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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Tiggerbow Sudden and serious return of symptoms
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Hi All, i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a few years back after some family trauma. I worked through that with medications and counselling. I am been happy from then on. Working full time, finishing my degree etc. I seem to have gotten ove... View more

Hi All, i was diagnosed with depression and anxiety a few years back after some family trauma. I worked through that with medications and counselling. I am been happy from then on. Working full time, finishing my degree etc. I seem to have gotten overwhelmed by things lately. I have a chronic autoimmune condition and I think the endless medical appointments and test have brought it to the front of my mind where I usually didn’t have to think about it too much. My husband is being bullied at work and he has been suspended while they are investigating some allegations against him. They are totally baseless and petty but it is a very stressful time. I can’t seem to stop crying and feeling absolutely miserable. I saw my GP yesterday and then attended a counselling appointment. The counselling helped a lot and a felt ok yesterday evening but now this morning I am a mess again. I just don’t know what to do. I want to be a resilient person and just be able to cope with things but I feel I can’t function. I am at a total loss.

Wazowski New Member Introduction
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Hey guys! I am new to the BB forums and wanted to introduce myself! I am a student studying psychology at Monash University and will be helping out with the forums for the next couple of months! I’m also new to Melbourne, moving here at the beginning... View more

Hey guys! I am new to the BB forums and wanted to introduce myself! I am a student studying psychology at Monash University and will be helping out with the forums for the next couple of months! I’m also new to Melbourne, moving here at the beginning of the year from Adelaide to study. In my free time I love to dance salsa and travel! I look forward to reading the posts and contributing where I can. Cheers, Wazowski

JeccaW Hey
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Hello I’m Jessica only my parents call me that. Everyone else calls me Jess. Mom 34 married with 3 kids. 12,10&7. I was diagnosed with social anxiety and depression when I was 22. Just after my eldest was born. That’s when I decided to get help. I en... View more

Hello I’m Jessica only my parents call me that. Everyone else calls me Jess. Mom 34 married with 3 kids. 12,10&7. I was diagnosed with social anxiety and depression when I was 22. Just after my eldest was born. That’s when I decided to get help. I enjoy netball which I play Monday and Thursday mornings. I also do taekwondo aswell. Twice a week. I met my three bffs through netball. I did sports photography for a couple of years and now I gotta push myself

Notsurewhatmynameshouldbe Needing a rant.
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Hey, so I’m new and I’ve never done this before but I guess I’ll just start. I’m currently struggling with my mental health. I’m not diagnosed with anything and haven’t been to a counsellor or anything before. Idk I’ve just moved houses from one stat... View more

Hey, so I’m new and I’ve never done this before but I guess I’ll just start. I’m currently struggling with my mental health. I’m not diagnosed with anything and haven’t been to a counsellor or anything before. Idk I’ve just moved houses from one state to another. It was such a huge move. I was fine with it at the start and after about a year in (about nowish) I’m currently now doing as well as I thought I was. Idk what it is but like,, I don’t have much motivation, I’m in my last year of high school so I kinda need it right now! I am experiencing highs and lows not even just with my mental well-being and how I’m coping with life. For fun I play netball, but lately it’s just getting boring and not at all enthusing as it once used to be. It’s more like a chore than anything. the day before I have my games I am excited to play and then on the day I’m just so low and tired and not wanting to do anything. Idk I sometimes burst into tears when I’m alone. It’s not even that often I just feel lonely and like I need someone to comfort me But I don’t want comfort at the same time. I blame it on my hormones and shit but idk if it’s just that or it’s me. Like my coach for netball she saw something this afternoon and she messaged me not that long ago asking whether I was fine and needed help or anything. And I always tell people I’m fine and good and grand but i just don’t know how I feel and I don’t know what else to say other than that. My friends have noticed it as well but I say the same shit that I’m good and it’s nothing to worry about. Just stress from year 12. just thinking about people even asking whether I’m good makes me want to cry and just tell people what’s happening. But I don’t even know what’s happening. I struggle with expressing my emotions effectively, and I don’t know what to do or who to talk to. I struggle making romantic relationships too I’m not sure why but I just can’t seem to get close to anyone at all. It’s ridiculous. My love life is basically not there at all and I feel like I’m falling while everyone else is growing as adults. I know that I’ll just get ridiculed by my family if I talk to them about what’s happening in my head. I always fight with my mum. Our relationship isn’t the best too. My friends see my nuclear family as perfect and with nothing wrong but since I have only just become close with them they don’t really know what’s up at home. Idk what to do after I post this I might not look at it but at least it’s out there.

