Apparently It's Okay not to be Okay

MMonroe
Community Member

Hi

I'm new here. I suffer from Depression & anxiety.

I have a great husband who is very supportive, my kids all understand and my friends & family are all very supportive. We live a very happy healthy life and both have great jobs. (Though I'm taking some time off due to the way I'm feeling as I just can't cope at the moment)

i just don't understand how this has happend!

Apparently It's Okay not to be Okay, but not being ok has consequences ...
I'm not ok, what if taking to long to feel ok is too late?

Trying to put into perspective of what to do.. I know what's right but I "just can't"

What's happened to me, I've lost myself,
Seriously FML!

3 Replies 3

Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear MMonroe~

I think "It's Okay not to be Okay" simply means that one does not have to pretend, put on a mask or deny what is happening. It is definitely not OK simply to leave things at that point. Recognizing you are not coping is just the start.

There are times when I've not been able to face life, or do ordinary things, or much of anything really. At the same time things became overwhelming, the fact I was not doing things was a major worry, and all the "what if's" in the world would start. It was caused by my depression and anxiety taking over and running my thoughts and feelings for me.

It may not come on for a reason you realize. As you say your life seems fine, and the people in it supportive. Unfortunately that does not count for much in this sort of situation. I'm not sure what you meant by saying you know what to do. In fact I'd say you need to seek help straight away before things have a chance to get worse.

I would suggest you see you GP, have a long consultation and use it to set out exactly how you feel. If you think that might be hard or complicated write it all down, if you can't then print out your post. The important thing is the doctor understands the depth of the problem. If you are already under treatment you can work with him to alter your regime -a normal thing to do.

Of course if you are not under treatment then now is an excellent time to start. The correct medical support made a complete difference to me, and I'd imagine it will for you too.

Being able to talk with someone that understands is a big help as well. I know you said kind things about your family, is there anyone in it that can actually relate to what you are going though?

As for taking too long to recover, that has not happened yet. Also there are priorities, your health and well being cannot be skimped on, if it takes time it takes time. When you are recovered you can face any resulting problems with optimism, confidence and your family's help.

Please let us know how yu are feeling and getting on

Croix

BballJ
Community Member

Hi MMonroe,

Firstly, welcome to the forums.

Croix has given some great advice above and I just wanted to jump in and add my 2 cents for what it is worth. Having battled depression & anxiety for around 10 years, the on-set was quite sudden and out of the blue, I have since worked out through a psychologist that a lot of it stems from unresolved family issues from when I was younger. The hard part about mental health is it really doesn't have a time frame for when it starts or when it stops, having a support network like you do is so great and that should give you more motivation to beat this. I will just re-ask a question Croix asked above, have you spoken to your GP about how you are feeling?

You can get through this and reaching out on these forums is a great first step towards it as there are many cases on here of beating mental health issues.

Please, post back as much as you like, we are always happy to talk.

My best for you,

Jay

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni
hello MMonroe, I'd like to welcome you to the site.
It's been a couple of days since you posted so I wonder whether you are still checking your post for replies because it's important for us to know so that we can try and help you. Geoff.