his infection was getting better, so I thought it was all fine. But the doctor was talking about dad's general health. Why are doctors so vague? I feel lied to and robbed. Doctors should tell things straight. I could have had him in hospital. Because it was left to me, because I had no idea what I was doing, dad is gone.

Sarah J Help needed
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Lost my husband 12 years ago. My children were 1, 2, 5, 8, 9 and 16. Am burnt out yet have taken on another teenager with no place to go yet desperately needing more help than I can give on my own. My depression and anxiety have not been this bad sin... View more

Lost my husband 12 years ago. My children were 1, 2, 5, 8, 9 and 16. Am burnt out yet have taken on another teenager with no place to go yet desperately needing more help than I can give on my own. My depression and anxiety have not been this bad since I lost my husband. All support I am given is focused on kids and I get they need that but am in need of something for me. Help

Wagtail84 Hello intro
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Hi there you can call me Wag, I’m here because today was a particularly bad day, out of what has felt like a bit of a never ending sea of not great days… I’ve browsed and lurked the forums for a bit on and off before and this does seem like a safe sp... View more

Hi there you can call me Wag, I’m here because today was a particularly bad day, out of what has felt like a bit of a never ending sea of not great days… I’ve browsed and lurked the forums for a bit on and off before and this does seem like a safe space and a place with real peoplegoing through the very real things I feel myself- and seem to be alone in experiencing. I will find time to put my own issues up for advice and support at some point but for now just saying hi and also that if I can add to the placealso I will try thank you

Roscoe_ Depressed
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Hi I'm looking for help as I am often feeling very depressed weekends seem to be the worst , I have feelings of worthlessness and am becoming increasingly more confused I have trouble making friends, weekends are usually spent alone trying to tell my... View more

Hi I'm looking for help as I am often feeling very depressed weekends seem to be the worst , I have feelings of worthlessness and am becoming increasingly more confused I have trouble making friends, weekends are usually spent alone trying to tell myself that things are ok , I go to cafe by myself or the shopping centre for something to do . At work I'm ok most of the time it's after work and weekends I feel that I'm hiding how I am feeling to my few friends and don't know how to ask for help, when it gets really bad and I break down I end up in tears and feel totally useless I have battled these feelings over many years and the past keeps bringing me down and I'm having real trouble moving forward, any help and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Alone77 Listener not a talker
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I've always been a good listener but now at 45 I'm starting to think it's not a good thing. Everyone I interact with seems to want to tell me their life story but at what point will someone ask me about mine? I just feel like I'm meant to listen to e... View more

I've always been a good listener but now at 45 I'm starting to think it's not a good thing. Everyone I interact with seems to want to tell me their life story but at what point will someone ask me about mine? I just feel like I'm meant to listen to everyone else's problems but I don't know how to move the conversation to share issues I have but then I feel guilty that I should be there for my friends so I should be there to listen.

Unknown167 Feeling awful - dieting
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Hi everyone. I’m new here. I have had an awful day. I was doing this diet for 4 weeks - lost a lot of weight and was feeling great. I recently lapsed on my diet and am feeling miserable and guilty… my family is putting a lot of pressure on me to lose... View more

Hi everyone. I’m new here. I have had an awful day. I was doing this diet for 4 weeks - lost a lot of weight and was feeling great. I recently lapsed on my diet and am feeling miserable and guilty… my family is putting a lot of pressure on me to lose weight - putting me down and calling me names. I don’t know what to do. I am overweight and need to lose weight - I was making such progress but really messed things up. It is making my head spin just writing about this… Thanks, Unknown

Jobel Jobel
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Hi Everyone,I’m new here. I’m not feeling so good so I’ve been awake since 4 am and I thought I’d look around and see what help was available for myself as I haven’t really been given any information by doctors or hospital.This page came up.J

Hi Everyone,I’m new here. I’m not feeling so good so I’ve been awake since 4 am and I thought I’d look around and see what help was available for myself as I haven’t really been given any information by doctors or hospital.This page came up.J

LeMac74 49 Soon And Sick Of The Black Dog
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I’m a man, 48, turning 49 soon, I’ve got good things in my life such as a lovely 11 year old child, a non-stressful job that pays the bills and I have a secure roof over my head. Looking back on life, it’s been good overall, I’ve had the usual setbac... View more

I’m a man, 48, turning 49 soon, I’ve got good things in my life such as a lovely 11 year old child, a non-stressful job that pays the bills and I have a secure roof over my head. Looking back on life, it’s been good overall, I’ve had the usual setbacks (relationship breakdowns, changing careers etc). I’ve seen psychologist and taken medication over the years (and gone to Grow). I’ve also drank alcohol (yes, more than the standard daily amount) as it’s ‘helped’. Anyways, I’ve struggled through the last few years and my psychological well-being has waxed and wained. My father who I was close with passed away (relatively peacefully and quickly) in November 22, my mumis in good health at the moment but is getting older, she is the carer of my brother - she is making plans to put him in supported accommodation. Aunts and Uncles are getting ill, dying. I’ve always been aware of my mortality (early childhood existentialist crisis) and I’m in good physical health (and I’m not horrid to look at, I look 10 years younger than my age) but I feel like I’ve started to ‘circle the gurgler’ and it’s scaring me. I have things in my life I enjoy - time with my son, banter with workmates, talking cr@p with pub mates, but true friendship wise I don’t have any close friends anymore. Relationship wise - I go out and about and meet women but it’s getting to the point that it’s all quid pro quo with no real spark in 8 years. I’ve got plans to dive into activity groups and support groups to seek to make friends Typing this out has made me feel better but if anyone has any advice I’m all ears. Thank you.