Annika_Joy I'm new
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Hi I am new to BB and to forums in general. I am currently experiencing great sadness as a result of what my doctor calls an overwhelming load of grief. I support my elderly parents (demanding father with Aspergers and mother with end stage dementia)... View more

Hi I am new to BB and to forums in general. I am currently experiencing great sadness as a result of what my doctor calls an overwhelming load of grief. I support my elderly parents (demanding father with Aspergers and mother with end stage dementia), and have an adult child who has a serious mental illness and keeps cutting off contact with me for months at a time. I have only seen her children a few times, for an hour or so each time. I have no friends, as I seem to always attract people who need help, then ditch me when their crisis is over. The lights in my life are my son's family who love me very much. I am particularly interested in seeing posts by people with adult children with mental illness who cut off communication repeatedly for no apparent reason. I am also interested in any posts about domestic violence, including how to get over the harm done to your children after the family court ignores their evidence and forces them to spend unsupervised time with sexually, physically and emotionally abusive father. Thank you for making these forums available.

Mollie_59 New member - dealing with new diagnosis
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Hello all. I'm new to the forum. I've recently been diagnosed with severe depression, generalised anxiety disorder, and OCD. I'm in my 30s and have only sought help recently, although I've had some of these issues for many years. Adjusting to this re... View more

Hello all. I'm new to the forum. I've recently been diagnosed with severe depression, generalised anxiety disorder, and OCD. I'm in my 30s and have only sought help recently, although I've had some of these issues for many years. Adjusting to this reality, figuring out medication, and getting used to therapy is such a big adjustment. I'm also looking at a hospital stay if my depression doesn't improve soon. Looking forward to becoming part of the community, hopefully getting some support from you all. Thanks for reading

the_real_you Just introducing myself
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After a very long time in denial about my childhood and the abuse I suffered I finally spoke about this for the very first time with my wife who is a psychologist. I would like to say that I found the courage to do so but in fact my aversion towards ... View more

After a very long time in denial about my childhood and the abuse I suffered I finally spoke about this for the very first time with my wife who is a psychologist. I would like to say that I found the courage to do so but in fact my aversion towards intimacy had left her feeling that I was no longer attracted to her and I could not let this ruin my marriage as well as my childhood and so I talked about it to her for the first time. It was very emotional. She cried, I cried and afterwards I felt as though I had finally turned a corner. It has been a long and strange journey for me to get to this point and I feel that I have gained a valuable insight that I can share with other survivors and I came here for some catharsis and to offer what little wisdom I have on this issue. It took almost 30 years to get to this point and I hope to give more help than I get as true healing comes from within. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

TCrevealed I feel selfish even posting here
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Good evening everyone I didn’t even know where to start with dealing with what I feel is depression and severe anxiety issues. I’m struggling to adapt to city life, myself and my wife have spent several years living a remote lifestyle but city tempta... View more

Good evening everyone I didn’t even know where to start with dealing with what I feel is depression and severe anxiety issues. I’m struggling to adapt to city life, myself and my wife have spent several years living a remote lifestyle but city temptations such as drinking, gambling and losing control of my finances are all creeping into my life. I’m extremely good at hiding my feelings. I cry behind closed doors, I drink to hide pain I seriously don’t know where to turn or where to start. I have a family and friends that love me and I know will support me but I feel scared, selfish, hopeless. Help

Joamy New to forums - Just diagnosed Bipolar 2
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Hi Everyone, This is my first post so I thought I would say hello and see how this works. After a period of severe anxiety and 5 months on medication, I have just been diagnosed as suffering from Bipolar 2 disorder. On the one hand it has come as a b... View more

Hi Everyone, This is my first post so I thought I would say hello and see how this works. After a period of severe anxiety and 5 months on medication, I have just been diagnosed as suffering from Bipolar 2 disorder. On the one hand it has come as a bit of a shock but on the other it makes perfect sense and explains so many things about my life. I work in a very creative field and am also a very driven type of person so my symptoms,which I have covered for many years, have gone unnoticed. I am very curious to know if anyone else out there is more of an extrovert who suffers from anxiety or Bipolar. It surprises me that no-one ever asked of I was ok or noticed that anything was wrong even though I was, at times, in the depths of despair. Medication has given me some breathing space over the past few months so I feel more stable but I have been told that I will need to go on a mood stabiliser. Not sure what that means? Thanks for reading and I hope to hear back from anyone else in a similar situation. Joamy