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Meet your community champions!

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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

HELP..Am I posting in the right section?

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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Feel like I don't know what I m doing

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hi there I am new here, i don't really know where to start,but I feel I have anxiety for long time,I always feel worry that I just can get up on early morning,go to toilet n hardly sleep after that, i feel tired all the time in the morning,and always worry abt when I want to go to work. I've worked in hospitality industry for few years,now I am a cook,but it seems I can't get over it,I mean like i feel like i can't focus and panic all the time esp when it's busy and hectic,then I forgot what I am doing,then can't manage my time. I like to keep myself busy but I have few jobs atm after pandemic but it is now made me keep complaining as well not to have time for myself,but if I don't have work, I got more tired & lazy than being busy. Sorry to be complicated. Somehow I don't know what I am good at, feel useless till my age now. My friend kept giving me advices abt living at the moment,not stress too much,but it is so hardly to do than to say.i think i got short term memory,as i hardly remember something ex : forgot where I put my glasses after few mins to the toilet or room. Everytime at work I feel like i am not good enough and easily wanna quit. Always think i wanna study and change career,and for now I am confuse whether I should go find professional help or find a group community to share my problem,as I am not the person who like to talk my problem with stranger.

Trying to find a path

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Hello Everyone I finally decided to search for help after many years of struggle. I always thought I might have had some issue, but I tried to explain it as being 'introvert' or maybe 'ambivert'. But somehow it never fitted to what I really feel. As a kid I always felt a bit different, often tried to go against common beliefs (like trying to befriend someone who was thought to be a weirdo, admitting lack of interest for all the trendy TV shows or books that I found just boring, having my own dressing style that didn't follow the latest fashion, and so on), I was quite smart and learning was really easy for me. But this eventually caused bullying at school and being 'abandoned' by other class mates in their fear for problems. Home was filled with emotional blackmail, so I didn't even try to look for support there. Relation with so-called 'boyfriend' exposed me to his alcoholism and violence. And some people I thought as my friends, did not bother to respond even when I reached to them. At one time I thought of a quick exit, but the reasonable 'me' managed to take over, and just shut all the doors. I moved out from home, broke up with 'boyfriend', became apathetic to any human actions around me, and just focused on my education. And at that point I believed I had it under control, but how wrong I was. Over the years I managed (pushed myself) to go out to people, met caring husband, found real passion that lets me be involved in the community, but... Recently I had a situation that triggered complete emotional breakdown, and I realized I really have a problem and I seriously need to find a way to manage it. Shutting everyone and everything away, thoughts like 'I don't care' or 'I don't really need friends to be happy' are not the solution. I don't want to hide away anymore. I want to be among people, I want to belong somewhere, I want to have someone I could call real friend and trust with my heart. I want to understand what is going on and what I can do to improve, if not the situation itself, at least my perception and reactions. Right now I actually feel quite calm and collected, and my reasonable mind is telling me that all of this, and the reason for loosing it is just absurd, but somewhere deep inside it hurts as hell and I feel lost.

Scared

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I don't know what to do about my job I work one day a week and that is enough for me and the money comes in handy but the problem is i hate being at work any suggestions on what I can do?

Help with anxiety and worry

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hi im new to this so thanx in advance ive always suffered with anxiety and constantly worrying all the time so ive been to the docs and have started medication the support/help from you guys is how do i help my teenager with his anxiety when im trying to deal with my own? Anything and everything with him worries me to beyond belief some thjngs as little as bejng late with handing things up to school or not going out with friends when things have been planned as a group of them i dont want him to turn out like me...

New to this

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hi all, I am 66 yo and 4 years ago got told I was being treated differently to my brother because I was adopted. First I knew about this. I had been raised in a household where honesty Was paramount, and dishonesty was met with the strap. I now found my life to be a lie. I struggled deeply initially but the love and support of my wife and sons, got me through. Now I am struggling again, deeper, more pain, i doubt myself, lost confidence and can't seem to rid myself of rage and pain. Any help or advice would be appreciated. My mother has since developed dementia and doesn't know me any more so I can't talk to her. Why wasn't I told at a young age......

Introducing me

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Wife and Mum of 3 Working Monday to Friday; school hours I'm really not sure what to add.

Lonely

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I am new to this sort of thing. I live with GAD and depression at times. Finding it hard during these times and extremely lonely. Being winter and cold is also I find problematic for me too. Still grieving for both my parents who passed a few years a... View more

Mental Health First Aider

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Hi everyone, I was made COVID redundant in May and have spent the last couple of months reflecting on my career, re-purposing my goals and re-setting my mindset. I recently gained my accreditation with Mental Health First Aid Australia, as a way of exploring new skills and knowledge in Health and Safety in the workplace. I've been promoting Mental Health and Wellbeing (informally) by supporting myself, family, friends and colleagues through difficult times. Only now I have the formal resources and action plan to be the initial help to a person suffering a mental health problem. I'm looking to be a volunteer in a peer support capacity with BeyondBlue, to gain front line experience and create engagement, meaningful conversation and joyful moments in people's lives. I look forward to connecting with you and making a difference where I can

Really hard time idk what to do

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I’m having a really really hard time this morning, with everything, and I can’t even call lifeline because I live at home ( I have my own room and space tho) and I’m so worried they’ll hear me speaking. I feel so useless, I was injured at work last year and I still can’t work, I have nothing productive I need to or can do. And I’m just lost. And I have no one to talk to, I’ve driven my best friend away

Feeling hopeless, and like a failure for my children

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I have suffered with depression and major anxiety off and on my whole life. It’s been worse the past 2 years since I have had my twins. Covid and my 5 year old unable to attend school in Victoria has really triggered me. Plus I have been very unwell with pancreatitis the last 2 years, but recently it’s been debilitating. With the twins I cannot take my eye off them for a minute, so I am unable to do any home schooling with my 5 year old. Today I just lost it. I can’t speak I’m shaking scratching myself and just cannot calm down. I thought at least I can get her online with her friends to do her show and tell. Got her all ready she was super excited only to find out that, it started at 10am not 11am and we had missed it. I feel like in every part of life I am failing. I have no help because of Covid, I feel alone and over whelmed. my partner either yells at me because I won’t tell him what’s wrong, or when I finally crack and try and tell him he yells at me and calls me selfish and a child and to grow the hell up. I just don’t know what to do. I feel that there is just no light at the end of this tunnel. And maybe everyone would be better off without me here. There is so so much more this is just today. But I just cannot even speak about how I’m feeling to anyone because I don’t know what to say and I would stupid saying it.

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