Battling on but ever so tired

[Chefcancook54]

Hi thank you for giving me the opportunity to talk with someone about the way I feel as now I feel ever so lonely and need of a friend I can rely on as my feelings & communications with Family are not worthy of me no more,I'm not here for sympathy I'm here to chat so I can feel human I work so hard try so hard in life will give my all to help others yet I seem the one to fall flat on my face every single time I'm good hearted person & aleaysbe there for anyone I'm working remote site here in Western Australia I get hardly any contact from my Family I have friends here but it's hard telling them how I feel on the inside yes I smile everyday but deep down I'm not sure what's left in me my family don't seem to know what's it like being away from home long time and working in many remote areas and only going home sometimes I really wish they knew how I feel right now I go to work had my job being a Chef it's very hard I get along well within my work colleagues and put on a braves smile when I get back to Caravan I'm staying in looking at 4 walls no one to talk too then it hurts deep down I'm not in the way to harm myself it's just the loneliess that hurts me it would be nice to chat with someone and knows how it hurts so much honestly I'm not too sure no more I will keep battling along smile be polite and courtesy to people just wish it didn't hurt so much being away and lonely thanks for letting me say my peace I wish all well regards Paul

[blondguy]

Hi Chef

Welcome to the forums and good on you for posting too!

The forums are a safe judgement free place for you Chef. There are many gentle people that can be here for you no worries at all

Loneliness can be an empty 'painful' feeling. Not a very pleasant place to be in. I live alone in the suburbs but just as isolated even with the populous around me.

Can I ask why your feelings and communications with family are not worthy of you anymore?

We are happy to be here for you Chef no matter what you choose to talk about 🙂

Great to have you as part of the forum family too!

I hope your day is good to you

my kind thoughts

Paul

[romantic_thi3f]

Hey Paul/Chefcancook54,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for writing in.

Sorry that you're having a tough time; must be hard working remotely and I can see how it would be lonely. I will just say first up that if you're interested, it might be useful to consider seeing a therapist. They may just have some strategies on how to better cope with that feeling when you're back at the caravan;- like touching base with family via phone/Skype, meeting up with colleagues, going to different places and trying to meet new people, or finding ways to be alone but without being lonely like listening to music or taking up a hobby. Plus being able to see a therapist means that you can let someone know how much it hurts but without being judged.

I also reckon it's important that you know even though you're battling on, there's a lot of people that feel the same way. It's kind of the pro's and con's of remote work. I'm sure behind the smiling faces of your colleagues there's a lot of loneliness there too that people just aren't showing.

Maybe you might want to consider some of the things suggested; whether it's seeing someone or even just finding a few different ways to keep busy and socialise after work to make the time pass quicker.

Hope some of this helps. There's a lot of people on the forums so there's always someone to chat too. You may even find a few remote workers like yourself.

[geoff]

hello Chef, great to be able to talk with you, and thanks Paul and romantic_thi3f for starting the conversation.
I used to manage/own pubs so I know how hard it is for people doing exactly the same as you are doing, it can be lonely will not much respect, or any respect seems to go under the table because you're too busy to take notice.
Loneliness is awful, especially when you do want to have company, but you have to realise that putting on a fake facade may get you over a situation, but in the long run, it becomes too exhausting, and by doing this we are just kidding ourselves that everything is OK, where in fact it totally the reverse, and more you try to cover up your thoughts, the greater the problem becomes.
I appreciate the fact that you're not after sympathy, but in some way you are, and there is nothing wrong with this, because there are times when all you want to do is sit down with someone you trust and have an honest conversation, where in fact this other person maybe feeling exactly the same as you are.
I'm sure there would be other people who maybe too scared to get involved, due to low self esteem, lack of confidence or sitting at the bottom of the pecking order, go up to someone and start a conversation which could lead onto continuing when the time is right, but please keep your thread open so that we can still continue. Geoff.

[ro63]

Hi chef , welcome and thank you for sharing,it is hard being away from home ,I work sometimes in the US and even for 1or 2 months it does get lonely ,it can be difficult to open up to freinds sometimes as you don't know how they will react ,if you do feel like a chat anytime jump on here, and even if you do'nt feel like talking all the time try the bb social and jump in to some word games I find them quite calming ,nice to talk to you paul all my best Ross.